There’s something about waking up that just ruins everything.
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Any minor inconvenience or disruption of my plans.
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Someone wanting something but instead of asking for it directly, they drop hints. Even if I pick up the hint, I refuse to acknowledge them if you’re not going to just say what you mean.
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Persiatent and/or loud noises. Macherinery going, big fans, large groups of people all talking at once, the chirp of a smoke alarm needing a new battery, etc.
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Bright white lights give me headaches. Bright neon lights are cool and fun tho. I don’t really understand this one myself; a light blue light is almost white but it’s okay. 🤷♂️
the chirp of a smoke alarm needing a new battery
That is my personal hell right there… Nothing gets me agitated faster…
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That one little reminder that you are different than everybody else, and no matter how hard you try, no matter what medicines you take, you will always be alone in that way.
Yeah I don’t think you’re alone in any of that.
Anything time-based. Fuck voicemail, I don’t have time to listen to the slow voice read everything out, give me a ui and words and let me read at 700wpm. Even shit like power buttons make me mad. I’m always doing stuff, I can’t dedicate 2 seconds to turning on my headphones because I’m using that hand for something else, like carrying food or opening something. The only bottleneck for how fast I can do something should be me. Bring back switches!
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Plans changing or being shown something I forgot/didn’t realize I was supposed to do can make me just not want to do anything for the rest of the day. Even stuff that makes me happy like watching movies or going for a walk in the park just seems like these monsterous tasks I can’t handle afterwards.
Same. And my (now ex-) wife knew that, and toward the end of our relationship, it seems like she would make the most intricate plans just to completely change them at the last moment.
There was one day we had a plan to take the kids to meet her brothers at a sandwich shop down the street that we often went to - we were going separate ways afterwards so we took different cars, I went down the street and waited… And waited… And called her, she said she had gotten hung up getting something for one of the kids, but she was almost there… Waited another couple minutes (the place was literally 2 minutes away from the house) still no sign of her or her brothers so I called again… She said she was turning on x street- 3 miles away! Long story short (too late) she had changed the plan and we were going to the mall, and supposedly she told me that, but I sure as hell didn’t remember that… And as it turned out, where she was going afterwards was to meet her affair partner, but I didn’t know that then…
People being rude. In particular, people eating or making sporadic noises near me at work. And people who talk on speakerphone on quiet trains. I just… can’t handle it.
Sock getting bunched up near a toe when I’m in a public place and can’t remove the shoe.
Maybe I’m oblivious, but I can’t imagine a scenario where adjusting your shoe/sock would seem that weird. Now when you have a giant booger stuck in your nose and no tissue, that’s a different story.
Just experienced sensory overload again because I had some important tests at school and the most minor sensory annoyances (eating with my parents and grandma and having to tolerate fridge, cutlery noises and some light conversation) sent me into a painful shutdown (which caused my mom and grandma to speak with (EDIT: well to, I couldn’t really speak with them) me, which didn’t make it better).
In the end, I just forced myself to eat the food and ran(well stumbled) off to my dad (who left early to watch sports) and was alone with him and just sat with him for some time. Not long after, I just left to lay in bed in a fetal position fully covered by a blanket for ~1-3 hours and occasionally listened to some random music in my downloads (with minimum brightness since everything else was too painful).
I’m still in an emotionally vulnerable condition and wouldn’t feel safe going out alone(or doing anything else alone for that matter). I did drive a car and did some risky stuff, I shouldn’t do (don’t drive in a psychological condition like this, you could kill someone). (EDIT: also, my motor abilities are really limited in sensory overload(how did I even survive the drive))
So sensory overload is in my opinion the most painful thing about autism. Or vulnerability when in distress. Other than that, I like my autistic traits.
Bold of the the mulleted human View-Master to assume there’s only one thing.
Something scheduled. I am useless in the lead up because “I have to be ready”
Even a Teams call where I know what to do and say and am fully versed in the topic. The whole day I’m like “got that thing at 11, can’t miss it”.
And then I randomly start doing something else and forget the really important appointment or meeting anyway
10:58 waiting with the Teams window open, might just check my email
11:17 oh no
AuDHD gang.
Turns out the Sword of Damocles is not a parable about the precariousness of people in positions of power, it’s just a first hand allegory of a neurodivergent person with a scheduled phonecall in the the afternoon.
YesNo, but ya also that, sorta
Something scheduled that gets canceled 5 minutes before it’s supposed to happen.
God thats the best feeling
I had an in person meeting that did that recently. I’m wfh most of the time, and this really soured me
So much this.
omg 100%. if I have anything going on at all, even if it’s just a fucking delivery, it ruins my whole day
Opening the post to comment an afternoon appointment…. Yeah.
“Hey, let’s meet up later today and do something fun!” Instant anxiety for the rest of the day. Plan changes are bad and worse if they are non-specific. There’s a reason I don’t cultivate friendships anymore.
Especially if you have one of those friends who invites you to do something, and then they “just have to do a thing real quick” and you end up going with them while they do a bunch of random chores in various places.
If someone does that to me, I’m not seeing them again ever.
Maybe try to find people who are on the same page? What if someone just wanted to visit you and shoot the shit? Would that be anxiety inducing?
It would absolutelybe anxiety-inducing. But if they said so up-front it’d be less bad than my, deliberately keeping-it-vague, example. That said: I don’t want anyone that “just wanted to visit” and “shoot the shit” in my life. I want to plan social encounters at least a week in advance, longer is better.
I have this friend that I invite over sometimes, but he has this habit of extending that invite to mutual friends without telling me, and so I’ll suddenly have 2 or 3 people rocking up to my place unexpectedly.
It drives me absolutely bananas. It was supposed to be a low-key hang out and now I have to come up with group activities on the spot.
Id fucking convulse. Props for keeping your head
That is unacceptable behavior, and I am quite sure many neurotypicals would also agree, even though it definitely depends on the cultural context as well. At least here it is just extremely rude to bring more quests without asking the host first, or at least telling them beforehand, unless you specifically have that type of relationship, or the invite was clearly open. That is like intentionally trying to embarass you in front of their other friends, as you might not have enough food, or drink, or other things prepared. That person would not be my friend afterwards.
Yes one quest is enough thank you very much
This is insane
Oh my god, this resonates hard. When I go over and the plan is to play board games but somehow it ends up having a group of 7 where the ideal group is 4 and I don’t have 7 Wonders to play. It always ends up just drinking and talking because the group is too big to do anything.
7 ppl is just 2 games happening at the same time.
Any big event in the afternoon/evening will just completely ruin my morning, as I will be unable to think about anything else
Surprises or a change of schedule/unplanned activity, basically spontaneity is guaranteed to mess up the rest of the day.
When someone interrupts you in the middle of doing something to talk about something and they keep talking on and on just repeating themselves bringing no new information.
When my workflow is repeatedly interrupted by a stupid notification, request to “log in your Microslop account” or the OS hanging a few seconds after every use input on the Windows computer that I am forced to use for work. All unnecessary hurdles that interrupt my ideal workflow are the worst.
When you’re working in something that requires you to concentrate and you are being repeatedly pulled out of this state of concentration by people who bug you about things. If it happens too many times in a row you end up with a huge headache and need a few hours of rest before you can concentrate again.
