I just did, same age as you. I’d never changed my hair color, but the clean look and tradwife fashion and whatever need some stronger counterculture (I was already dressed in black all the time).

It’s surprisingly easy! You need to be careful with the materials, but other than that, it is doable at home. My hair is dark pink-orangey now. I’m loving it.

This guy… I hate that his name is the same as the novel by William Godwin. I had a period of trying to google information about the novel and the character, and my friend here made that very difficult.

These elites have some bad apples, huh?

Careful. As in other debates concerning Latin America, magically people outside the region see all the good of colonialism. “Stop crying. ‘America’ is now the name of a country, even if stolen from your territory”. “Mexico lost half the country just as every other country lost territory in the past”. “The Falkand Islands belong to Europeans because they claimed them: simple as that”. “Well, if you didn’t want to lose sovereignty, maybe you should have been stronger against illegal tactics from the CIA and others”. Just precious.

Luckily, in real life (not a meme) we don’t have to choose.

I agree with your observation, and I’ve also met a couple of problematic people in those spaces. Maybe our humble help in this fight is to spread awareness about the importance of mental health, to help the people we personally know, to normalize the idea that we need some psychological stability in order not to hurt our efforts, etc. Perhaps even become mental health professionals so that we build a net of trusted professionals.

I’ve talked in this account about people I know with ASD, NPD, PDD, etc. I just saw a person with NPD/NP-traits go into “remission”. They no longer behave as they did: manipulatively, fearfully, etc. They’re happier and finally building strong connections. I believe it is possible for more people within our circles; not all cases, but some cases.

I love the memes and the bat photos.

My first attempts were so painful that I stopped the situations. It was frustrating. I was a crazy teenager, so my amazing plan was to “fix” that problem myself with an object. It worked, I never felt pain again, but it’s definitely not the recommended thing to do… I agree with the rest of the comments: go see a doctor.

Edit: In case it wasn’t clear, my problem was probably my hymen, but my method is not the correct approach. Visit a gyno.

This is the answer in a pragmatic sense, in our day to day. It works, it’s fine. The thing is our tastes are not 100% natural and spontaneous, they can be influenced by context, and that context can be problematic. So the extra step these discussions are asking us to do is beyond the pragmatic or useful day to day advice you gave. It is questioning why we have those tastes. “Why don’t I like natural cis women?”, “Why am I not attracted to black people?”, “Why do I refuse to date trans guys?”. Etcetera. If we find it is not because of prejudices, societal expectations, 'must be’s from unequal societies, or anything like that, then it’s an unfortunate coincidence but we can move on. But if we find something like that (those things I listed), it is not necessarily permanent, I think most of the times it can be worked on, changed, and these discussions are also an invitation to do so.

It makes sense to me because they’re describing in a simple way the thing that they don’t like. If you ask why, they’d probably tell you the reason. “I don’t like the way anime looks” or “I don’t like the Japanese approach to storytelling” or whatever…

Some survived. Rarely, but I lurked using Now for Reddit during these years. Now I guess it’s browser Reddit until they block it like X Twitter.

16 de septiembre (Día de la Independencia de México) or Día de muertos, please. Both have parades now.

My grandparents both lost children. It sounds weird to specify, but they were children from different marriages. They shared this coincidence. My grandmother had this sort of incident with the body; I think my grandfather only received the news. Both developed illnesses now suspected to be caused or worsened by stress: cancer and Alzheimer’s. They were sad people after their losses, very sad people. I do believe it slowly killed them. Just anecdotal evidence of the damage of losing a child…

If you worry about being a narcissist, you are not one. A narcissist would never introspect like that or care.

False. If you suspect narcissistic personality disorder, it is completely valid and you probably need to research the vulnerable side of it or the covert side of it.

Grandiose is the one with an inflated-ego, the famous one, and the DSM-5 describes mostly the grandiose narcissist. Vulnerable is the one where you feel like a misunderstood outcast or a victim of others, maybe even like a “stupid piece of shit” (quoting Bojack Horseman) that possibly deserved your hardships in life.

People with NPD or NPD traits can oscillate between different levels of these two presentations throughout their lives.

Overt is when you show that in ‘public’ (either grandiose or vulnerable). Covert is when nobody knows or can confirm you feel this way (either grandiose or vulnerable), it’s more of a secret.

In recent years, I’ve met people with undiagnosed NPD later confirmed and a person with diagnosed BPD with not enough narcissistic traits for a diagnosis, but some important ones there. That’s only to exemplify that it is not uncommon. I’m glad they were curious and open.

It’s crazy to think that a whole diagnostic category and clinical spectrum is in the shadows because of that myth: “you wouldn’t be thinking about it”. Of course you would, person receiving that “advice”, you are not an idiot and I’m sure you are noticing something about yourself. You deserve to know if it’s NPD or some other thing, and to get help and to feel better about your life.

DOTA 2 players might be the meanest. The game includes a reminder at the beginning of the match just for regular players to be nice with new players. That tells you a lot about the community (and, of course, the reminder is mostly useless). The match-accepting button gives some information and tells you the way your allies and enemies (in a single grade) normally behave, and pretty often they are in a red color that says “disruptive”. It’s bad. Unhinged chat and sometimes voice chat.

¿Alburero, gótico y lemming? Eres una extraña combinación.

I have something like this. Nothing Was the Same by K. R. Jamison is about grief and about her experience of losing a loved one. I’m saving it for the moment I lose my parents. I know I’ll need her to bring some consolation and perspective because it’s going to hurt.

The Others (2001), The Orphanage (2007), 1408 (2007), The Skeleton Key (2005), A Dark Song (2016).

Yup, I would like to see the Californias united.

We have three pieces nowadays. North California (Alta California, today’s “California”) and South California (Baja California, today broke into two). Two were already bad… Let’s move into one, please.

(But don’t let the US administration get ideas).

I was going to answer that Mexico as it once was, from current US southern states to Panama. Then, the northern US states, Canada, and Alaska could be their own tranquil cold lands.

Maybe even a division by old territories and languages so that Bolivar’s dream came true. From old Mexico (New Spain) to Cape Horn (or whatever the southernmost point lies). I cannot say that country would have been better than the USA (in terms of atrocities, wars, etc.), but I’m still curious.

Also, Brazil not imposing Portuguese to their citizens. They used to speak a criolle language, if I remember correctly. If a kind Brazilian reads this, maybe they can correct and explain it.

Fake stupidity or ignorance, just a little. Otherwise, you risk getting people on their defensive sides (e.g., doctors, lawyers, architects).