Anyone else get burnt out / depressed over being perpetually unsettled? Granted, yes, I know this lifestyle is a choice; I’ve been trying to build home bases but I’m having a hard time finding places to settle between visa + housing logistics and finding the right communities.

I lived full-time in Bali for 3 years (cliche I know) but things there have really changed since the borders opened after covid. I’ve been hopping around since last year trying out new places to settle down and I’m just feeling down about it all… But I also don’t want to move back to my home country either. I don’t feel like I fit in there anymore at all but then again I also don’t fit in the traditional life of any other country that I’m not from hahaaha AHH

Anyone feel me? I don’t really know where to go anymore and it really has me in a funk. I realize this is a massive first world problem and yes I am so very grateful for my freedom, plz be kind

  • PlsBanMeYetAgain@alien.topBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    Part of the problem is you need to invest a bit into the country to really tap into the community and feel connected…for most places that means learning some of the language. It’s a hard thing to do unless you spend significant time there, but what if you do spend significant time there and decide you don’t like it or can’t make friends? Maybe better to aim for countries where people are known to be easy to befriend…Mexico, Colombia, Brazil, the Philippines, but it depends a lot on your personality too (I found it very easy to befriend people in Hungary & China for example but they are not countries known for friendly people), so keep traveling around until you find somewhere that clicks.

    I DN’d for 5 years full-time and then got a year lease in Bangkok, where I spend 6 months/year. I wouldn’t say I was that burnt out on traveling though, I just got really busy with work and needed to focus on it more seriously.

    • Prinnykin@alien.topBEnglish
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      10 months ago

      What do you do with your apartment in Bangkok when you’re gone for 6 months? Are you allowed to sublet it?

      • PlsBanMeYetAgain@alien.topBEnglish
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        10 months ago

        I don’t think I am allowed to sublet it, but I probably wouldn’t sublet it anyways, at least to strangers…I store my stuff here and am not interested in playing remote landlord. I tend to come & go a lot - I’m not usually here a full 6 months, I’ll stay here 3 months, then go to Japan, come back for 3 months, then go to Europe, come back for 3 months, etc…