The problem is that all the rules contradict each other in one way or another. If you know the reason for the rule, then you know which ones take precedence in each situation. Otherwise, you’re just making arbitrary choices on which ones to follow and which to break, and if you can just arbitrarily break a rule with no obvious consequences, then why bother ever following it?

This isn’t a neurodivergent thing. It’s an intelligent / ethical person thing.

sort of tangential, but this discussion reminds me of a recent conversation. we had a plumbing leak recently so we had to have these water damage mitigation guys come out and check all the floors and drywall and figure out what needs to get replaced, yada yada. and they’ve all got these things they call “moisture meters” which are little black plastic boxes with a digital display on the front, and you hold it against a surface and it shows a number that somehow indicates how much water is absorbed into the material. so I asked one of these guys “hey, how does that work? like what’s it actually measuring?” and he gave a response that sounded in tone like a technical explanation, but the actual information essentially boiled down to “it tells you how much water is in there, and if it’s above 20 it’s bad.” and I’m thinking like, yeah, I got that, I figured that out from hearing you call it a “moisture meter” and watching you use it for ten seconds. is that what you thought I was confused about? obviously I mean like, what quantity does the number represent; what are the units; what physical thing is being measured to generate that number; is it based on a physical property, a thermal property, chemical, electrical; you’re using it the same on wood, drywall, carpet, insulation, how does it apparently treat all materials the same when they have different physical properties and absorb, hold, and release water in different ways? it just baffled me that I could have all these questions less than a minute after seeing one for the first time, but this guy who uses one professionally every day only needs to know water>20=bad

All my teachers in school hated me for this lol

So what you are saying is that they operate in logic and reason and that they have a healthily critical relationship with authority?

I’m sorry? Which people are they trying to convince us are the broken ones, again?

The real neurodivergence is the charisma chuds; American was built for them. Dumb con men who’s narcissistic tendencies allow them to sell us all on how they’re actually the best ones and we are the weird ones.

I know it’s just reductive fan fiction but I like to imagine all the emotional disregulation baggage is just the realization of living in a world run by selfish children who would kill just to be popular and be waited on

Relevant story:

I worked in a pharmacy during COVID. Once vaccine supply balanced out to the point we could take walk-ins, we were told by corporate that even if someone was walking in without an appointment, we were to go into the system and make them an appointment for the current date and time. To clarify, this is a separate system than what bills insurance, notifies doctors, documents the vaccine etc. It’s just an appointment system.

Dumb rule. Stupid. Did not follow it for weeks because we were busy, y’know, administering vaccines and dispensing medications.

Until I found out why we were supposed to do it…

This was the vaccine that you got one dose of, then a follow up dose ~6 weeks later. When you book an appointment, it automatically schedules the followup appointment and notifies the patient when it’s coming up, helping us not get slammed with walk-in appointments and the patient not forget their second dose.

From that point on, I was adamant that appointments be made for every vaccine with multiple doses.

If you don’t have a good damned reason, then fuck your rule. Do you have any idea how many rules exist simply because it favoured one group or person over others? And now we’re stuck living with it? Question all the rules. Many of them are selfish bullshit. Like this new everyone has to use AI, or OSs needing photo ID to function, or why rich people get to avoid prison for their numerous rule breaking crimes, even become president FFS.

Rules need to be wise or they shouldn’t be followed and I’m not trusting most ppls opinions of whether they are wise or not.

growing up, poking holes in the rulebook was entertainment. high school no smoking rule made me want to smoke.

Hahahaha. That’s not “autism”. That’s just “normal”. Right?

The second part, where neurodivergent folks do follow rules and get angry when others don’t, is the flip side of the coin where neurotypicals don’t follow rules that they consider not really that important. They know the rules, they know why, they just think the consequences aren’t that bad, or they don’t feel the consequences or pure ego. Why is it pathologised when neurodivergent people don’t follow rules, but when neurotypicals do it, its fine. Then neurodivergent people are pathologised for noticing neurotypicals don’t follow rules. But when neurotypicals notice neurodivergent folk not following rules, not pathologised.

Sorry for the meaningless rant. I haven’t had a coffee yet. Better go fix that. Eta: ok I’ve just had one sip, but now I’ve got more for the meaningless rant…

Why is it described as “if neurodivergent don’t fully understand a rule” and not “when neurotypicals poor communication skills don’t explain rules properly, whole swathes of people fail to follow the rule, because of said communication issue”

this is why I can never live in Japan. there, the justification for rules is literally “because it’s a rule”. from preschoolers up to the Prime Freaking Minister!

you’d have you literately pull teeth before you could get to the original cause or thought process behind a rule.

of course there are autistic ppl there. they often get ostracized for sense of justice. literally. “seigikan”(正義感) is often unironically mentioned as a reason why someone is difficult to work with. the society also expects members to forgive illogical behavior by not mentioning “seiron”(正論) aka facts/logic.

at least in some western countries, ppl sometimes have the decency to feel embarrassed to complain about others’ upright behavior. (i don’t love western countries either)

An expectation to follow rules without an acceptable explanation, when the rule follower has not given consent previously to the rule maker to expect this is authoritarian behavior. Fuck authoritarian behavior and fuck authoritarians. I can’t see how this is just a “oooh they’re just autistic” thing ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

Oh no…

Exactly. Put the fucking shopping carts where they belong! But also don’t get onto me for riding it into the coral like a bobsled led by imaginary bears.

Even if the explanations and evidence line up well, if there are obvious loopholes and pitfalls, I’ll have problems with it. A lot of problems with it.

… see most social rules