If you were in your early twenties and could do it all again what direction would you go? What do you wish you had done earlier? What advice do you wish you had gotten? What would you tell your younger self?
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Make sure you enjoy your life. People get too worried about their work that they forget to do normal life things
All the mistakes and failures you went through are whats required to being where you are today.
Network and get involved in as much as possible.
You aren’t expected to find your passion or career right out of Highschool or college. Very few will end up in the career they chose.
You can lessen that time by taking as many risks as you can as often as possible.
Meet new people in varied fields. Ask questions, ask to get involved.
What does that look like? Networking events at school or your current job. Friends functions or work functions. They would always love to have a chum tag along.
Search out your interests online, follow through with some classes or training. Most are free online to some degree.
Just general exposure to as much as you can stand. Something will click. Someone will take to you, offer you an opportunity. You may create an entirely new space from ideas of having such varied experiences.
Easier said than done. But if attempted? Geez.
Experience life. Go out, meet people, network, travel.
Exactly. Even on this grind set- which I love and appreciate- I’ve had times blow up in my face because I put all my eggs in one basket. Not saying you should just hang out with friends all day, but definitely make time to be friendly with your friends, experience life (travel, try new things), explore yourself (try new hairstyles, tattoos, etc), and try out different hobbies, passions, and potential careers. There’s a lot of unknown that if you fumble over it you may find you don’t even really need a heavy grind set to attain your dream life.
And either stay single or get a Partner
^ this.
I made low 6 figures when I was 15. That deluded me into thinking that grind/hustle culture was the way, and that I should sacrifice nearly all forms of entertainment and life experience until my 30s in exchange for working on gigs and side businesses.
Now I’m in my late twenties. On occasion I did travel, meet people, went out (concerts, bars/clubs, etc.), just to get it out of my system - and while it wasn’t necessarily for me - there’s something special about it because it’s something you can really only do in your 20s without feeling out of place (nobody wants to be that guy in their 40s at the club).
I definitely wish I did more of it - especially travel. Nothing beats travel.
I will say that the other experiences, like getting drunk, partying, clubbing/bars, concerts, definitely felt shallow and wasn’t fulfilling for me. But you want to at least do it a few times to have that in your memories, like you see in the movie Project X.
I know people are saying date as much as you can, and while I didn’t do that, the few times I did date… was rough. Young women in their 20s are hard to have a genuine connection with. They’re often very addicted to social media or just trying to do what all the ‘other’ girls do. So that’s a mixed bag. And be careful dating a self-abosrbed, untrustworthy or narcissistic girl - she’ll only cause you headaches. Doesn’t matter how hot she is. But you learn a lot about what you want in women. And seeing the relationships that many other guys in their early 20s had with women their age, let’s just say I was not envious.
Was the tradeoff of life experiences for work worth it? Yes and no. I’ve still built tons of business skills which have helped me in my career and will help me begin my soon-to-launch business, but I also feel like my 20s were a blur of just heads down and work - and that i could have cut down my work time by 30-40%.
It’s also possible that if i got too much into the ‘have fun’ mindset, that it would have derailed my momentum. Who knows.
To OP, try networking and going to conferences. I wish I did more of that. Also, spend time with your loved ones, friends, get into a fitness routine NOW, go out and date a few girls (but be careful), learn how women & dating work by reading about it online, have fun, travel, explore … I also wish I did more things like sporting events or marathons, sporting events/finals, etc.
and for things like concerts/bars/clubs… even if it’s only once or twice, at least you won’t have any regrets not doing it. Just wasn’t for me though unless you’re really into that and not a homebody.
you are damn amazing for starting so young and being this wise this young, i am 19 yo but i just started my entreprenarial journey and as you said the more you are into it the clearer its get that its the right thing to do, i am gettig to know a lot of amazing people in online, and successful as well, its has been only a month now but all i can say is i couldnt be more happy of discovering myself and exploring my interests , i am now considering to get a small budget of 300$ and quit my 9 to 5 job to get completely into it! any advices, tips or information would be very helpful!, such as networking groups, mentors, important courses to take, subject and topics to learn about (eg: sales, economics, marketing?)
But see mate, if we want something then some other thing should be sacrificed right. So your sacrificed but still managed to have some fun in twenties and now you are having a financial stability. So your hustle was worth it right. Nwo you have your thirties and forties to enjoy.
^ this There’s been times I went to a rave because I was always so envious of being “normal.” My brain was like a dog that wouldn’t let go of a bone. I went to one and it was whatever- but I’m glad I got it out of me. Otherwise it would’ve been a constant nagging “but what if I went to it.” I’m butt ugly, so dating’s not really my thing, but I’m still glad I tried to ask out girls and get rejected because again, you can delude yourself with thinking what if. Even now, I still do things younger me couldn’t do because I’m realizing that balance is necessary; but if you have an inkling to do something just do it. Don’t get lost, keep control and your main focus down, but just try it. You never know what experience you can create or what experience you can be glad you got out of your system
Be in shape and ask them all out.
Do it all tomorrow because now , we got hella time.
Learn or earn, if neither move on
Simple. I like this one.
Move to the single best hub for your industry, wherever that is globally.
Go straight to college. Get a internship. Get a full time job. Right now I’m broke because I made a lot of dumb decisions in my youth
Same here brother… I don’t know what the fuck in doing now. Things are ok but reading people’s comments here… I’m like shit… maybe it’s not ok…
Teach Yourself a few basic things.
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Consistency and grit beats almost everything when it comes to getting ahead.
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Motivation is what gets you started, thats about all its good for. Determination and discipline carry you the distance.
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Slow down things take time. Usually they take longer than expected, dont be in a rush to get 10 steps ahead focus on where you are and take the next appropriate step.
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Get fit and strong early and turn it into a lifelong habit.
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Theres a difference between cramming content and information and actually absorbing it. You will get more out of applying the concepts from one self help book than you will out of mindlessly reading and motivating yourself with 100 of them.
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Learn how to learn. learn how to focus and control/understand your emotions.
This is straight-up the best, most concise advice and it’s what EVERY young person needs to hear. 👊🏻
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For business advice I’d tell myself to be more stringent on who to give equity. Loyalty and friendship are valuable but keep business decisions separate, value your time and energy, and pay yourself a salary for your time!
Number ONE: do not make any long term commitments until you’ve done some things.
Number Two: Real estate investing and general contracting are two careers that do not require degrees or licensing (depending on where you are of course), and they both can make you very wealthy pretty quickly, if you’re willing to learn a LOT and work yourself to near death for a few years first.
Number three: move away from home and learn at least two other languages plus ASL. Dead people will tell you damn near anything simply because you understand their signing.
I would love to speak with dead people. Never thought they’d have much to say but yeah, this makes sense!
Hahahahaha I’m not even going to fix it
Learn sales before anything else.
Where did you learn it?
If you get a d2d job you’ll never look bad
Learn marketing before sales. Gotta get the leads somehow lol
Well yea marketing is important too, but sales is sales. I build my first paid marketing agency with cold calls. Didn’t have enough money to market. So ya sales helped!
Unless my goals in life revolved around a technical skill like engineering, etc. I would not have gone to school. I also would have gotten a job in sales - literally any sales job. It’s A LOT easier to get experience the younger you are as more people are willing to take a risk on you.
Most of an entreprenur’s job is sales.
I would’ve moved to a new city sooner. Whether for college or just on my own accord. I stayed at home for most of my twenties and the perks were that I was able to save 70% of my income and I was able to travel a bit because I didn’t really have big adult responsibilities anchoring me or my finances down (besides my car note).
Now that I’m finally adulting into my late twenties, it feels like I’m often playing catch up. I moved to a new city a few years ago and it was and still is a tough transition. To go from little to no bills and freedom to having every penny count is exhausting and things keep getting more and more expensive, but that’s another rant.
The point is that most of us go through struggle transitioning from our very first move and in hindsight I would have rather gone through it and gotten through it and when I was younger. Back when I was full of spirited hustle and surrounded by young ppl my age all in the same place and building a close nit circle in my new city.
Now, in my late twenties (which is still relatively young in life) things are already different. People my age are having kids, starting families, buying houses and already into their careers. Meanwhile I feel a bit left behind and it’s tough not having a support system of friends since it’s much harder to make new friends later on in life. especially when you’re in 2 different stages in life.
Staying home is absolutely great if you intend on staying in your home town forever. But since I always knew I wanted to leave, I would’ve ripped the bandaid off sooner.