• Kecessa@sh.itjust.works
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    1 year ago

    If it can reassure you, it’s not an active thing, our brain just sees signs and does the interpretation of how the person feels all by itself, only people who really studied non verbal language can push it further and start to analyse little things like pupils becoming larger even when lighting doesn’t change just because the person is interested in what you’re saying or people playing with their hair more than usual when attracted by the other person…

    I had a communication class in university and the teacher was a psychologist specialized in non verbal communication, it was super interesting the few times she talked about it!

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      If it can reassure you, it’s not an active thing, our brain just sees signs and does the interpretation of how the person feels all by itself

      This varies from person to person. Personally, I’m alexithymic. I had to study body language and facial expressions actively in order to stop being completely blind to other peoples’ emotions/mental states. I solely relied on verbal communication to interpret peoples’ intentions for the first 25 or so years of my life. Made a lot of shit really hard!

      Doing much better these days though.

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        1 year ago

        Oh yeah sorry, I should have specified that I was talking about the majority of the population where it’s something that just happens without thinking about it unless you’re looking at very specific cues…