Been a student. Been a clerk. Been a salesperson. Been a manager. Been a teacher. Been an expatriate. Am a husband, father, and chronicle.

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  • Try out Brick (2005). Mystery and set in a high school with fun, noir-specific language. Same guy wrote and directed the Brothers Bloom (2013) and Knives Out (2019 and 2020), which is some fun mystery.

    Nope (2022) and Get Out (2017), Parasite (2018), the Prestige (2004), and Primal Fear (1994) are all great thrillers.

    You might also like Shane Black’s movies. Funny, some action, The Last Boyscout (1991) and the Long Kiss Goodnight (1996) are guilty pleasures he wrote. Links are fun samples.

    Kiss Kiss, Bang Bang (2005) and The Nice Guys (2018) are quite solid later work that he wrote and directed.

    Romcom/ light sci-fi? Her (2015)









  • This is most my contact with others who read what I read and write what I write or think about what I think about. And, I vent here. Sure. I’ll admit it.

    The North American town I now live in is decidedly not like me. I work with youth. I parent young children. 21st century parents, and those who marry into my partners social orbit, need to book engagements five months to a year in advance.

    So, this is just easier.

    Also: Fuck Reddit. Fuck Xitter. Fuck Meta. That’s the venting. I quit, gave up, or got hacked on all of them. Admittedly, I use WhatsApp to appease my extended family, workplace, and some friends. I’d dip back to T9 SMS if I could.

    And I use Bluesky to microblog — keeping a timeline of the tragicomic decline and fall of the Western empire. And books.


  • We teach people to do all kinds of things. We also teach people why not-to do all kinds of things. They do them anyway.

    Furthermore, if all that is needed is the information in order to be able to do the thing, theres no absolute way to prevent every person from accessing that information and, thereby having the means to do what they’ve be taught not-to do. So, in your scenario, someone, sometime, will use the weapon despite know not-to.

    That said, wishing a nuclear weapon into existence — the highly-enriched uranium, the implosion core, the triggering mechanism, and the delivery system needed — seems like a helluva waste when literally everything else is also within reach. I’d hope that intelligence would be needed to understand the process; and that same intelligence would be sufficient to understand the possibility of a thing is not reason to do a thing. There’s a very crude example coming up.

    Personally, I think the command of matter-energy interconversion, higher-dimensions of reality, and cosmic-levels of power might inspire one to travel widely, live fearlessly, and create new possibilities. Petty grievances — those solvable with nuclear weapons — would seem like non-problems when literally everything else is not a problem either. No hunger, no cold, no lack of shelter, no distance too far, no need for authorities… just wish-fulfillment.

    Summoning a nuke would be base, awkward to the point of being detrimental to all relations. It would be like a Supreme Court justice shitting in his own hands and deliberately smearing it on the faces of elders, kindergarteners, military service members, civil-rights activists, and puppies.

    Like, ew. Who would do that?



  • First and foremost, she gains cleaning. Everything except bathrooms.

    Half the cooking. She has dietary restrictions, I don’t. We don’t eat outside of home often. Except phở bò.

    Every form of maintenance. Cars, computers, all machines and objects with moving parts.

    Weekends away with friends. I never question and I never say no.

    Few hard feelings when she’s temperamental.

    What do I gain?

    I’ll probably live longer because she makes me go to the doctor, the dentist, physiotherapy, and reduces my cheese and bacon intake. But not salt. She loves salt.

    I gain perspective. I don’t occupy i high tower where I know everything and remain academically distant and untouched by the world. I gain knowledge of all the books I don’t (and wouldn’t) read. I gain access to emotional and psychological non-fiction content.

    Finally, I gain the companionship of someone who lets me do my wierd. Nothing kinky or malicious or wasteful or destructive — just unreasonably high standards and unreasonably low output. No blame for it as long as bills are paid and food is in the fridge.

    She’d like to see me try to shoot the moon, and I love her for it. We’ll see. I can’t even put together a string of Lemmy posts worthy of acclaim.



  • I had intended to not.

    Then, after a turn at living together with my partner in an Islamic country — where we were not allowed to officially cohabit — we realized that our rights to watch each other’s backs were made way simpler by being married.

    So we got married.

    Had we always lived in a country that recognized cohabitation or common-law relationships, we might have not. Had our next sojourn not been in a predominantly Catholic country, we might have not. Had we more role models who didn’t, we might have not. Had we moved home earlier, we might have not.

    But we did. It was 12 years ago.

    Bottom line, we don’t find it burdensome; or that we are locked in a prison together. We care for one another. We drive one another crazy. We have the same fights over and over. We support each other and keep track of each other’s families, friends, medical conditions, and car keys. It’s nice. It’s mundane. It’s comfortable. It’s practical.

    Getting out would be a giant pain in the everything. And expensive.

    We don’t wield our rings against one another. We don’t demand “rights” from one another because we’re married. We don’t have extraordinary unspoken expectations of one another. We accept, value, and console one another. We’re a unit in this fucked up place.

    People are crazy. I’m crazy. She’s the crazy I’m used to and can interact with.

    I’m too old for new crazy.

    Granted, she’s certainly gaining more by being married to me than I am being married to her. But, we don’t keep score either.

    TL;DR — comments in bold.