I feel like we have some fundamental value differences so when I find someone who’s like me, I get really happy.

How do I find them?

In hostels 99% of people are actively into drinking

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    damn good luck. it’s very difficult to find that. people always look at you in a weird way when you say that. a bit odd but I used (as a girl) bumble friends to find like minded people on that point

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    I don’t stay at hostels, which helps. I choose to stay a bit longer per place, so i can rent somewhere which often turns out way cheaper.

    Staying in hostels 365 days per year would drive me insane.

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    Go to an AA mtg. Seriously. I met a girl in Tulum who was in AA. Then I found out a half dozen of our mutual friends were in it too. I had had no idea. Very warm an welcoming place there at least.

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      Wow that’s so strange. Someone should start a Friends Anonymous franchise to meet new people!

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    Try bath houses and saunas. Met lots of folks in the ice bath at Amo SPA in Canggu or the steam room at the Istana in Uluwatu. A lot of people go there every evening instead of visiting a bar.

    Other activities I’d recommend are yoga, HITT and breath work classes, entrepreneurship meetups or worshops.

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        Lol not wrong. I do the same thing though in other places 😅

        Yunomori Onsen in BKK Vabali in Berlin Archimedes Banya in SF

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        That’s only if Mom/Dad/Family Trust Fund is paying for the luxury spa membership [not a bad price, tbh]. If they’re paying their own way, that would be a departure from the typical Bali-flunkie.

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    Find the local running club that runs in the morning.

    I find people aren’t drinking as much, but vaping seems much more common.

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    Digitwl nomads don’t stay in hostels. That’s more of a backpacker thing.

    Can you hang out with people who drink but just do other activities where they are not drinking?

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    Skip the hostels. Outdoor who don’t drink tend to do morning stuff like running or yoga or other physical activities. I’d try those.

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    I try to stay in more alternative hostels if I have to but prefer private accommodation for this reason. Meet people at gym classes/yoga/health cafes.

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    Haha I wanna say find a Muslim traveller but then some people just have different persona when they travelling… haha

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    How do I find people who don’t drink while I’m traveling?

    I don’t drink while you’re travelling. It’s my annual sober spell.

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    Honestly, what do you love to do? People are recommending different activities, but if they’re not your jam, you’re just going to be bagging someone else’s bread. No sense going to a certain activity if it’s not your thing.

    What’s your intention? You can meet people anywhere. In a grocery, on the bus… It’s all about your energy and frequency. I meet people randomly and regularly that way. And usually if I remain open to the possibilities, I’m surprised by the outcomes. Suspend your expectations. Vibe as someone you love and you’ll find your people wherever you are (“wherever you go, there you are”). Divine timing will arrange it.