I believe the problem is never showing evidence, but that the evidence is overwhelming. I could explain the general idea and, maybe, one or two specifics. People that use the XX/XY binary argument wouldn’t be able to explain either, but it’s usually only used because it conforms to a bias. And we are only talking about humans here. Language would implode if we tried to maintain convenient binaries and still back it up with science.
I should have the right to refer to myself however i want. Insert the same argument about bodily self autonomy here.
This is not the same. This is like shouting a slur on a bus. Even if you aimed it at yourself, it can still cause harm to those around you.