Honestly, I wish there were proper places for people like us. I don’t have the grace to write as much and as well as you, but you hit the nail right in the head, and see the whole picture.

And that stuff happens pretty much everywhere, I got lucky I am autistic, bisexual, got raised by a very hands-on dad, and therefore, far more open to male bonding than your average guy.

The whole system has flaws, and most people are too blind to see we are all being pitted against each other and farmed for content, attention and ad revenue.

I would like to find a true MGTOW community without bullshit strewn in. Last time I tried joining a community of that sort, all their looksmaxing stuff made me feel very uncomfortable. I’m almost 40 and a little bit pudgy, but I’m happy with my current body.

Maybe you should, your work is good, man

Ready to eat hot food that is cheaper than the ingredients to make it, is not a luxury.

Especially if it can be refrigerated and made to last for over a week, used to supplement other foods such like chicken quesadillas, chicken soup, broth and chicken salad.

Having to prep and cook is such a narrow minded way to look at things, and a way to look down at what people do to survive.

Does the fact that I can just bite into a tomato and eat it without preparation or cooking make it not a grocery? Hell, I can even do that with oatmeal if I’m down on protein and fiber.

That’s horrifying, I love it

Nope, reskin of an old comic.

https://pbfcomics.com/comics/book-world/

Just like a lot of animal rescue videos. Horrible, heartbreaking animal abuse, staged to look like an act of heroism.

I used to watch those videos on YT a lot, until I suddenly pieced it together, that two cats had the very same markings, and figured out what their scam was, I felt so disgusted I ended up making a massive rant and telling every person I knew for months.

Not for a lot of people, sadly.

Bright side of Lemmy, you can say fuck. Downsides include, death of nuance, dogpiling, herd behavior and people who try to take down others.

That certainly happens too. But it is not 100% schedule, at least where I have worked, they use a risk matrix based on multiple factors including risk, pregnancy length AND personnel availability, to keep themselves from overstaffing, and that way keep the spending and budget margins under control.

I can’t speak for every hospital, of course, and also there are psychological factors at play, such as the fact that telling a patient vs asking a patient gives far better and more streamlined processes.

Even if done with good intentions, often times it is not productive or time efficient to explain everything to patients, so they don’t have time to argue. And while that is absolute bullshit, in my opinion patients should be informed of all relevant information, most people are not logical and rational while they’re at the hospital, and this does not limit to expecting mothers.

Patients when given a chance, don’t always choose treatments by success or survival rate, they might choose riskier, more expensive alternatives when faced with amputation, and the psychological effects of this on medical personnel are massive. Most doctors, when they lose a patient, lose sleep and confidence, they spiral into “I could have done this”, “I should have done that”, and often times letting a patient choose against what them as doctors consider the best option, and getting a bad outcome, makes them psychologically vulnerable for a while, because the medical professionals feel they weren’t convincing enough, and that even if it was the patient who chose what procedure to have, it is still their own fault.

And that is only one of the reasons why healthcare worker burnout is so prevalent and risky. Most people lack the emotional fortitude not to carry those decisions with them, and that is why medical professionals are taught to be professional, clinical and distant, and can be read as them being aloof and uncaring. Because the more one connects emotionally to a situation, the harder the emotional recoil will hit us if it has a bad outcome.

It is common, to a point. And part of why it is seems as not necessarily something to worry about is due to the widespread intervention of medical professionals requesting the patients to be induced.

There are far too many variables in placental health and viability, and the risk increase after the 42nd week is SHARP. Plus, we don’t have the technology required to live monitor the placental health closely enough to take chances.

So, it is a lot like measles and polio, we don’t think much of them because of how prevalent immunization has become, but if we lower the protocols, that is when death counts start rising fast.

Would you kindly read the article you linked? It literally says the entry is for COJONES, not CAJONES.

This is just like some Americans getting upset and doubling down when people point out that Colombia is the name of a country, and it is not spelled Columbia(Unlike the several places called Columbia in their country).

Edited to add the screenshot.

I always had issues with that phrase. The first thing I would do is go to the hospital, since that is a sign of a massive hernia. Also, cajones means drawers or boxes, the word you’re looking for is cojones.

When using aphorisms, please try and Google them.

A pet peeve of mine is gratuitous and incorrect use of my native languages.

Damn, that is both unhelpful and pedantic as fuck. Still got no clue of what that makes a reference to. Congrats?

Wow, pretty salty for someone threatening bodily harm on a post you made about harassing people. Glad your stuff got deleted tbh, nobody needs to see that. Get help.

Super easy to assume when you’re no actually betting. Or finding a 5,000 page dissertation. But of course, moving the goalposts, claiming it was a hyperbole, grandstanding and virtue signaling without actually checking yourself for biases is all what most people do, on any end of the sociopolitical spectrum.

And tagging anything you disagree with as neckbeard, incel and other derrogative, thought ending cliches, while defending blanket statements about entire groups of people, hard to believe the cognitive dissonance doesn’t make more people uncomfortable.

Edit: And the main reason why you hardly ever see any sexist comment like that about women here in Lemmy is because a lot of people, me included, report them on sight, and the mods are great at removing them, as well as rightfully so, banning the offending users.

Feel free to test it out if you’d like, make a post or a comment like that about women, and watch it dissappear. Because sexism and bigotry should have no place here. And it is very health to actually test your theories and biases.

And you sound like someone who polices choices, swallow the onion whole, feeds the trolls AND takes ragebait at face value.

I truly hope you get to see the world and yourself with kinder, more reality based eyes one day.

I point out shitty behavior, no matter the source. Hence why I am pointing out your very shitty behavior, that you’re too biased to even comprehend.

Open garbage can > Look in > Mostly garbage.

How very insightful of you, mate.

There are some amazing people in FetLife, and in Grindr too. But like I said before, looking at the very bottom of the barrel and judging a whole gender based on it, that is beyond stupid.

Ugh, casual sexism. Look at the bottom of the barrel, and judge an entire gender by the way those behave.

A lot of guys, gay or otherwise, don’t think or behave like that. And by your own definition, you’re also the worst. Sucks to have that terrible self esteem, but don’t lump me up with your self-hating ass

Thank you for being the voice of reason and your patience with some people. A lot of people succumb to The Toupee Fallacy (A form of selection bias in which a thing whose quality is measured in terms of being difficult to detect is wrongly judged to be of poor quality in general, caused by the fact that most people only notice poor quality instances of it.).

I stopped showering every day for medical reasons and under medical supervision when I was young, and that really helped with my smell(Turns out I had both a fungal infection, and a hormonal disorder), and the habit stayed. My hair and my skin do a lot better, and due to the nature of my job, I would certainly know if I smelled, since I am often meeting clients and other team leads.

Having a bidet, applying deodorant daily and changing my clothes daily as well, added to working in climate controlled spaces, away from the sun, crowds and smelly habits like smoking are all factors that some people seem incapable of even considering.

But of course, this is Lemmy, where nuance often just fucking dies.