• rabber@lemmy.caOP
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      10 hours ago

      How come? You can do whatever you want on your own terms without constantly having to prove yourself to someone.

      • Ziglin (it/they)@lemmy.world
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        10 hours ago

        Ok, to be clear I’m attempting to state the absence of a romantic relationship.

        There are still people who have expectations that I need to fulfill including myself. Life is bad enough the way it is and by no choice of my own I regularly have to think about the person I have romantic feelings for. (Though that feeling is not inherently negative)

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          9 hours ago

          Well, prove yourself to one less person.

          I remember the day I regretted being married. After a miserable shift at the data center when I got home the first thing she said was “you promised to do the dishes, why didn’t you?”

          Sounds relatively harmless but this was my “I need out and never again” moment. As a young man without many friends life is hard as fuck and if there’s expectations also in my own home I pay mortgage on then I’m out.