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  • I think there is a lot of misunderstanding in the world about the scale of the USA’s problems, what individuals in the military do, what caused them enlist, how our population is orders of magnitude greater than most nations and how that has such a powerful effect and consequence to our democracy / republic.

    I dont go around making these wild claims about other nations but many folks outside US see no issue for to make uninformed, inflammatory statements about us.

    Its easy for them say : military bad Its true but not comprehensively true, as if it would be so easy for us to just stop. This shit is an incomprehensible large machine that has inertia…and it truly truly sucks. But can we please prioritize blaming and holding accountable the mother fuckers making these damn decisions instead of a mother fucking janitor or an accountant or truly does fuck all and definitely isnt killing anyone.

    No doubt…unquestionably so, there will be investigations, eventually into the nature of attacks recently thst led to innocent lives being killed-- hopefully it is public enough for us to peer inside those happenings…



  • If I make a to do list I almost inevitably add completely unnecessary fluff.

    Such as

    -remove winter clothing, wash, dry, refold -Delete old emails and create new email / up date subscriptions / cancel subscriptions -Relearn polynomial equations -memorize birds common in (my area) -learn how to identify trees in (my area) And then -Pay off credit card debt [doesnt seem as worthwhile compared to relearning polynomial despite it’s abject greater practicality and value]


  • I never thought I had ADHD until recently. About a month ago or something I was diagnosed. I have: however, for all of my life struggled apparently more than my peers. I couldn’t focus, I had meltdowns learning math and reading, (crying, yelling, shutting down ) I’m late places, Im often late to turn in work things or previously school things. After work 80%-90% of the time I feel completely numb, wasted, tired, and a little (or a lot) depressed.

    The memes and the mental health awareness zeitgeist, I think helped me connect the dots where I used to believe it was just depression and a lack of motivation and or discipline and also a lack of socialization at the right ages resulting in less social skills and less self confidence.


  • I exist mostly without relationships. I can barely fathom living with one romantic person. If that person then was able to execute sexual acts with others on a regular basis with relative ease I dont think we’d be compatible because our lives would be too different, experiences too different.

    I can imagine, however, a different scenario wherein both of us pay for professional, independent sex workers occasionally-primarily themselves that are also adept in therapeutic massage. Maybe. But still it does seem like an odd zeitgeist for romantic relationships right now.



  • I agree I dont see the reason for the hype.

    I sure would like to go to the moon, maybe, but I wouldnt claim that my being there was special or impactful to the world other than I had a very privileged experience.

    Someone mentioned to me that going to the moon is like the greatest thing we’ve ever done. I just dont think so. And it seems the answers I get to the question of why is it good is never very clear.

    People seem to indicate something along the lines of

    People going into space is a departure from Earth. And it was so hard. And it still is hard. All the calculations that must be accurate, all the technology, the difficulty of zero gravity on the body…we can spread humanity into the stars…(we are no were near that) think about the science (what about it?)

    Things being difficult does not equal greatness or positive impact.

    The thing that is good for sure, is technology innovation that impacts other areas than space.

    Another thing that may be good is, having a moon colony. (There is a plan) But I havent looked into Artemis so much to see how much this trip is doing to forward that plan, if any.

    Satellites great and all that. More knowledge about the moon and space great-but how much is the human needed, unless establishing a colony, like 80% of the good things about going to the moon you dont need people, unmanned.

    John Snow arguably had more positive impact on humanity than all the moon efforts combined.

    Its true that I am also not super into space exploration, so Im sure I lack a lot of knowledge but this is my opinion now.





  • I find taxes, for example, to be inconsequential, immediately. I also find taxes to be…I cannot start until I get every iota of paperwork needed and not needed but deemed important by myself for unknown reasons. And then I dont get those papers, or I do but I dont actually get the papers I need only the accessory things I felt very important. Somewhat overwhelming when combined with other tasks. “Gotta do taxes” “but i NEED to so laundry” “gotta fold clothes, BUT I dont really” so on and so fourth.

    Thank you for your reply. I suppose what I need to do is be more mindful of symptoms and ‘watch myself more closely’ until the assessment.

    I do find moving my toes up and down is comforting, sometimes rocking my upper torso (when i know im not being observed) is also comforting. But it feels natural like probably everyone does that a little bit. Especially when very stressed.

    The social criteria is the main mover or primary motivation for seeking diagnoses. I dont know if it this or that disorder but I have always felt different amd been described in various ways as being different. I find it bery hard to imagine how one can meet friends, maintain friends, let alone have a long term romantic partner who lives in the same household. I never make eye contact as it makes it me lose my train of thought.Eye contact seems like a thing that is directly opposed to meaningful conversation, how can anyone focus and fully flesh out a thought when staring at a goblet of eye. I do feel as though I have higher than average knowledge of how others feel or what their emotions are when speaking to them. I believe this to be an adaptation based on my life.

    A mannerism I’ve been called out on is that my vocal volume is so low thst people cannot hear me and then I will begin to shout a few randomly. This is because I randomly remember that I am prone to speaking too quietly. This has resulted in comedic situations, and people being genuinely upset (angry) thst I was yelling at them.

    Thanks foe the reply


  • Ah this was a thorough reply.

    The memes are fairly relatable.

    No one has diagnosed me. I am speaking to a psychologist whom I specifically asked for an autism and ADHD diagnoses. Im awaiting the actual assessment after filling out a bunch of papers.

    A lot his questions like: do you often not hear your name? Do you find a particular texture uncomfortable? I am find myselfing answering no. It has happened, I believe several times, but its hard to recall these things. The only stimulation I find quite irritable is like a club atmosphere and large crowds in grocery stores or other brightly lit clinical settings eith crowds. Clubs make me feel immediately irritable and tired amd stressed







  • I love Indoor climbing

    My gym has a few crack features, crack climbing is a niche within a niche. It is very different from face (‘regular’) rock climbing. It sucks yoyr energy out like typhoon would hit something with a lot of force. Feels like wrestling or mountain climbing (as opposed to rock climbing).

    It’s super fun though, its just very humbling for a face climber or a boulderer like myself.

    I would say most indoor climbers to not do crack. Crack is for outdoors people and then a lot outdoors people probably avoid crack as well.

    Me? When I do have a belay partner im jamming my hands in that crack and not even finishing, it feels grueling its very satisfying.


  • It fear and feel that I’ve been ‘with’ Don Quixote for the better part of 5 years. Listening to audio books before sleeping and forgetting where I left off and re listening. And then starting over completely. Or just starting a chapter over.

    That is leading me into a rabbit hole of romantic novels. Romantic as in Chivalry because I feel as I though, while I love the hunour and now feel a strange closeness to Sancho Panzo, his aquire, his Horse, and Don Quixote himself-I jave done Cervantez a disrepect bu not digesting it fully.

    Which is also becoming true of Master and Margarita.

    Like Im reading and choosing books based on my insatiable drive (sometimes there sometimes not) to fill these made up gaps of knowledge (Chivalry Romance novels, European Classics, Russian Classics, at one point biographies and memoirs of big events such as a Vietcong Memoir…)


  • Im coming to terms with the fact I may have ADHD, talking to a psychologist.

    So, reading is often nothing or everything, lately it is nothing, but prior to that I was re reading Dune up to Children (I have like 20 pages left to read and I have been at that part for about 5 months )

    Today I will revisit Master and Margarita where I have about 100 pages left also have been at thst part for 2 or 3 months.

    Prior I read some Spanidh novel about a poor man who went from master to master, each one treating him badly until he was more or less liberated.

    I plan on revisiting Don Quixote after…I’ve resd the first few hundred pages like 6 times and quite liked it…

    I may read Amadis of Gaul along with Don Quixote.

    Uhh…and there is King Arthur and the Round Table (Mark Twain) thst one I am ln the last 10 chapters or so)

    I really hope to come to a solution with this