or maybe some other terminology would be better? lots of people get confused when you ask them to choose an instance, sometimes I think even the word “proxy”, “host”, or “hub” is simpler
the specific terms aren’t my point, just a discussion to see if we can come up with a better name
It’s arguably used wrongly on Discord, but not in a way that’s radically different from how I already thought about “servers” in the sense of “something you connect to”.
It seems more like a term they picked because it has that familiar sense. Otherwise I think there’s a semi-official term, “guild”, too.