I’m basically living with this guy now. I keep saying “guy” because it feels too soon to call him my boyfriend or say we’re actually dating. It’s still kind of a getting-to-know-each-other thing, but we’re also fucking and pretty much living like a couple lol.
It’s too soon to call him your boyfriend but not too soon to move in together?
Capitalist situationship?
I needed a roommate and we ended up fucking.
I’ve seen that one
Lol
Sounds like they should go to a Coldplay concert and hash it out.
They were roommates
Have you thought about sitting down with him and talking about it?
Relationships are built upon one thing… Trust.
Trust requires communication.
situationship?
I’m suspecting this too
At this speed you’re getting married in three days and divorce in a week.
No… They’re buying a house together in lieu of ever getting married.
For real honestly
If you have any concerns or questions about your relationship, it is a really good idea to talk to him and sort it out before it becomes an issue.
The relationship being something other than what you wanted isn’t the worst thing that can happen. The worst thing that can happen is if you didn’t know that that was the case.
The comments are so funny btw. I’m enjoying the comment section
You met three days ago? And you are “basically living together”?
Considering the length, it’s a fling. Considering you haven’t talked about it, it’s a situationship.
My unwanted and unasked advice is to take some distance for at least a day before calling it anything at all. And then talk about expectations.
Honestly (anecdote time!), when I started going out with my partner, I had some weird and totally personal hang ups with the word “boyfriend”. So for a couple of months they were “the person I am seeing” then became my “partner”. We had the conversation about exclusivity and such, talked about where we saw stuff going and so on, but wording was difficult. A word is just a word, as long as you both agree on the rest it doesn’t really matter much.
Yeah, it’s very fast, I know. But it’s something I’ve always wanted to do and couldn’t in my past relationship (2024-2026). We were living in the Gulf, and my ex was living with his family, so that came with a lot of restrictions (Muslim background, family expectations, etc.).
This guy actually wants me here, and I’m in a position where I can do it, I don’t have a job right now, online school is more of a formality like I mentioned before, and my parents support me financially. So I’m not really tied down by anything, and I just took the opportunity, lol.
Yeah that doesn’t make it less bad of an idea, actually probably worse of one.
Have fun. Don’t get killed. Bail when it starts going south. Learn from the experience
-an experienced older slut
That’s a fling, then. It could develop into something different, but that’s all it is at the moment.
Roommates with benefits?
Lol 😹😹
It’s called fucking living together.
You need to talk with him about it. It’s whatever you and he decide it is. Communication is so damn important. Start this thing off right and open those lines of communication
Another comment said you can safely assume he’s your boyfriend. Before I did that, I’d want to have a clear and explicit conversation about exclusivity (do you two want to have it or not?).
As to your broader question, sure the label to the relationship might help in clarifying expectations.
But more important is what kind of person you want to be to him and vice versa. Years from now, if you were to look back on what kind of person you were in this period, what would you like to see? Kindness? Exploration? Consistency? Honesty? Playfulness?
Are you the person who was asking about making soup for your first date/hook up since he left you at his house the morning after?
Not judging, just curious.
Yeah.
how did the soup go over?
Oh, he loved it.
I bet he did.
You guys are a couple. I think you’re safe in calling him your boyfriend.
Very easy way to test- how would you feel if he went out and had sex with someone else? How would he feel if you did?
If it’s a problem for either of you, that person thinks it’s a relationship. If it’s only a problem for one of you, that’s definitively a problem for the both of you.
