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Cake day: February 22nd, 2026

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  • I’m mostly the same.

    I often think about one time a friend invited me to play “DND”. I get there and it’s revealed it’s not DND, but a different RPG. I was like “ok hold on…” and spent like 20 minutes skimming the book while we all ate pizza and settled down.

    By the time we started I knew the rules as well as everyone else, which was admittedly a low bar.

    The authors are (typically) trying to write the rules in a way for you to understand. It’s not a puzzle.

    Of course, being familiar with the genre helps immensely.


  • One friend sort of explained it to me. It’s anxiety. They were afraid they weren’t learning fast enough, or were playing badly, or other people were judging them. Fear shuts down the brain. You’re explaining to them, “You can take three actions on your turn” but they’re not hearing you - they only hear anxiety-fear-screams

    Every time this happens, it’s worse the next time. It’s one more example of “humiliation” on the stack. Even if no one else thought there was anything amiss.






  • Right. Conservatism is about hierarchy. Hierarchy is good and natural. You get shit on by your betters, and you get to shit on your lessers. Trying to change that is horrifying. It’s going to mess up the world! And if hierarchy isn’t good and natural, then all the suffering I experienced was unjust, and all the cruelty I inflicted was mere cruelty. Can’t have that. I’m a good person who deserves my lot in life. Even if it’s not royalty. There have to be royals.

    It’s a shit world view built on cruelty and cowardice.








  • I remember as a kid I was so excited when I got a blue chocobo in FF7 (I’m old) I ran upstairs to tell my mother. She did not care, nor pretend to care. Made me a little sad, and what could have been a nice moment did not materialize.

    I try to listen to the children in my life. If little nephew wants to tell me about his robots and pokemon, I’ll be there and try to engage