RiverGhost

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  • I agree, but I think I understand why I do it.

    TL:DR Maladaptive behavior that is however ultimately harmless since I don’t bother people.

    I was a “gifted child”; was always like 2 school years ahead, started uni at 15 and every single person I met would praise me for being the youngest. I was immature so it got to my head. I also have always looked much younger than I am, which also invites comments. Finally, I also have AuDHD and I’m constantly anxious about not acting my age and being too immature. So I try to look at other people’s ages to guide me in how I’m supposed to behave.

    All of this is maladaptive and I’ve gotten a lot better with time, and I’m still working on it, but I’m not particularly bothered about the actual fact of having an interest in people’s ages. I make sure I don’t ask them about it or bother them about it, but many just offer this information on their own.



  • How do you phrase your refusal? I am not looking for work right now, and my current job didn’t give me live coding sessions. I’m against them in principle.

    But I can’t figure out how to phrase it in a way that doesn’t sound like you’re dodging. Do you refuse while you’re already in the interview? Or do you make a preemptive disclaimer when they invite you for a “technical interview”?







  • RiverGhost@slrpnk.nettoxkcd@lemmy.worldxkcd #2883: Astronaut Guests
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    Image transcript:

    Law makes long spokes of the short stakes of men.
    Your well fenced out real estate of mind
    No high flat of the nomad citizen
    Looks over, or train leaves behind.

    Your rights extend under and above your claim
    Without bound; you own land in Heaven and Hell;
    Your part of earth’s surface and mass the same,
    Of all cosmos’ volume, and all stars as well.

    Your rights reach down where all owners meet, in Hell’s
    Pointed exclusive conclave, at earth’s centre
    (Your spun farm’s root still on that axis dwells);
    And up, through galaxies, a growing sector.

    You are nomad yet; the lighthouse beam you own
    Flashes, like Lucifer, through the firmament.
    Earth’s axis varies; your dark central cone
    Wavers a candle’s shadow, at the end.





  • I do read extremely fast in my native language (Spanish). Feels like entire sentences go straight into concepts and my brain builds a whole world based on what I’m reading.

    However I started reading in a verbalized way with my second and third languages (English and Swedish) because I was completely useless at pronunciation, while reading at a high level. So I had to learn the sounds and they started invading my reading, which I sort of resent.

    But the verbalization is still very mild; faint, monotone, non-enunciated.

    Some people talked about poetry and I hadn’t considered that my absolute lack of poetry-sense could be related. People have told me about the metrics and whatnot and it really doesn’t click. I have to sort of analyze a poem and explain it to myself in prose, and I imagine that defeats the purpose of poetry?


  • So much self-monitoring is exhausting. Worse because I think I genuinely go overboard if I don’t monitor.

    I’m lucky that I’ve made friends where we literally send essays to each other and don’t even have any expectations of a time limit for answering. I probably achieved this by “being annoying” and the friends (who also happen to be autistic for the most part), self-selected.