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Cake day: September 8th, 2023

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  • Someone who has been having adult relationships for 15 years is going to be able to convince somebody with 0 years of adult relationships of whatever they want. Whether you feel happy or loved, eventually that power imbalance has a high chance of causing serious problems for you that you couldn’t have seen coming.

    Do it if you want, but go into it knowing that you are probably just a toy and probably won’t know until you are set up for a really bad time when you finally see all the things you are currently blind to.

    If you need an analogy, think about having a cooking competition between a beginner and a 15 year professional. The beginner probably has no idea how hard they are about to get smoked if they are thinking about their opponent as just another person who likes to cook.






  • There’s a lot of good thoughts here, but don’t forget the effect that rationalization as a coping mechanism has on behavior.

    For example if restaurants were so expensive growing up that they never got to go, they have the choice of feeling like they are missing out or rationalizing that what they have is better to stop wanting the things they can’t have.

    Later when there are affordable restaurants, they still carry that rationalization with them and may not even realize it. They may actually believe it at this point.

    Not saying this is the case with your parents, but this kind of thing happens all the time in every culture.


  • I started on Bazzite when I switched, and it was ok but never felt quite right. After that I switched to Garuda, which is also designed to be a ready right out of the box experience that is gaming and performance focused.

    It is based on Arch, so it is currently being kept up to date and has been extremely reliable. Pretty much every issue has been solved with an update and reboot.

    As an aside, everyone always pushes KDE, but I personally love xfce, it’s worth a look.