Jacob Riis Beach hosts the day of body positivity and fun, in the city at the heart of the fat acceptance movement

Fat Beach Day events are springing up across the US in an effort to fight back against fat-phobia, reclaim safe spaces for the community and honor plus-size culture. Today, one of these celebrations is being held to coincide with Pride month at Jacob Riis Beach in New York, a location deeply ensconced in the city’s activism space.

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    5 months ago

    You’re always going to be judged. If you base your own happiness on the collective opinion of society about you, you will never be happy. You can’t control how other people feel, so you need to focus your mental energy on controlling your own feelings.

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      5 months ago

      Sure, but that doesn’t address harassment and bullying. If you think they just “need a thicker skin” you haven’t been bullied in any meaningful way by a large group of hostile people.

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      5 months ago

      Sure, but that doesn’t address harassment and bullying. If you think they just “need a thicker skin” you haven’t been bullied in any meaningful way by a large group of hostile people.

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          True, however when I was visiting my brother earlier this year (for about a month) at least every three-four days he’d say something about my weight and how concerned he is.

          It got very very tiring/grating after the first couple times he said something, so I just kinda had to tell him what’s what with that part of my life. He still says it, but it’s a bit less now.

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            5 months ago

            I get how that could be “annoying”, I don’t get how that could be “bullying” or “fat-shaming”, because honestly, it really isn’t.

            The worry seems to come from a place of love and care from what you’re retelling, pushing away that advice from people close to you is not a solution to anything.

            Edit: also it seems like you told him to stop after 2 times, when earlier you mention it happening every 3-4 days… It’s not my place to ask but obviously your story has holes in it.

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          5 months ago

          That’s not what we’re talking about and you know it. False narrative. The article specifically mentions violence and bullying. If you don’t know that fat people also get viciously bullied on top of the “concerned about your health” from loved ones, you are the one who is isolated from reality.

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            5 months ago

            It’s a conflation from people who misinterpret worry from family as accusations. 90% of cases will have the very people who cry “fat-shaming” actually just be receiving advice from family or friends.