Yeah anyone who’s lived in one can tell you that. Blocks are easy to walk and you can put shops inside because they’re convenient. This type of suburban neighborhoods just can’t do the same. Even attempts to put shops and restaurants nearby wind up being good, but just no genuine substitute for the real thing of a walkable neighborhood.

Except it’s not, it’s intentionally maintained around a set of rules. Those rules resulted in it growing into this shape

At the time people were absolutely trying to frame it partially in moral terms. It’s the other end of the spectrum, an intervention with some intended moral aim (to stop the attacks on the Iraqi Kurds) that’s now nearly universally understood to not have been moral.

People do not appreciate having the love of people they don’t feel the same towards. It’s awkward and it feels like an obligation or expectation. It makes you overanalyze every interaction and want to pull back.

“Hey, I’ve been developing some feelings for you and was wondering if you felt the same way?” - normal, low expectation, allows rejection or acceptance without pressure

“I love you (and want a romantic relationship)” - intense and uncomfortable, high expectation, high pressure, may leave them wondering if you’ll take no for an answer

Yeah, love is only for people you’re in a relationship with and those you aren’t seeking a relationship with. You can say you love your best friend, but if you start dating them, while the intensity of your feelings for each other may increase, the relationship is back to an early stage, just in a new track. You haven’t built that track up enough for that word to feel safe and comfortable.

When you’re pining over a friend you’re partly thinking of them in the romantic relationship track. This means professing love doesn’t just come off as “I care deeply for you” or “I’m interested in romance”, it comes off as “we’re getting pretty serious in my head, you should get in on it.”

In general mismatched feelings are deeply uncomfortable and the more mismatched they are the less comfortable.

Good point, but it’s also important to learn to flirt with it. I have good friends that I do all those things (except flirt) with, and it’s entirely platonic (some I find attractive, but have no romantic intentions towards, others aren’t my type).

It depends. I’ve been on the other side and I’m glad they told me, but we were good friends. But it is awkward and uncomfortable, it just in that case made it so it was mutually understood what was happening as we drifted apart, rather than leaving me wondering why and them wondering what if.

Ultimately that’s the thing, if it’s probably a no, then you’re more likely balancing a question of how much it needs to be said with how awkward you expect it to be, though likelihood of reciprocation is still a factor here, it’s just that even at a definite no it may be worth it.

Most importantly though is about making it clear you’ll respect however they feel. I wish I didn’t have to say that, but unfortunately some people need it said.

When has the flu ever debilitated a military? It’s just the flu, a minor and common disease. /s obviously

Fr though, so many people don’t seem to understand that a flu can kill an otherwise healthy young person or cause long term damage.

Closer to like 1450 here. We tend to have about 7-10% sales tax

Yeah at 750 I’d buy one for my living room instead of an extra long hdmi cable from my gaming pc to the TV

We need an anarchist Mr. Rogers. Just someone pure of heart to talk to kids about taking care of their neighbors no matter what the government says. Little everyday lessons in consensus and how to deal with the conflicts that arise when different people have different big feelings. How everyone is special just for being themselves and we should encourage our neighbors to be their unique selves.

That tracks, last I’d heard some trans people were taking to using the term too, but that was years ago. I also only pay attention to drag the handful of times my friend does it.

Welcome to the uncomfortable morality of international relations, where you may be able to stop some evil people, but the costs may involve extreme human suffering and you may not be able to stop them.

Attacking nazi Germany is one end of the spectrum, in retrospect it was an easy choice. The Iraq war is on the other end, it went quite poorly and the internal motivations were tainted. The US war in Afghanistan is up there with it. And there’s a lot of gray areas, like theoretically attacking Myanmar today or the bombing campaign that contributed to the fall of Ghaddafi.

But we must always focus on our goal of minimizing suffering. The path to evil comes when we focus more on us vs them and hurting the enemy than we are on building a better world. Fetishization of violence is a dangerous path.

I lament that I believe that violence and public executions are necessary, but I do. But I also don’t believe it’s sufficient. We must also build a better world.

I have, but they were a motly mix of lesbians and bi men. Also trans people of all varieties. And now that I’m thinking about it, probably some gay men too.

That’s contested. Some prefer the term bio queen/king, but others just call it drag

That tracks with the people I know who aggressively pursue liberty. Those of us with tits average about 1 out.

Shit now I kinda want to put up a statue of a French anarchist…

I don’t know how anyone could not consider it a mistake (which doesn’t imply it wasn’t consensual, just that it wasn’t a good idea). She was lambasted on national television for years. It hindered her ability to find work. It had a massive negative impact on her life.

The problem with RCV is that it incentivizes bullet voting. STAR would be better if it didn’t confuse people

Yeah but if you take a bunch of Uranus and the right jokers it’s a reliable option