I dunno. I just feel less like I’m experiencing a fun new tool for communication the last few weeks. The communities here on Beehaw are still great and fantastic and aren’t what I’m bothered by. It’s just when I venture out in the world (which I often do) that I notice conversations are much more argumentative than I remember them being.
How’s everyone else doing? Is this a minor vibez check?
I came over with the initial reddit defector wave. I loved it here. You could have civil conversations, even when you disagreed with someone else. It honestly felt like the forums of the early 2000s again. Then it started getting more aggressive, and all the “well…aksually” type replies started happening. I find myself hardly on lemmy/kbin/beehaw anymore because of it.
Have you found another landing spot?
Sadly no. I guess it’s a good thing. I’m just not on any social media much now.
As a ‘well, actually’ style poster, sorry I’ll calm it down a bit. I’d really like to get into Firefish or something to be able to make my own blog rather than like… pruning peoples political takes, making epicly long posts that recieve little attention, and oversharing. Maybe I’m not so good at link aggregator social media.
Me too. I suppose I was too optimistic about what Lemmy could be, eh. :( Then again, maybe these are just some additional growing pains. Time will tell!
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It’s not about needing a safe space. It’s when you say something, and then someone comes by and starts picking apart one piece of what you said. Which never even relates to the conversation at hand anyhow. Or they try to “correct” you about some ridiculously minute grammar mistake/word choice. Or even better, they interpret what you’re trying to say completely wrong, and go on the offensive.
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I have had this feeling too recently. One thing I did which has helped me is to unsubscribe from most news/politics except here at Beehaw.
Yeah I think it might be time for me to admit I’ve found enough communities and stop browsing all of them to find the new communities. I might designate a day once a week to visit the all feed to find something new
Your one day a week is a good idea, I think I’ll copy it.
What I really want yo do is to be more creative community member again instead of a passive content consumer. Not sure what form that will take yet.
Politics discussion seems to bring out the worst part of a lot of people
I’m not even joined to all the news, memes, and politics communities but they show up in my feed anyway? How do I get rid of them?
I have to filter to subscribed to not see them but even then sometimes they are there. Maybe its just the instance that I’m in?
As a general rule All will show them unless you block them. I block all the big politics communities.
Subscribed shouldn’t show them though. As far as I can tell the only times they will turn up in subscribed anyway is if someone you follow favourites them or comments on them.
damn, I guess I’ll just go block them all. How irritating lol
I think it varies and is highly dependent on what community you are venturing into. Some are more heavily moderated than others from what I can tell. I don’t think it’s any more or less than it was on Reddit (I’d argue for the most part it’s still great in comparison), but I think it just is a lot more noticeable due to the user count being so small right now.
There are outright attacks of putting illegal images that have caused major problems the past few days on the biggest Lemmy instances…
Hating Reddit was not necessarily a great motivation for people to create original content here. Hating Elon Musk and Twitter to x, the introduction of Threads generated more hate. It’s been kind of hate burnout lately.
Yea … even more broadly, there’s definitely some weird psychology in the whole phenomenon of leaving a platform for another, none of which is talked about much, and which probably feels weird to talk about because for many we’re generally not yet comfortable admitting how important these platforms have become for us.
It’s probably a little bit like work where if you count the amount of time you spend there it’d force you to recognise how important it is to actually be as happy there as you can.
And so, as you say, in doing something drastic like hate-quitting a platform which was actually much more important and sentimental to us than we’re willing to admit, all to go to a smaller and different place over which we might have some decent “buyers remorse”, we end up with feelings we don’t know what to do with, and as lame as it might sound.
The scorching of previous content I also found rather destructive… people were deleting 10 years worth of posts and content.
My personal approach has been that the history of the internet is fragile enough as it is. I’ve left reddit for good. I don’t need to burn Reddit down in protest. I’m fine with it having a passive rather than active death
I think you’re onto something. We ran out of hate for Spez, Elon, and Zuck and moved onto hating eachother (as a collective, not saying anyone here, specifically)
As a result of the attacks, lemmyworld temporarily turned off open sign up and switched to an application process. I saw a comment asking if this made it more likely for beehaw to refederate. 😂 They only turned off open sign up because of the mass posting of CSAM on their instance, idk about y’all but that’s not exactly making me jump to refederate…
It was mainly a moderation tools issue that led BH defederate from LW and SIJW, so I don’t think this changes anything.
If anything it proves our admins had a point when they said there was too much content coming in too fast from completely unvetted sources from Lemmy.world to keep up with
Most of people, if not all, come from Reddit (me included). Depending on how you behaved there, that behaviour can be brought to other places, like Lemmy/Kbin. People have the right to defend their own ideas or opinions, but that doesn’t mean they have the right to be rude, argumentative, mean or whatever.
Most of communities/magazines have rules to avoid people be very out of boundaries, like no bigotry or no hate speech, and I’m happy that those rules are enforced and respected. But I think a big mistake of moderators is that they stop writing more rules because bigotry and hate speech are the real evil. What about good manners? What about being nice to each other, even when disagreeing? What about remembering the human? If I were on lemmy.world and you were on lemmy.ml, and I called you stupid because you like oatmeal… is that bigotry? Is that hate speech? What is it? How do you define that behaviour to write a rule not to follow?
Beehaw is great because there is one single general rule to all communities: be(e) nice. Other communities can put other rules to be more specific about what is tolerable and what is not, but being nice is always at the top. I wish other communities/magazines/instances did the same thing.
You aren’t alone. Just this past day or two there’s been a big incident on Lemmyworld that Beehaw luckily was insulated from, so people are on high alert there. Also big news about Inmate #P01135809, Elon Musk, AI and stuff can put people on edge.
Definitely many Redditisms are back in Lemmy than before. I’m guilty of some of them on occassion still, but I try to counterbalance it by spreading kindness and appreciation around when I can.
Well… yes.
I have to humbly admit that I just got myself banned on LW, for going berserk in a discussion I shouldn’t even have started. 😓
I’ve recently commented to someone who was making fun of Beehaw’s rules, that they’re not only to have everyone else “be nice” to me, but also to remind myself to “be nice” to others. On some instances, with other rules, it’s just too easy to forget myself and try to “one up” others until shit happens.
I’m afraid as more people join Lemmy, and they get more confident at using the platform, more of the old Reddit bad habits will seep in… except hopefully on Beehaw.
It seems to be both common wisdom and substantiated by some studies I’ve heard of … bad apples really do ruin the bunch … toxic behaviours infect and corrupt.
I think if we care, admitting that we can go too far ourselves (as you did, and as I’ll admit myself too) and then trying to be vigilant in maintaining a culture are the best we can do.
Calling out rude behavior might be a way for us to help govern the kind of behavior we want.
Don’t feel ashamed of getting banned from that shithole. It’s always been a pisshole and people need to stop gravitating toward one single instance anyway.
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they could just move along.
And that’s how you know those people are purposely being malicious. They want to ruin it for others because they think its funny to ruin things for other people and there’s no real consequences for their behavior.
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Yeah, I use to be one of those people and am not anymore. It was a very miserable existence.
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Nope, I was just in a very bad environment and very immature. I enjoyed being a stupid edgelord cause it gains you reactions.
It’s like kids who enjoy getting negative attention. Like the saying, all press is good press. I just wanted any kind of attention and didn’t care how I got it.
Thank god I’m over that lol
As far as I can tell, it stems from it being easier to escalate an argument by not being nice, which means, trying to win at all cost, leads to not being nice, or a bar fight. Some people get so used to it, that they see any attempt to stop it as a personal attack on themselves… which, technically speaking, it is: a safe space is telling them “we want nice people, not chronic bullies like you”… so they react in the way they’re used to: by trying to start a bar fight.
I don’t think society has particularly “fallen”, looking back at history, there are a lot of examples, some much more gruesome than an argument on the internet, of people not being nice to each other. If anything, we’re going through a process of transferring IRL behaviors to more virtual mediums, both good and bad, but the bad ones seem to have come easier.
I think it’s been last millenium that I already wrote, the Internet would end up becoming a reflection of reality, at which point we’d be able to see the real problems and try to fix them. Well, we’re almost there, still like one third of the world population missing from being online… (expect things to get worse before they get better)… but we’re already seeing a lot of what otherwise used to be hidden behind closed doors, or restricted to a small geographic area. Which itself has brought new challenges, but at least it’s making it easier to run sociological analyses, and trying to find some solutions.
I’ve also noticed an uptick of reactionary content as well, which only serves to make people upset.
I think it just comes in waves, it got bad when when the reddit API finally shuts down, then it slowly calmed down, now in the last week or so it’s starting again.
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You’re not the first to ask as far as I’ve seen, and it also seems you’re not alone. Dunno how real the effect is, but I’ve seen it it or felt it too.
the comments look more like the comments from reddit
I haven’t noticed it. People are much nicer than on reddit. However I don’t look at politics communitys (because they think the world is the USA) so that could be it.
Mine was until I decided to exercise my block button a lot more. Certain instances have a higher proportion of trolls and jerks, so that’s been frustrating. Though, it’s still worthwhile to see all the stuff and then let me curate it.
The block button’s availability without needing to file a specific report is the very best feature here
Reddit too, since I use both parallel until the API subscription is enforced. I think it’s because US elections, people get very sensitive in that time period.
I think it also doesn’t help that we lived thru a pandemic and most people don’t have the ability to actually confront the trauma that has brought
Yes I am still grieving my dead, and grief can make it harder to connect with others I think.
there really is a need for a world-wide wake/funeral, people weren’t supposed to have contact with infected dead bodies… the whole world was connected by the event, have a positive wake party, thank all the nurses and doctors, praise that it wasn’t a more deadly disease.
Especially that which was done to them collectively by the society. The lockdowns destroyed whatever reason we had to believe human rights are actually a thing. We failed ourselves, and future generations, and its toll is such a deep, bleeding wound people are choosing to ignore because they can’t admit the lockdowns were immoral regardless of how serious the coronavirus actually was. Turns out, forcibly locking people inside their houses for years, often with abusive family members, was not wise. Who knew?
Also explicit astroturfing. Reddit is huge and has been targeted with extra helpings of extra angry politics since 2015 at the very, very latest. There’s a lot of political posting here too, but it’s possible (if annoyingly hard) to prune most of it.
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Not particularly, and intentionally rude comments tend to get downvoted. You can’t prevent random people from being a dipshit, but the community seems to tolerate it a lot less than other places.
That’s the magic of federation. You can curate to create any vibe you want. Since I am on a solarpunk instance, the only ‘hate’ I see is for climate change denial.
Slrpnk is where my alt is! Its a great instance and I found it because i liked the people I was running into from there. I think its notable that your instance is literally tied to your identity
Yes, I was happy to find it. I immediately found several kindred spirits and the moderators are conscientious without being overly controlling.
The message of realism combined with hope just hits right.
Yeah it frankly introduced me to Solarpunk and immediately it was an ethos I was super into
Solarpunk best instance!
And possum patio
It is still exhausting to see people complaining about that kind of stuff constantly, even if you agree with them. Like my entire existence is political and when I come online I just want to get away from that.
