Sex. Neurodivergent/nerd social circles often have a lot of kink/BDSM and otherwise sex positive people, so my friends group is pretty open about sex.
I’m on the asexual spectrum and would rather forget that sex is a thing, but I love my friends and as long as everyone is consenting and safe, I’m happy for them. I sometimes get awkward when sex convos happen around me, but hey, I get awkward with many other convos too.
My company offers parental leave (generic, not gender-specific, and applies to adoptions as well as giving birth). Everyone I work with expects people—men included—to take it.
A guy on my team took his a couple years ago and now with his second child recently born, he is applying his lesson learned. Instead of taking the time as soon as his kid is born, overlapping time off with his wife, he’s letting his wife take her full time then he’s taking his. That way they stagger the full-time care of the newborn for about 6 months straight, after which his wife will be done teaching for the summer, meaning more like 8 months straight.
Another coworker (Director level) had his latest kid December before last. Our busy time is January to April, so he delayed and took his time off in May or June.
Fuck companies that don’t support it and the small-minded people who think men shouldn’t take it. I can understand how challenging it can be for a small business to support that kind of leave, but as humans we should care more about supporting the next generation than a couple hits to productivity at work for 2-3 months. (I write as a permanently child-free person.)
What you’re missing is that the people you work with are stuck in the mindset from 2 generations ago. Don’t buy in. Taking your leave IS supporting your family; you’re doing it right.
I agree the wall is convincing and that it’s not surprising that the Tesla didn’t detect it, but I think where your comment rubs the wrong way is that you seem to be letting Tesla off the hook for making a choice to use the wrong technology.
I think you and the article/video agree on the point that any car based only on images will struggle with this but the conclusion you drew is that it’s an unfair test while the conclusion should be that NO car should rely only on images.
Is this situation likely to happen in the real world? No. But that doesn’t make the test unfair to Tesla. This was an intentional choice they made and it’s absolutely fair to call them on dangers of that choice.
I’d combine both metaphors: police have keys and deadbolts are banned.
The “good guys” CAN get in, and the bad guys can easily break in.
The other thing I’ve recently seen pointed out is that they don’t have doctors administering it. Given the doctor ethos of “do no harm,” they can’t be involved and keep their license. So it’s just a bunch of underqualified people trying to figure out what to do.
Full transparency: I haven’t fact checked this myself, but it seemed feasible when it came up so it stuck with me.
lol, well I appreciate the confirmation it wasn’t my group of weirdos!
Any chance you know where this meetup was?
I ask because I’m wondering if I might have been there but, like, before it got to…this. I used to attend weekly reddit meetups at a bar in Houston and they also held a larger meetup (maybe annually?). I went to that once and the location looked kinda like this. But I don’t recognize anyone in the picture and definitely didn’t experience anything like what’s shown…
I did make a lot of friends that way. When I moved away I tried to start something in my new city but it wasn’t big enough to catch on. I did meet a couple cool people though, and ~10 years later I regularly have one of them and her husband over to paint minis about once every other month. I guess my point is that not all reddit meetups got this weird.
Alternatively, they do think of their loved ones but through the lens of, “their lives would be better without me.”
I can’t help but wonder if her bullies may have made this poor girl think she might be responsible if her parents faced repercussions from immigration policies. Regardless, it’s a tragedy that a life was lost so young and it’s inconceivable that the school took no action that may have prevented it.
You must live in a big city and not fly a lot of places then… Flights from where I live are nearly always that size or smaller.
Not really one, but at work multiple times I’ve proposed a solution to a problem and someone else (generally with more influence) had a different idea that I knew wouldn’t work well.
The best approach I’ve found is just to ask them questions, “What happens when ___?”, “How will your solution handle X?”, etc. As long as they engage honestly, I’ve been able to get them to come around to my solution.
It’s slow and tiresome, but is a good lesson for me on how to work with other people. I’ve already thought through all those questions before proposing “my” solution; I sometimes need people to get on the same train of thought.
Or heaven forbid something in the software allows it to print the right vote but record the wrong vote. I’m with you: no paper trail = not a paper ballot.
“simplejack” = “Jesus”? I’m not seeing it.
Wow, thanks for sharing. I was definitely under the impression that skeletons could be identified with at least a reasonable amount of certainty. (Though maybe what I thought I knew was that women who had children could be identified?)
Either way, I appreciate the links!
Fair enough on your use of air quotes!
This disease is stupid. Before my first surgery I had six tiny little lesions, like smaller than a cigarette burn. And yet they caused debilitating, near constant pain.
Small correction as one of those women: hysterectomy is rarely a cure for endometriosis. What’s necessary is a skilled surgeon fully excising every endometrial lesion, which are frequently places other than the uterus. If there are endo lesions on the uterus, it can help.
However, adenomyosis is commonly comorbid with endometriosis and can be just as painful, and the only cure for that is a hysterectomy. And the only way to actually diagnose adenomyosis is to do a biopsy on a uterus after a hysterectomy.
(I say as someone in the process of planning my second surgery for endo, with a hysterectomy this time because I don’t want babies and might also have adenomyosis.)
Sadly wasn’t sure which one you were referring to with your last statement. I guess there aren’t public allegations of rape against Musk, just sexual harassment. Fuck this timeline.
Before I noticed the source, I just thought, “Badass!” Then I had the same question as you.
I know it’s possible for conditions to be tied to federal funding (like how interstate funds were withheld from Louisiana until they raised their drinking age to 21), so is it just that the Executive branch can’t impose that? (Genuinely asking since I’m not sure.)
So there’s a lot of research suggesting neurodivergence has strong correlation with LGBT+ and there’s some indicating the BDSM correlation (not saying they are the same/related, but people who are in touch with themselves enough to identify as LGBT+ are more likely to be open about sexuality in general in my experience). It’s so present in my various social circles that I’ve connected nerd & neurodivergent and thought of those as the common factor.
But I realize there’s another commonality I hadn’t considered: they’re very community-oriented and attend community gatherings. There are three groups I’m thinking of: one has a ton of burners (not actually Burning Man, but smaller local variants), another are Quakers (and more specifically those who attend large regional/national gatherings), and the last are people who religiously attend DragonCon.
Maybe that has more to do with the sex-positivity and openness than the nerd piece? I don’t know. I just know I’m surrounded by it somehow, lol.