I have been recently diagnosed as autistic, and now I seem to see autism everywhere in my social circle. My brother, a daughter, at least two friends. . . Either there are a lot of undiagnosed autistic people out there OR I tend to become friends (more comfortable) with fellow autists, OR I am just being silly and am attributing autism to NT people with strong interests. Fellow neurodivergent folks of all types, what is your experience? (Edit: changed ND to NT. oops!)
I would consider the inverse to seeking them out at first.
You tend to avoid people you don’t “click” with, are draining to be around or don’t accept you. Meaning you sort them out, until you have the people left that you are comfortable around, which are often other NDs.
And then it switches around. You increasingly enjoy their company and THEN you seek them out more and more, while the prospect of spending time with NTs becomes less appealing.
Eventual result: NDs attracting each other