Used hinge, tinder, okcupid, and maybe a couple others. I’m a guy who doesn’t date men, 30s, in a large urban area, average looks and fitness.

I found I could get about a date a week if I put in effort. Most people aren’t putting in effort. Most of your effort is going to go into the void. You just have to accept that most people kind of suck and aren’t going to respond. But just reading their profile and sending a message like a normal person puts you well above average.

Many people seem to just half ass it and I don’t understand why. Like, their profile says they love NK Jemisen. You write that you love her books and ask if they read her latest. They write back with “no”, and of message, no follow up. Like how do you expect that to work out favorably? If you don’t have time, don’t respond. If you’re not interested, unmatch. A dead end reply just wastes everyone’s time.

The apps themselves are not focused on good outcomes. They want money. That doesn’t always mean giving you the best match right away. But sometimes it works out anyway.

One of the guys I worked with said be prefers the chatbot because stack overflow always made him feel stupid when he’d ask for help. The emotional dimension is big for some people.

I just recommend checking things from the live boot environment. I found out once that some things didn’t work (HDMI , Ethernet, Wi-Fi) only after installing, and it was a hassle. Ended up switching to a different distro that did work out of the box.

The worst is when people don’t know how the system works, and then won’t listen to answers

Like I was at a job and product was going on about “our system has no concept of project owner. We have all these projects but there’s nothing unifying them under a single owner. We need to build this!”

I was like “… what? That’s just not true. There’s a “company” object that does that. It’s got a foreign key with project in the database. I guess it’s a weird name but it’s there”

It took several back and forths over multiple meetings. They eventually got on the same page and I saved us doing a whole useless project, but they did insist I rename it to “account” in the database and code. I would’ve rather left it because that could’ve been dicey, but alas. (The rename did go out fine, but I had to go looking for every reference.)

Not an RPG, but the ancient civ-like Output would have a “news” article pop up whenever you loaded a save game. “Entire colony plunged back in time - scientists baffled” or something like that.

I got the vaccine and so far so good. Someone close to me put it off, and got sick with the flu despite us spending all weekend together. Probably from one of the kids at the house, who also came down with the flu.

I know it may be hard to believe if you only browse Lemmy (like myself), but the average person actually likes these so-called “AI” tools or at least a significant amount of them do.

This is probably true but makes me sad. I tell all my friends not to use the lie machines but a bunch of people at work use them all the time.

I don’t think there’s any evidence that AI needs to be baked into the browser. They have a robust extension ecosystem for this sort of thing.

Cuphead is a great game. The co-op is fun, too. It’s local co-op so you only need one copy of the game.

The worst part is when my fellow Americans are very “we tried nothing and we’re out of ideas” about it. Or worse, actively fighting any changes.

Yeah, I can’t find a 2br for $1k anywhere outside Flyover Country,

I know nothing about philly and can’t vouch for zillow, but a zero effort search found a bunch of hits: https://www.zillow.com/homes/for_rent/?searchQueryState={“isMapVisible”%3Atrue%2C"mapBounds"%3A{“west”%3A-75.19186800188812%2C"east"%3A-75.13255899615082%2C"south"%3A39.954194027975525%2C"north"%3A39.997933180083415}%2C"filterState"%3A{“fr”%3A{“value”%3Atrue}%2C"fsba"%3A{“value”%3Afalse}%2C"fsbo"%3A{“value”%3Afalse}%2C"nc"%3A{“value”%3Afalse}%2C"cmsn"%3A{“value”%3Afalse}%2C"auc"%3A{“value”%3Afalse}%2C"fore"%3A{“value”%3Afalse}%2C"beds"%3A{“min”%3A2}%2C"mp"%3A{“max”%3A1000}}%2C"isListVisible"%3Atrue%2C"mapZoom"%3A14}

How are you searching?

any savings from not driving is largely offset by the cost of not having a garden, unless I wanted to eat lower quality produce.

I don’t really know anything about gardening, sorry. Some places have backyards, and there are community gardens in some cities. Cars are really expensive, though. Insurance alone is probably like $50/month. Probably more.

What do you do for work, and how did you get there?

Now? Software development. When I moved here, customer service (answering the phone, livechat, etc). Though I’m a cheapskate and still basically live like I’m making $45k. I eat a lot of rice and beans.

I was lucky that my second CS job was at a place that trained people an promoted internally, so I was able to move up in my career. They hired whole “classes” of CS people to onboard at once, and almost my whole cohort went on to do like marketing, management, software development, and other higher paying stuff. A couple of my friends have done the same, but it seems like AI is eating a lot of those jobs.

I don’t think most of my friends are living in luxury apartments. Though there are many shitty apartments, shittiness is not an innate attribute of apartments.

I don’t think you’d find a 2 bedroom for $1k in NYC (though you’d likely save by not needing a car, so factor that into budgets). I see some on the map (Zillow, which I don’t know if it’s the best) for Philly, which I’m told is nice, but I’ve never lived there long term. I don’t know if they’re any good. You’d have to search yourself.

Well, you haven’t provided any details yourself so that seems fair.

Ah, I see. This apartment doesn’t have any rules (that I’m aware of) about what you can put on the walls, but I don’t have anything more than some picture frames up.

I’m also lucky that heat and hot water are included - a friend of mine had electric heating and it was really expensive.

Anyway, point taken that there are some limitations. I guess I’m lucky enough that I’ve never run into them, personally. Thanks.

I live in new york city. I don’t get the impression you’re engaging in good faith, though.

I chose all the furniture and decorations. How often are you remodeling your home? What kind of remodeling are you doing? Like, more than moving the contents around? That’s just not a thing I have a desire to do. (This isn’t sarcastic. I’m being sincere.)

Yeah, could be. I said elsewhere in this thread that I think they’re conflating renting with apartments. They said that buying an apartment is a “scam”, and I didn’t follow up with “but people rent houses, too.”

I could see why eternal renting is depressing, but that’s not the same as living in an apartment.

What parts of the US have you visited? I’ve only really spent time in the NYC area. Many apartments in NYC are pretty nice, though I can’t judge their electrical quality. When I lived outside the city, I rarely had problems with hearing neighbors.

I don’t think most people really want to build a small workshop in their day to day. I did know a guy who got up to some weird shit in his apartment’s back yard. Bunch of artists doing weird metal sculpting stuff.

Again, I just prefer open spaces and not being surrounded by people I dont know and probably won’t get along with.

That’s fine, man. You don’t need to live in a city. But I don’t think it’s accurate to say most or even “99%” of people feel the same. Many people are happy in denser living spaces.

Well, I don’t know. Where do you live? Where do you want to live? There are sites like zillow that let you search, but there’s other listings and word of mouth. A combined budget of $1k for rent and bills isn’t going to go very far most places.