I feel you. I lost my dad 3 weeks ago.
I always wanted to do some more woodworking, so that is what I did the last weeks in nearly every free minute. Dad would have loved the results, most of it I learned from him. And creating something, that helps. A lot.
This works for me, you will have to find that will work for you.
Be strong. And that means: strong enough to deal with you feelings and grief, not pushing it away or burrowing it
Amen sister or brother. Amen
Just as a friendly reminder. Here in Germany, BMW would have to provide access to the required tools. After all, we have a right to repair over here in Europe.
And if you are american: fucking fix your government
Thank you! While my dad would shrug off questions like those, you helped a lot!
I asked him questions along the lines of “Are you in pain? Are you scared? What is worrying you the most right now?”
I just wrote with Mom. She is currently at the hospital. As I have no a visit origanized for tomorrow, i did something that would never have crossed my mind. I asked if he has some wishes, i now he hates the hospital foot. He wished for cake. Fucking cake.
I don’t know why, but I am sitting here, crying in relieve. Suddenly, it doesn’t seem to far fetched i am able to “survive” a visit without meltdown, panic attacks or other shenanigans my brain throws at me.
Thank you stranger on the internet. Thank you!
I fear as much. Thats the reason i am asking for help. I am not asking for “should i do it or not”, that is not the point.
No, i am asking because i am having meltdowns, lock-ups in this case, just imaging what this visit will look like. So i do what i know helps: Rationalizing.
Thanks! I think this is the closest i can relate to currently.
My dad and I, our relationship was “special”. At least for other people. We didn’t talk that much (besides politics), but we loved to do stuff together like building a huge model train-track in the basement, traveling, building furniture.
We don’t do phone calls for small talk, hell we don’t do small talk. I am pretty sure he is on the spectrum too.
And knowing - that after years of “confinement” in his own 4 walls - he is glad to know, that this will have an end not to far down the road, i am not to much worried about him.
But not visiting him, not giving him and me the chance for some final conversations, no way.
As mentioned in another comment, i am locking up just thinking about the possible scenarios.
I suspect he had the same issue with interactions as me and would’ve wanted me there, but wouldn’t have been able to say it
You brought me to this thought, and it helped. I now have at least organized that my GF will visit my dad with me tomorrow. And if she as to drive me in on a wheelbarrow…
I would if i could. I am currently not able to. I just lock up … rationalizing helps in such cases for me.
All this feedback here helps. I moved a step further today. I will visit him tomorrow. My spouse will go with me, drive me, keep me company.
I am still panicking, and i am still locking up imagining the situation. But one step after another.
Thank you!
When my father was diagnosed with MND, I had 5 years to decide what to do. The extra time still didn’t make the decisions any easier.
We all knew, that this would come, for around 2 years now. I put this thought away, and ignored this fact for those 2 years.
It really depends on what his strengths are, and what he enjoys doing.
That may be one of my issues. What he loved to do, and we have done together, is stuff like building furniture or traveling. Ever since the first cancer diagnosis, he was not able to do that anymore. And since he needs Oxygen, he only left the house for doctor visits.
I think he is glad, that the end is near. He told my mother, asked why is was moved to the palliative care unit, it is nothing bad, it just because he would have more peace and quiet there.
We are both not the biggest talkers. Or silent sitters. We did not meet just for talking, and if it gets silent, we just leave, do stuff on our own.
Netflix needs some fucked up DRM. Without it Netflix will only work in 720p (maybe 1080?) without HDR.
But that is the usual Linux user experience…
As they have an unlocked bootloader, no Netflix certificate.
So, it will work, but with limits
Typo, thanks. Fixed it.
Yes, DuneHD . Pro Vision works well. I use it on a 3D Beamer. ShellyFin in house, plays everything, h264,h265 HDR and 3D content, everything hardware decoded. And this with CoreELEC on it.
Is Open/CoreELEC OK?
Have a look at the DuneHD box. It’s an unlocked android box, CoreELEC support, kann play HDR and 3D content.
That is the cheapest solution I know.
That is great! Finally a list media outlets to consume!
I had this once with an employer. And afterwards they prepared a buffet in a local bowling alley.
I had panic as the invite arrived to the moment I met the organizers of the event. They looked at my nametag and took me on the side “You have autism? If it gets to loud, just walk out and come back if you feel better. And for the evening event, if it is to much tell us, we have other activities”.
And sure enough, it was not nearly as bad as I feared. I even got warned and send out on loud or close up activities. And for the evening event, I went up playing laser tag with the HR Teamlead while the rest was in the bowling alley.
I see this at work every day. I am working in IT, and since I get THC for my social issues, I have a career. Now I am working directly for upper Management and it is so frustrating. So many missing details, half assed thoughts and more.
But somehow they manage to not fuck everything up.
Solid 5 here. And I love to read. I love the smell of books, I love the feeling in my hands and I love the stories of course. I don’t have an image of an character in my head, I don’t have an image if the landscape, but I still enjoy it.
Sorry, I am very sensible regarding this topic. I may have overreacted too.
I would suggest we keep those comments here for the overall content and shake hands :)
I have to answer to this post directly… First of all: I am a member of the European free software foundation. I am since over 10 years.
Using those distributions is, sadly, a security risk!
Everybody must be absolutely clear about the fact that CPU microcode updates are property blobs, and therefore removed by those projects.
This means: Your CPU runs with only the build in firmware and is most likely vulnerable against many CPU level attacks. CPU bugs can only be fixed with microcode , and if you drop those from the systems you leave the systems vulnerable.
Full free software distributions are a important, but very esoteric.
OP claims even the kernel itself is non free software. So let me just cite the kernel archive
Is Linux Kernel Free Software?
Linux kernel is released under the terms of GNU GPL version 2 and is therefore Free Software as defined by the Free Software Foundation.
I heard that Linux ships with non-free “blobs”
Before many devices are able to communicate with the OS, they must first be initialized with the “firmware” provided by the device manufacturer. This firmware is not part of Linux and isn’t “executed” by the kernel – it is merely uploaded to the device during the driver initialization stage.
While some firmware images are built from free software, a large subset of it is only available for redistribution in binary-only form. To avoid any licensing confusion, firmware blobs were moved from the main Linux tree into a separate repository called linux-firmware.
It is possible to use Linux without any non-free firmware binaries, but usually at the cost of rendering a lot of hardware inoperable. Furthermore, many devices that do not require a firmware blob during driver initialization simply already come with non-free firmware preinstalled on them. If your goal is to run a 100% free-as-in-freedom setup, you will often need to go a lot further than just avoiding loadable binary-only firmware blobs.
We ate talking about:
Those are not just “some hardware will not work”. Currently, don’t using those blobs that you will have an vulnerable CPU but ad you are also offline that should be safe /sarcasm
This! Disable sshd sock, maybe rebuild initramfs.
And, the “kernel command line” is also used by the initramfs for fucks sake …