Chav does not mean “working class people” and is not a “slur”.
You’ve got to be the same person with the chav fetish looking for a “polite” chav synonym for your romantic interests and then attacking people.
If you don’t like that word, don’t use it so much.
Awesome, thanks very much for the recommendations. I am already hooooked on Mother Howl, like bags under my eyes for starting the novel before bedtime hooked. All the familiar ordered madness I’ve been missing for so long is back!
Oh, had no idea they made a movie. Desiree, 2014, on my watchlist. Not a great name, certainly not as good as Dermaphoria. It’s been so long since the book for me though, maybe the film will be fun. Fingers twirled.
Yea, I totally agree about the book. Once you figure out what the hell is happening, it’s incredibly engrossing.
I’ll look into your other authors as well, I haven’t delved into that genre in a long time. Any recommendations on where to start in them considering how highly I regard Clevenger?
I was crazy about Craig Clevenger when Contortionist’s Handbook came out, i think i read it twice in a row, and liked Dermaphoria, which got me into Baer through Kiss Me Judas.
Handbook was revolutionary for me, i completely fell into the story and that primed me for dermaphoria, which i remember as more abstract at points, which made it easier to be absorbed by some of his prose.
I remember after Clevenger I was like “more books like this please” and they were really hard to track down or specifically identify, so it took me a while to find Judas.
I see Clevenger finally released a recent third novel in 2023 that i have to read now, so thank you for this memory jog!
Hakeem, why do you hate libraries?
Yup. Great point.
Now you know!
You took a shot, didn’t hit it’s done, somewhere in there is something you can use to positive effect in the future.
If it goes through, it goes, if it doesn’t it doesn’t.
If you’ve already upset her enough that she’s cut contact, she likely won’t respond either way.
And either way, you can let her get back to her life and try to become a positive experience in other people’s lives going forward.
Dang, it’s pretty common behavior, unfortunately. I’ve been guilty of it.
You’ve recognized your manipulating behavior; that means you can change it.
It doesn’t sound like you should interact with this woman you’re referring to any more, because an apology may not help her with what’s already happened and being around you at all could upset her more.
But the world is big and keeps going on. You could try to make amends by being supportive and helpful to other people, even those you don’t know yet, counter your negative experiences with positive ones.
Maybe one day after you’re more in control of those manipulative tendencies, the opportunity will come up for you to apologize.
If it doesn’t, it doesn’t, but you can become a positive experience in people’s lives going forward, regardless.
Yes, questions you know the answer to is a good option, but the way the person answers you can confuse the truth anyway through indirect methods.
Are they making you doubt your own experiences and memories so their story becomes more plausible?
Do they suggest their poor behavior is actually your fault?
Any time you bring up an issue to someone and rather than directly addressing the issue, the person brushes aside the issue to focus on a new topic, especially one that implicates or blames you, that’s a huge red flag signaling manipulation and you should be on guard.
If they keep doing it and you find yourself stuck or trapped in the conversation, maybe admitting guilt you aren’t sure you own or even agreeing with something you know is incorrect, the sooner you leave, physically just walk away from them, and keep walking away, the better.
If you’re getting turned around in a conversation, the longer you let them tell you stories, the more convincing those stories will become and can harm your wellbeing.
Do you mean expose them as a liar?
Questions you know the answer to is certainly a viable method to determine who’s’ lying.
To be a catty bitch: oh no shit?
The comments by Americans recently recognizing their shitty government and issuing sincere warnings to people who have been aware of the American peril for decades reminds me of student drivers earnestly explaining how important turn signals are to their driving instructors.
How recently did you learn not to trust the US government that you think it is news to anyone?
They’re asking where you report fraud.
The FTC is where you report fraud.
Cult personalities aren’t just another criminal any more than they are just another person.
They used their charisma and cunning to influence people, and unless they’re manson-level, many cult leaders do a few years in prison, get out and then do what they were doing before but more quietly.
Rarely as a kid, but I pushed for adult discussions when I got older because otherwise I would never talk to them and it was clear they wanted to talk to me.
They only wanted to talk about inconsequential things, which is boring so no thanks.
So whenever I talked to my mom or dad after like 25 or something, I resolved to only talk about things I was actually interested in, and to cut short in consequential conversations and steer back to interesting topics, things I normally didn’t talk to my parents about (drugs, relationships, philosophy), and eventually one topic or another got their attention (my mom told me about smoking pot in high school), and I continue trying to be as honest as I could with them because I don’t want a relationship with someone comprised entirely of small talk, but I don’t want to ignore my parents either.
I definitely think there’s a correlation between how you’re brought up and your relationship with your parents now, my parents implicitly taught me not to bring up consequential life topics to them as a child, and I had to recognize and actively fight against that terrible lesson as an adult in order to have any sort of mature, human relationship with either of them.
Proves the falsity of inevitability.
Hopelessness and cynicism is very hip and demonstrably incorrect.
“never!” they cry, as the first Muslim Democratic Socialist is elected mayor of New York in a landslide.
Chav does not mean “working class people” and is not a “slur”.
You’ve got to be the same person with the chav fetish looking for a “polite” chav synonym for your romantic interests and then attacking people.
If you don’t like that word, don’t use it so much.