Now if only it kept me away from the Wikipedia rabbit hole haha

For me personally, having to reboot is part of why I like my dual boot. I have adhd, so it’s good to keep gaming entirely separate from anything productive.

It’s what decades of intentional suppression of education paired with propaganda will do to people.

Afaik sex worker is preferred over prostitute

I don’t really get how hurting an animal and then NOT eating it, just for fun, is better than killing for food

The question is still to vague. Obviously all of his politics were the worst. But the way it’s phrased, you’d kinda have to agree he wasn’t ALL bad if, for example, he made a pretty tasty pasta sauce. Like. Not that it’d be relevant. It’s the vagueness of the question that I’m critiquing. Maybe I’m just having an autism moment.

as a European aren’t affected that much by it

I’m hoping, against all odds, that you’re right

It’s that the marriage rate has been too high for a long time.

Absolutely wild that crossing the street where there’s no crosswalk was ever illegal. It’s hard to wrap your head around how impossible walking is in some places.

Reminds me of one of mine. In the middle of my lesson, my instrument teacher paused to ask me some questions: can you tie your shoes without looking? Do you have trouble unlocking your door in the dark? Etc. Turns out I have little to no muscle memory lol.

Try to order pickup, if you can go by the restaurant on foot/bike/public transit and physically/mentally can. Not just because of traffic reduction, but also because those delivery apps are usually super predatory and get away with paying sub minimum wage through some legal gaps.

If deliveries by car can be a small part in making it possible and comfortable for some individual to forgo owning a personal car, it’s still a net plus. A major chunk of the environmental damage a car does is in its production. Taxis are better than individual cars for the same reason. Also, they’re usually not delivering only one meal at a time, like you would if you drove there yourself.

Very true, even in a less life/death situation. Example, a piercing hurts much much more than stubbing your toe, but people, myself included, keep coming back for more of them.

It’s a good, important step that you know this about yourself. But yeah, for both of your long term happiness, as well as for your friendship, it’ll be very important to talk about the kind of relationship you have. Even if it’s super tough and mightn’t have the outcome you’d like. But the resentment it would inevitably breed if you couldn’t date because you don’t know where you stand with your friend wouldn’t be healthy for your friendship. Maybe it’s easier to not do it all at once?

Either way, your situation sounds tough. Best of luck to the both of you!

Bit of a different take from many of the other comments.

Relationships don’t have to be the way they are traditionally. You don’t have to be monogamous. You can be in two relationships, one of which is romantic, one of which is a strong friendship with sexual aspects. It’d be under the polyamory umbrella. There’s plenty of potential partners out there who are ok with or would even want this kind of a constellation.

The very important caveat though: even more so than in any other kind of close relationship, this requires a LOT of communication. You need to clarify with your best friend what kind of a relationship it is that you have. You don’t have to label it, but you have to figure out together what you want from each other and what your boundaries are. The latter includes what kind of relationships you’re ok with the other one having with someone else. Then, when you date someone else, you have to have the same conversations and be open about your other relationship(s). I’d be upfront about the latter, the former can happen over time.

If none of this sounds like something you’d want, that’s of course perfectly valid. The point stands though that you need to clarify with each other what you want from your relationship and what your boundaries and needs are. This might mean having to change your relationship dynamic.

Some context: my best friend and I are super close and find each other sexually attractive, but aren’t romantically interested in each other. We’ve talked about that and keep checking in. We’ve done some second base things and cuddled. I now have a partner that’s decidedly monogamous. Now, I might still lightly cuddle with my best friend, but we wouldn’t kiss anymore. Those are all boundaries that had to be talked through.

Imo what’s key to a cosy game is that you choose within the game how much you want to challenge yourself. Take stardew, for example. My mum was content just farming crops. I went into the difficult mines with lots of combat etc. You can enjoy the game if you don’t do the hard parts, or you can do them sparsely, or all the time. You choose, and that’s what makes it so relaxing.

I’m not a hardcore gamer, but usually mostly into RPGs. But I’ve also got hundreds of hours in stardew and thousands in the Sims. When I play one of those, I’m always low key scared to grow bored because I LOVE those games and I know that there won’t be another good one right around the corner.

When I got bored of Skyrim, I played the Witcher, and when I got bored of that, I played Fallout. Repeat ad nauseam, because there’s more playable, entertaining RPGs out there than any one human could play in a lifetime.

With cosy games, not so much. When you grow bored of one, chances are, there won’t be another one that’ll be enjoyable to you at all, and you’ll have to hope and wait that something good will come out at some point.

You keep saying ‘clarifying what she meant’ everywhere. I just don’t get where you get that that’s what she meant. She just said she sees a bias against pro-Palestinian protesters. That’s not implying the bias has anything to do with Judaism at all.

There’s many such nickname based on trumps fake tan. We can’t really claim superiority on the nickname thing. It IS funny though.

I’m not neurotypical at all, you can’t tell with a lot of us if you don’t talk to us

Omg very similar here! My best friend, who lives oversees now, is coming to visit for 3 weeks. It’s been about 2 years since I’ve seen him. If I didn’t know him, I wouldn’t think it possible for another human to understand me on such a fundamental and intuitive level as he does. I’m stoked!