PapaSkwat

I assume you have already looked it up after writing that; I would have a temptation.

Not yet. Still no temptation

You mean comments?

Yes, I meant your replies in this thread. I have no idea what your post history is and no desire or reason to look it up.

May I ask what exact part of my post lead to her suspecting I was one

Just the way you are replying to everything and being overly analytical on everything. You seem to be trying to attack this problem like a programmer who is programming something. Dude, real life ain’t like that.

I’m sure you already know some of the issues with your personality when it comes to things like this. And I’m sure you have noticed how many of your replies have been downvoted.

You are totally free to do what you want. But many here are giving you good advice based on their more rounded life experience. Yeah, you can go and say it all assumptions, we’re wrong, we don’t get you, we don’t know you, etc.

How much dating experience do you have? I have dated a lot, and I am not a great looking guy. So I have had to depend on my personality to date. And the way your personality comes across in this thread, isn’t one I have ever seen be overly successful when it comes to relationships or social interaction.

But you are right about the fact that we don’t REALLY know you. So let ur freak flag fly and do what you want. You asked for advice, but there is no law that says you have to follow it! :)

Yeah, change like that does require self-reflection, which a lot of these types just don’t know how to do.

Out of curiosity I read OP’s post out to my gf and she wondered if he was an incel. LMAO

I’m not saying he is one or anything, but yeah, there is no way this is a good thing for OP to try and do.

Romeo and Juliet never got to live as a couple. Were they not in love?

Dude, they weren’t real. That was fiction, not a documentary.

No relationship, no love. If what you’re feeling is as strong as you claim, then the correct word would be infatuation, or possibly obsession.

Exactly this!

Yep, my stalker has his main account that he follows me with, but he starts new accounts to pile up the downvotes on my comments for a view days, then he either gets banned or he just deletes them. But he always calls me the same weird nickname in them to make sure I know it’s him, so he’s not even trying to disguise himself. It’s weird! LMAO

Oh, and my stalker is downvoting my comments in this very thread. LMAO Right on schedule! (Hi NewPerspective! Your lemvote. org stats - Total post upvotes: 1. Total post downvotes: 1644. lolololol)

Like who the fuck has such a sad life that they obsess about someone on Lemmy of all places? Oh, the exact same kind of people we’re discussing! The lack of social interaction just messes with their brain.

On another note tho, I wonder if they can be taught to change that. I know brain elasticity is a thing, and people can learn new habits, but i wonder of stalkers like that can rewire themselves. Are there any former stalkers who talk about that transition?

I know that some socially awkward people can focus on themselves and sorta get over it, end up dating, marrying, getting along with others in the workplace, etc. But I wonder if the extreme ones like stalkers can. I gotta look that up!

IMO a big, post-internet, problem is that people aren’t experiencing foundational relationships as children/teens that were the learning experiences to prepare people deeper connections like marriage.

Agreed. I started noticing it on Reddit a few years ago, and now that a new generation is reaching adulthood on both Reddit and Lemmy, it’s even more obvious. More people are reaching their 20s without having developed the social skills and real-world experiences that previous generations picked up naturally.

Society has always had socially awkward or isolated people, but technology has def amplified the problem. When I was younger, I spent most of my time around other people because there wasn’t an easy way to retreat into a digital world.

That constant face-to-face interaction forced people to learn how to socialize, resolve conflicts, and build relationships. Now too many people are missing out on that.

The number of socially maladjusted people online today is crazy now. I also think that besides just more social awkwardness and lack of marriages, it’s leading to more stalking and fixation issues for those same people.

I’ve had people obsessively follow and harass me on Lemmy just because I post news articles they don’t like. Not new behavior, but the scale of it seems greater than ever.

When people struggle to form meaningful connections and feel little control over their lives, online conflicts can become an unhealthy substitute for real accomplishment or social belonging. Which leads to less relationships, and more stalking and unhealthy obsessions.

And a special shoutout to my personal Lemmy stalker, who will want to downvote this comment. A perfect example of my point. Hopefully this discussion causes him to self-reflect and refrain from doing that so he can move on. EDIT: He didn’t refrain. Hi, NewPerspective. lol

Some of the people here are family men who actually do know what we’re talking about.

Some of the shit I read on Lemmy always suprises me, until I remember that. lol

I think those of us who actually have been married, have families, and have been in working society for a while are pretty rare here on Lemmy.

The way a lot of posters on here talk, makes me wonder if they have even been in relationships before.

Once ya have kids to provide for, and learn how shit works, perceptions about the world become a lot more realistic and focused.

Great point. Man, I wish I would have known this in my 20’s. The world doesn’t run on logic, AND it can severely punish those who think it does. lol

But even in my 20’s I wasn’t quite as naive as OP seems to be based on his replies in this thread so far.

No.

Dude, let’s be real here. She doesn’t share the same feelings for you, and never did.

She won’t think this is cute. She won’t think this is romantic. She won’t see you in a better light. Move on. Doing stuff like this, are the cringe things that annoy women.

Just move on. This isn’t high school, so why do you wanna continue being the awkward high school guy? She’s not you’re freakin soulmate. lol

Focus on finding the right person for you and stop tripping over stuff that’s in your rearview mirror.

And for the love of everything holy and unholy, stop doing awkward shit like this! Your post is cringe enough, but hey, at least you are thinking before you do it. But your posts, are making me think you haven’t changed at all.

I read your post out to my gf just now, and she rolled her eyes and said, “Oh god, one of those guys. Is he an incel?” Then laughed.

I’m not saying you are, but most people are gonna have the same reaction. OP, you are way too old to be acting like an awkward teen. Stop.

Maybe if they are determined enough.

It’s a perfect example of the reason why I post pics of places that I’m not really at and that I’ve never personally taken.

I have a Lemmy stalker, and I love randomly planting fake personal asides in my texts so he has no idea where I really am. Like this morning when I took a stroll along the riverfront and posted some pics of my nice peaceful walk. The light rain was so pretty, and we really needed it in this area after the hot weather. The mountains are so pretty here in this light!

He always falls for it and tries to say he knows where I am, while dropping hints about me and saying I need to watch my back. Dude isn’t even right about the country I’m in, my gender, or what nationality I am. I have never given an honest clue about myself on Lemmy since I’ve been on the platform.

Every single thing I have ever said about myself to anyone on here under any username, is completely false. :)

Winding him up with so many false clues is kinda fun for me. It’s like an enjoyable psyops hobby. He falls for it every single time.

Then he’ll get mad, ragequit Lemmy, and say he’s done with the platform because he thinks I’ve ruined Lemmy. Then comes back on and resumes stalking me few days later, calling me the same made-up nickname he created for me (based on a Reddit post that also wasn’t me) while swearing I am a bunch of different posters that I’m not.

No idea why he thinks I am so many different people. Other than he tries to read all my fake clues which he then associates with other posters I guess? He thinks most of Lemmy is me now. Ya really can’t use logic w guys who get obsessed like that.

So OP, never post anything that is real on here. Way too many unhinged people.

Check out the downvote I got for this comment. He showed up right on schedule! His voting history on lemvotes: Total post upvotes: 1. Total post downvotes: 1644. lolololol

Claim it as hobby income.

Blue :)

We just need to ban cars on half the roads.

So much this!

Good thing I’m finally car-free now! I even got a little rolly cart for my shop trips. Now if we can just get rid of all the other cams.

Like the millenials that still play Pokemons.

Which is weird too.

I’ve definitely outgrown most of the movies, toys, and videogames that I enjoyed as a child. The only people I know who play and love minecraft are kids of my friends. Even my daughter outgrew it, and she’s 15.

how old were you when you first started playing it?

So why would a 30-year old adult still be playing a game he played at 13? I understand 13 year olds playing it, I don’t understand 30-year olds playing it