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Cake day: July 29th, 2026

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  • Was in a similar situation with an Ex, she got super into insta, which on its own was fine but it was difficult to deal with how worked up she’d get for what seemed just so mundane to me. There was some new random cause or social issue every other day and every issue was black and white, just 2 sides, no expectations.

    It reminded me when I was a teen on FB in the early years where everyone seemed to be some form of slack-tavist. People seriously underestimate how much these apps and algorithms can effect others.



  • I honestly don’t get how so any people feel they have a leg in this race.

    Personally haven’t been on any of the major platforms for years, but as an outsider looking in, I blame social media. It openly encourages this kind of mob behavior and amplifes the most insane voices with reckless abandon.



  • Unrelated, your name made me chuckle, thanks for the smile.

    To the point, I’ve noticed that too, it’s so overwhelmingly obvious that none of the support she’s getting is authentic, it’s clear people are using this for their or culture war nonsense and it’s concerning as the precedent this case could set can have some serious consequences.

    It feels like a lot of people aren’t taking this seriously, the arguments/discussions people are trying to make around this can snowball into something disastrous.


  • It’s a weird situation, most insanity pleas are fought with the defense having to prove they were mentally unwell and incapable of being willingly responsible for their actions but because of the lead up to the crime, it’s being handled in reverse.

    She killed those kids but doesn’t want to go to jail and pleads not guilty by insanity so she wants to be institutionalized. The plaintiff argues she wasn’t insane and was in control of her actions due to how functional she was till the last minute before the crime would have been possible as she orchestrated the conditions to allow her to commit the murders. It’s an interesting case that’s getting muddled by the publics personnel beliefs and is also being co-opted for political purposes by right-wingers as proof the 19th amendment was a mistake.

    It’s insane to see how we even got to this point but it’s being compared to the OJ murders for a reason.



  • There is a tiktok movement that believes that despite all evidence and witness statements, phone logs, and surveillance footage that somehow the husband is responsible.

    This is supported by vibes, astrology and folk magic, it’s very strange. The court case isn’t even about who’s responsible for the murder, it’s about if the Defense has a valid insanity plea to keep her from jail or getting institutionalized.


  • If I had more confidence in myself I’d love to make a tutorial or intro vid to get people started but… I’m not motivated enough to ignore insecurities.

    As for your last question, I’ve seen such behavior before and I think it’s sort of group self-defense mechanism at play. I 've not been on the web too long (compared to others), a sort of gatekeeping through obscurity is what keeps everything safe from those that would “ruin the vibe” of things. Which yes, it keeps advertisers, bots and other undesirables out but also it’s what’s keeping people from even trying to join, let alone stay.

    I recall feeling a similar way towards Reddit when it first launched, seemed like everyone just wanted to seem smart, snarky or too cool to deal with each other which kept me from getting on it for years. I think the issue isn’t so bad here on most servers, barring a few unusual examples I’ve seen, I’m optimistic that as our numbers grow things will only get better as a whole.


  • Nothing to apologize for, wouldn’t have commented if I wasn’t willing to converse.

    So far, I’ve enjoyed my time here, functionality wise I think things are great as is and have plenty of room for improvement but the biggest issue FV is currently facing is how small the population is. Unfortunately an issue that can’t really be “fixed” without time and effort but mostly time.

    I understand where the “ghost town” comments come from, and I think it’s folks just not knowing how to navigate the site or expecting the site/sites to cater to them. For this same reason we don’t have as much spam, bots or engagement bait, so I think it’s a fair trade, you have to want to be here to really figure things out.

    Off the top of my head, I think some sort of tutorial or intro to help people get started would do wonders for those curious but intimidated from trying out FV.