I have been using xrdp on the “server” and remmina on the “clients”. Both ends worked beautifully “out of the box” (i.e. apt install). Occasionally I might have had to open the firewall for xrdp?

I never see this kind of stuff with XFCE. I run various flavors of Debian that do not go through Ubuntu.

X is the naughty letter (rated X) in S3XY which is also the four tesla car model letter. 12 year old humor.

One of my biggest gripes about Windows was updates, virus scans and compatibility scans running autonomously while I am trying to get stuff done, sucking up network, drive access and CPU. I didn’t need Ubuntu doing the same thing to me - I want to kick off updates manually when I am taking a break for lunch or at the end of the day before shutdown.