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  • You don’t mention the most important part of the above comment: asking her how she feels to have something stolen and asking how she thinks someone who’s had something stolen feels.

    That’s different than telling her how someone would feel. The point is to develop empathy. At her age she should be capable of theory of mind. You want to focus on developing the skill of modeling others’ feelings in response to her own actions.

    Get her to think about how someone else feels rather than tell her. This shouldn’t be just an exercise for hurtful actions, either. It’s equally important for good feelings. “You gave me a hug! That made me feel so good inside!” “Look at that puppy. I wonder if he’s happy?”

    “I wonder” is a powerful way to unlock someone’s brain to expand their consciousness about the world around them. It gently invites them to follow the path you’re trying to lead them on and it shows you how they are seeing the world. People naturally like to have the answer especially when someone else displays some ignorance.

    (“I wonder” works on everyone, not just kids. It’s especially helpful with people with dementia.)


  • I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want to avoid your MIL. I also think it’s reasonable for your wife to maintain the relationship.

    Can you use her visit as excuse to take a vacation—alone or with friends—or visit your family? Given the circumstances, I think avoidance is a perfectly valid option. Get some you time if your wife is cool with it.






  • LordMayor@piefed.socialtoFunny@sh.itjust.worksDear Amazon
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    9 days ago

    Waiting for a toilet seat to be delivered is really more efficient than getting one in the mean time while you’re already away from home in your car? Or out to dinner near the home store?

    Only IF you drive and it’s the only thing you go shopping for and the only reason to drive.

    If you really can’t plan your shopping trips efficiently then, maybe.

    Walk. Bike. Stop on the way home from work.


  • LordMayor@piefed.socialtoFunny@sh.itjust.worksDear Amazon
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    I can understand Amazon or other online stores for some things but toilet seats?

    Come on people. At a physical store you can actually touch a toilet seat and know what it feels like. I guarantee no one needs a particular brand of toilet seat. Also, toilets seats are relatively dense. It’s environmentally unfriendly to have them shipped home.

    This applies to many products.