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  • tequinhu@lemmy.worldto4chan@lemmy.worldI wonder why
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    12 hours ago

    It does if you think about how we’re teached to react, since very young we (at least that’s my experience) hear about women objetification and how it is irrational to represent every woman with an hourglass figurine

    There is also a hateboner vibe coming from the incels (despite being an incel in the literal sense, I cannot explain that since I don’tidentidy with the modern ‘incel’ definition)

    The key is to try to draw a line when it is too much, I don’t think it is the case here but some prudish people mihjt disagree




  • I’m also in my late 20s, and I’m an immigrant (changed continents)

    When I meet new people, ai usually have a hard time coming up with something to talk about, so I had (still have) a hard time making new friends.

    What helped me was to have continuous contact with people in a focused environment, for example: with around 6 months of office attendance I started warming up to my new colleagues (which eventually became friends), even though we were usually talking about work back then, we started to talk about it less and less up to a point where we don’t even work together anymore, but keep in touch

    I found another of such environments in sports practices as well: don’t want to talk about anything? Fine, let’s just keep this ball rolling back and forth" but then eventually (again after a few months of continuous contact with the same group of people) things started to warm up a little

    So to sum it up I’d say: patience is key, it usually takes a while before prople start to get along well