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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • I need to wear glasses, and when I switched from square frames to round frames I swear people were less scared of me. Nobody wears glasses to a fight so you look less intimidating, and larger, rounder frames make your face look softer.

    Wear slightly fancier clothes, I’m not saying wear a suit but buy some cheap button-down shirts, maybe tuck it in.

    You seem focused on your face especially. Learn how to do makeup. I believe a little eyeliner can make you seem kinder. (I don’t use makeup myself, so you’ll have to find someone else to teach you / verify this.) Done properly, nobody will notice the makeup.

    Voice and gait training might also help. I have a theatre background and I know that there are ways to look more intimidating without actually changing your appearance, so you could probably train yourself to do the opposite of that.

    Temporary but very effective fix, look at your phone. I’m a big guy myself, and if I’m waiting for a bus in the middle of the night and there’s someone else there who seems nervous, I’ll just read (or pretend to read) something on my phone. Instantly reduces your threat profile to nothing.