• SillyProgram@lemmy.autism.place
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    2 months ago
    1. Do you mean in conversations, like people don’t get what you are trying to say?
    2. You could also mean that people don’t appreciate how you are and aren’t more understanding towards you.

    To 1.: When there are misunderstandings in conversations, it really depends on the topic and person… For example, today I had to explain to someone how some preferences in a sound mixer worked. For that I tried explain it how I saw it, but when I saw it didn’t work, I tried different methods of describing it (metaphors of generally known topic or a more broad description). Also a lot of people seem to make more an effort to understand, when they feel like you talk to them in a way, that they also feel acknowledged and accepted.

    To 2.: In general, I have learned, that a lot of people are trying to be more understanding of a person if one invests themselves in them in some way.

    You could also have meant something else, that I missed…but hopefully this helps somehow I’m by no means an expert on this, probably more the opposite. This is just my experience.

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        2 months ago

        Everyone’s got their own problems. When they’re done dealing with people (even trivial like just talking), that’s less problems for them and that’s why few people are investing their limited time on you. In their eyes, why should they care whether they fully understood you or not, they don’t have any drawbacks usually.

        • Kyle Judd@lemmy.autism.placeOP
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          2 months ago

          I bet. It’s hard to make friends with people on a day-to-day basis unless you have a job like me. My boss is really nice and so are my coworkers but that’s it.