My window frames are power actuated. Can open/close from my phone, Alexa, and automatically based on temperature. It is one of the best home automation things I have done. It is for sure the most practical. In the spring and fall, it totally negates the need for heating and in the summer it cuts down the need for A/C to maybe 5-6 days per year.

They are extremely overpriced. Build your own

The only way to let her into your wifi switches is to let her into your wifi

Totally incorrect. My father controls my lights from across the country using the Kasa app. He is just signed in under my name

The neighbor could log in under your kasa account but would then have control over all devices in there. I wouldn’t have a problem with this. I share my account with my father. We randomly turn each others lights on and off. It’s fun

This is why you should do local control only. Zwave and ESPHome are great for that. I am still trying to figure out how to get my MyQ opener to work with an ESPHome relay