Okay, so I know the clickbait-y title was a bit cringe. I’m 27, I’ve been a real estate agent for 3 years now after dropping out of college, and managed to bring myself up into the “luxury” market of real estate in that time. I’ll make just below $300k this year, which I think is pretty decent in this current economy of the US. My issue is, and I’m hoping many of you in this sub will be able to advise, is that I’m having an extremely hard time finding like-minded men to surround myself with. As mentioned, I just turned 27, I make 6 figures, in the gym at 5:30 6 days a week, got the nice car, etc, etc, etc. Now a lot of my clients I would consider friends, but they are all in their 40’s+, so not exactly my IMMEDIATE friends, I guess. My main friend group consists of the guys I’ve remained in contact with since high school or college, who are already acting like their retired and spending all their free time doing absolutely fuck-all, inviting me out to the clubs/bars at 10pm or later Thursday-Sunday, have ugly gf’s, talk about how nice it is that their job is wfh allowing them to play video games and watch Netflix the majority of the day, etc.
I honestly feel like I’m going crazy. I’m thinking of business ideas 24/7. I’m constantly looking for the next venture. I wake up extra early to watch Bloomberg before I start my day. I’m sure many of the men on this sub have similar mindsets, are you always this lonely? Do you always feel this isolated and individualized? If not, what type of efforts and where did you meet your “tribe”? I would do anything to be able to have someone to bounce ideas off of, or even start some new venture together, but I feel so isolated in my ambition.
Hi, i’ve been in situation like you. All my old friend are loser, this is what i was thinking before. I thought they are wasting their time, even a simple business plan cant be executed well.
Then as i am older (well im still young actually) i see not everyone has the same passion. In your friend mind, you are the loser one. I try to reconnect with some of my old friend why i think they are loser, and found out i am the a**hole :D
What i did in that time was, i try to find some new circle, it took me around 2 years, changing from one circle to another circle that fit me. Lucky, i found one, and im thinking i will stick with them until i grow old.
And also, dont put the mindset that you are a “winner”. Some people out there more “winner” than you, and they are stil learning, still hungry, and still foolish. IMO, that mindset is toxic and will make you trouble someday