After reading your update, I’m glad you declined. This guy sounds like a creep. I (a female) never directly message anyone about photo shoots and instead post “model calls” with specific details about what type of shoot I’m doing to my social pages. If people comment and say they are interested, THAT’S when I reach out to say “you said you’d be interested in shooting for this concept, what’s your availability.”

I’ve done quite a few boudoir shoots and have never encouraged my clients to drink alcohol before or during their shoot. This is highly unprofessional. I also always allow them to bring a support person, boudoir or not, just to make sure people feel comfortable.