Thought in my head about if you suspect someone of being poly and your interested them, is it worth asking?

This does relate to my previous post and I like the “just flirt” route since its got the best case for it

  • naeap@sopuli.xyz
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    10 days ago

    In my experience, they tend to tell you right away, if they see/feel interest - from both sides

      • naeap@sopuli.xyz
        2·
        9 days ago

        I was a bit young and just fell silent, because they included it in their greeting, when I was a guest at their place

        Yeah, she was pretty and I would have tried, if I would have had the confidence, but even with the invitation, I stepped back

        Anyway I’m not really big on one night stands, I need to have some emotional connection. Else it just feels like wanking into a women.

        But that’s me and others probably would have taken that invitation

        • Talcosis@lemmy.zip
          4·
          9 days ago

          I guess there is a gender aspect as well. One of my dude friends casually mentioned they were poly when talking about relationships. Nothing out of the ordinary, really. Just “oh, cool”.

          This girl I knew who I was a bit on the fence about invited me on a date and showed up with two other guys. I don’t have a problem with one night stands, but I have literally no interest in sharing. Then she got real mad when I didn’t try to hook up with her then and there. I didn’t even realize it was a poly thing until later that night, I thought she intended a platonic hang and I was the crazy one that thought it was a date.

          • naeap@sopuli.xyz
            2·
            9 days ago

            Not sure, I’m a dude and it was the guy of the couple mentioning it at a hello

            But anyway, that was a really different situation than most people will get into - and I don’t want to explain that more

            Edit: on second read, it seems we were in kinda the same situation ;⁠-⁠)