Celebrate holidays. Cool, it’s halloween, eh I’ll eat a couple pieces of candy. Cool, it’s christmas, let me chug down at least some egg nog. I just can’t get into the habit of decorating because to me, it’s just more work.
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one thing with holidays is the season creep. Its been a problem with xmass for a long time. stuff starts showing up before us thanksgiving and it just turns me off. Thats to damn long. I don’t really want it dragging for more than a month. I see this now with holloween. easter honestly has never been that great a holiday. ugh and man in the us people are just champing at the bit to throw flags all over the place willy nilly. which gets me in another way as all the flag people just are oblivious to how disrespectful most of their practices are to the flag. so im sick to death of all the stuff before it even happens.
walking the dog.
even with a podcast or video or music in my ears, it’s so tedious, or it’s dealing with other dogs along the walk, or our dog wants to stop and sniff instead of staying at a constant pace. and I let him do this, dogs experience the world primarily through scent so it’s really good for him to be able to. it just feels to my brain like the progress of the walk gets halted whenever he stops to sniff. even when I know fully well that the mental stimulation he gets from sniffing around is just as important (and nearly as tiring) as the physical exercise.
oh man im the opposite. yeah I sorta am like ugh about getting off my ass to do it but once im out there its one of the most pleasant “chores” I have.
Dealing with people who can’t understand the world isn’t black and white and can’t form their own opinions.
You’re not on a good site for that lol
I am the lead developer of one of the software packages we support. My main client has their own clients. They are generally nice and warm people, and we have a good relation. However, during our weekly meetings it feels like they are using a rusty rake to scratch my open nerves. Those meetings are drawn out, minute, irrelevant details are discussed and I have to answer the same basic question at least once a month, even if they have been using the software over ten years now.
It is the weekday I dread the most.
everything
Sleepy peeps, unite! If you feel up to it.
Three Zzz for the sleepy peep-zzz!
Doing the dishes, vacuuming, washing my car, mowing the lawn … Pretty much any task that I can’t just do once and be over with. Feels pointless to do stuff that I’ll just need to do again in a few weeks or so.
Same here, to a certain degree. I do it as soon as I come from work so I can “reward myself” with rest/cuddling/videogames after. I’m also a bit of a maniac regarding tidiness so I guess that helps. 🤷♂️
I feel that. Especially when cleaning the apartment around. Dust is infectious on every surface, it’ll come back within the week and just build again from where it left off. It’s just tiring to have to deal with that on a constant basis while wasting money on cleaning products that promise it’ll get rid of it for prolonged periods of time.
And when shit has hair around? That’s even more annoying. I get plastic utensils, plastic plates/bowls and paper plates to reserve myself from having to clean so much. I reserve actual dish washing to a dishwasher to spare myself.
solution is easy. just stop living in your apartment. if nobody lives there, it can’t get dirty.
why do you think those empty houses are always so clean?
Depressingly, even empty houses get dirty.
Mowing. Especially in the summer.
mostly socialize.
i keep trying but basically I haven’t had an enjoyable conversation in probably 6 years.
I’m kind of sick of just repeatedly hearing about other people’s problems and them getting pissed off at me because I can’t genuinely relate to them, at best I can just kind of fake it. I also don’t subscribe to doomerism, which is basically all anyone wants to talk about apart from their personal problems.
I would like to be able to talk about movies or books or something. Feels like that type of conversation disappeared post pandemic. If I try to bring it up people just lecture me how they have no time for that and I need a second job if I have time for it.
I miss having constructive and interest conversations about non-personal things. Even online it is increasingly hard to find this stuff because it’s just buried by the overwhelming mountain of lifestyle/wellness crap and product promotion, or political/social/celebrity gossip nonsense. And the format of those things is always someone weird condescending lecture or trying to make you anxious/insecure so you will buy their product… and so many people I know have internalized this mentality. And they act like you’re the asshole if you aren’t 'worried about toxins, you aren’t chasing the latest fitness trend, or you aren’t trying ‘hack’ life for more ‘productivity’.
I would like to meet someone who is like ‘oh cool you like to do X? what about it do you like?’ etc. But I don’t meet anyone who ever engages in this way anymore, and I notice when I try to engage people that way they get really weirded out, like taking an interest in them is offensive. or they will immediately change the topic to some personal issue they want to bitch about and ask me for advice on… even when I’m a complete stranger. like, why are you asking some random dude at a bar for career/family/health advice? and getting angry when he doesn’t have some bullshit answer? so bizarre.
do you ever go to the specific communities around a topic? I mean im totally doomer but when on the anime, movie, book, game, etc. communities usually im just talking about shows. granted I do bitch about how I feel like shows and movies sorta suck in the last several years but you know I will sometimes say. oh that was not bad. or I saw X and recommend. just mentioned primal in one as being decent.
In-law cookouts. Not sure what it is about them but it’s a bit exhausting talking with so many people and the constant code-switching is tiresome bro
Edit: Thinking more on it, just about any situation where I’m inclined to code switch is tiresome
I miss having a social space where I didn’t have to talk in code. I used to have a few, but they got invaded by the upper middle class corporate speech police. So I just quit because it was so miserable to be around people like that.
I remember especially being lectured about saying “I suck at this but I’m always getting better” is ‘problematic and negative speech.’ God, what awful twats those folks are.
Twats and fools. Sucking at something is the first stage of becoming an expert at it.
I have a very “religious” auntie in law which kinda forces me to perform, and I find it exhausting. I never had to before I got married cause my mom and I are very honest and the rest of my family just has to deal with it/me, but eh, the things we do for love, right? At least my MIL and I are on the same wavelength, or at least enough not to warrant any crazy code switching. 🙏
Code switch?
Was going to ask the same thing
Code-switching is a linguistic tool. In short you change the way you present speech to better communicate with specific audiences. Easiest example is when you swap from a casual tone that might include slang with your friends to a “professional” or formal tone when talking with your employer.
I’ve never heard that term before, even though it’s pretty much how I’ve survived as long as I have. I always just called it Chameleon, and I think I must be pretty good at it, because I can see how bad other people are at it.
I worked in sales for 10 years or so, and honestly, I was a shit salesman. (I had a job to do, but I NEVER wanted to pull any shady shit) But, I was good at mimicking the people who were in front of me. I became a bro when the frat boys walked in, I was a polite young man when the church crowd showed up. I grew customers by being whoever they wanted me to be, and just being helpful.
Shaving, showering, applying for jobs… yeah, it might just be clinical depression and not being tired lol 🤷🏽
You can just…not?
I love Halloween so I decorate, but we’re not religious so we don’t celebrate most holidays. I guess you could say I don’t do it because I’m tired? Tired of doing rituals I don’t enjoy that have no meaning to us.
We have our own traditions that we look forward to, so it’s not a life without joy and wonder. It just looks different!
This, and we did it a lot when we had kids at home, decorating for every holidays even if we are not religious. Now that our chlidren are adult 25yo+ and all work and have their family/appartment/life/etc we just don’t decorate anymore. For christmas we make a simple small tree and that’s it.
Ah to dream…
I wanted to give a try of coding but I am very impatient as well as the stuff I want to do requires is little bit ambitious for a beginner. It doesn’t help that I easily procrastinate.
I know it’s a me thing, and Im glad everyone enjoys their traditions. Keep it up and enjoy!
But I just don’t get it. Decorate so you can tear it down in a week. Waste money on feasts and decor and gifts that nobody wanted to begin with. I just can’t get into it. Seems foolish and wasteful.
Most folks re-use decorations.
Finding excuses to celebrate is the essence of life
Can’t argue with that! I think we just prefer different ways of celebrating.
For me, I’m trying to decouple two elements: I hate the wastefulness, but I like (some) decoration.
Decorating builds anticipation and for me it’s a big part of the holiday itself. I both enjoy decorating and looking at the decorations. So I’ve strived to decorate with as little waste as possible. I create a lot of decorations myself, reuse the same ones year over year, prefer paper and cardboard over plastic. Next step is food decor! That’s also why I like carving pumpkins: a low-waste fun decor option.
I haven’t found a solution to cheap useless gifts yet… mostly because I’m not in control of what others gift me. On my side, I try gifting consumables and/or handcrafted things. Everybody likes a batch of homemade cookies
on gifting I sorta hate the reciprical thing. When I do do it I like to do it anonymously. Just because I got you something does not mean you need to get me something. kinda defeats the idea of a gift.
I try to get people gifts that won’t be wasted. Expensive consumables are my go-to and are always appreciated like a nice bottle of scotch.
Sleep
Finding excuses to celebrate is the essence of life#
