Jabugo for the win! It is such a special favor it feels almost… obscene idk. But I agree, it is the best.

Being a parent has been a journey filled with all sorts of stuff. First off, I knew I did not want to be a teen parent as my grandmother and my own mother were. I wad absolutely terrified of that. When I met my now spouse, I knew I wanted to have a baby with him because he is awesome. We waited until we got our degrees and were more financially stable. We were so eager to meet the baby and wanted it to exist so much. When baby was born we were overjoyed and tired of course lol. I remember the baby days in kind of a fog, then kid turned to a toddler and so on. Being a witness to my kid existing and allow myself to be the kind of.mother I needed when growing up has been the highlight of my life. I absolutely love seeing kid learning New things, laugh together, talking about hard stuff etc. But mostly, knowing that I can always be kid’s safe place and that I did not create my kid, we both have created each other along the way and we keep changing, but our love is always there burning bright.

Fellow artist who sometimes gets impostor syndrome from time to time: I would love to see your work if you ever want to share.

Exercise. I mean I hate it but I crave it and I am not a skinny person by all means so it is something that I do for me and how it makes me feel.

Members of the emotionally immature parents club, unite! Thank you for your kind words it has been very painful but at the same time friends and other people have showed up for me in ways beyond what I could imagine. I am determined to end the cycle of hurt and take on emotional intelligence.

That I have to grieve a living mother. That I will never know how it feels like to have the warm embrace of a caring mom no matter how much I yearn for it. It has been sad but so liberating at the same time.

We don’t celebrate valentine’s day so just staying home doing weekly chores.

Inu-Oh. I don’t like musicals but this one stole my heart.

That one has been in my bucketlist since it came out and I have not been able to watch it yet. It looks great!

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1.Went very very VERY low contact with my nparent, which is something I would have never imagined doing when 2025 started and I feel so proud of myself for having this boundary. Being a people pleaser in recovery, feels like I can exhale again. 2.Got my very own atelier where I create and keep busca just on my art. It took me thirty years! And I love having this New space.

“Am happy” breaks me everytime

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Oh boy! I got one of those too. My condolences to you. I know how exasperating it is to have to endure all those “I wish I had your mom. You are sooo Lucky she’s your mom” comments while dying inside. And yeah, smear campains are their thing when they are no longer in control of you, so they control the narrative. I lost all my maternal side of the family brcause of this, it hurt like a mofo but it worked out for the better for me and my husband and kid♥️ Right now on the road to no contact after years and years of grayrocking. Safe first✨️

Housework. Anyhing from putting away coats to doing the dishes, etc

The trees are very eye drawing, love your pic!

Try using “I” statements instead of “you” statements, for example: “You make me feel so angry” is blamey, accusatory and points a finger to the other person and most people stop listening after feeling attacked.Instead use “I feel angry when: __________” And then name whatever the reason is as neutrally as possible: I feel neglected when the dishes are left out, I feel unheard when I get on my car and the tank is empty, I feel hurt when I cannot express my concerns, etc etc. In my experience this works in two ways: The other person does not feel attacked and might be willing to actually listen and work on whatever the issue you peeps are having.

Oh! Another big one is to come up with a don’t interrumpt method that works for you.Some people use the pillow turn, some people use a timer but the most creative I have seen is that whenever this couple of people needed to discuss whatever issue, they would get out a bowl of some sort of snack be it grapes, chips, etc. And the one chewing was the one listening, whenever chewing was over the talking person would stop and exchange places lol.

What I personally use with my kid and SO is to have mutual agreements before starting a serious talk, for example: " I love you and want to work together with you to solve this, we are both smart compassionate people, it is not you versus me, it is both of us against the problem."

In a not so loving enviroment, the agreement and approach would be different:

" OK I am here to talk about ______ I want us to solve this and will do my best to achieve that as I hope you do too. I will not tolerate being insulted, yelled at or patronized. If unfortunately any of those things happen during our conversation I will be leaving the room and we will have to reschedule at a better time that works for both of us"

Hope this helps, you got this!

Durum was my jam!

Absolutely.

I too have the needle fear whenever I get vaccinated or blood drawn I get super anxious and I have passed out a couple of times… then I also have several tattooes. I can’t explain why those do not bother or scare me.