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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • I’m a younger millennial but I know how to do that. Culturally I relate way more with gen z than I do millennials, but man do I feel immense pain when I have to explain to people younger than me how to use technology. I had to explain to one of my younger coworkers how to navigate between folders and different hard drives within Windows the other day and it was more difficult than teaching my mom how to use a smart phone when they first came out. Too young to have had a MySpace but old enough to be everyone’s personal IT guy.




  • I guess I should have specified the difference between “emotionally dumping” and just needing support. I was mostly speaking from experience because I used to be the kind of person that would emotionally dump on the woman I was with. I was too afraid to speak about anything to my guy friends but for some reason thought it was totally okay to share literally everything with the women I was with. I think it came from a pre-conceived notion that women are more emotional and therefore have more experience in dealing with emotions. Took me a long time of being single to realize I was just using it as an excuse to not face my issues. Not only that, but it helped me realize that men and women are way more alike than they are different. And I realised that the difference in emotions between men and women is more of a societal issue, and that women were actually just more emotionally intelligent vs being more emotional.

    I went ahead and updated my comment above to add a little bit more about this for those that come after.


  • It was getting better before the influx of toxic masculinity brought upon us by influencers. I think millennials and the older side of gen z are probably better off then older generations, but the younger crowd is definitely going in the other direction. I saw a video of someone going around a college and asking young students that just voted in their first presidential election why they voted for Trump and pretty much all of them said something along the lines of “bringing manliness back.”


  • If you need to emotionally dump on your partner all the time just to get by, you should consider therapy. And I’m not saying that needing support is a bad thing and i absolutely encourage it. But there is definitely a difference. And if your first instinct when hearing you should consider therapy is to feel personally attacked, you should probably rethink what you know about therapy. Otherwise you are just going to continue to use women as your therapist instead of actually working on long term solutions with a professional. The purpose of therapy is literally to make your life better. There’s this ethos around masculinity where you don’t need anyone’s help and you should be able to solve all your own problems, but that’s just straight up bullshit. The only reason there is a stigma around dudes going to therapy is because of other dudes talking down to each other instead of lifting each other up. And like, 90% of the people you meet in your life will never give two shits about how manly you are and there is no need to cater to the 10% that have a problem with it. And the vast majority of those that have a problem with your masculinity are going to be other dudes.

    Edit: Added more details.




  • People that live in a car centric country where you cant go anywhere without one and can’t afford a new car just yet. I have a relatively new car and relatively doing well financially, but if I had to buy a new car immediately I’d probably be fucked for the rest of the year. And the fact that the resale market for Tesla is probably not that great right now you won’t get much money back by selling it. I am seeing a lot of Teslas with the logo taken off, though.





  • You’re acting like I said we shouldn’t protest or fight back while I’m literally just talking about the curfew. And I’m not even saying it’s 100% a good idea to have it in the first place, I’m just saying why I think it makes sense and how we can use it since ICE has been almost exclusively operating during the day to make it as obvious as possible. They have been and will continue to use our anger and fear against us and if we act on impulse we are doing exactly what they want us to do. These aren’t just random ICE raids in random communities, they are specifically targeted raids in blue states in specific communities in order to manufacture a crisis that they can “respond” to.

    If anything, we need to protest more and resist more. We are way past the point where we should have a general strike. I’m just saying that if things get more violent on our side we are absolutely fucked.


  • And you’re not wrong, but they are going to be doing that during the day for maximum effect. The kidnapping is the kindling and the police and military are the ignition. It’s not an accident that they are doing this as cruelly as possible. It’s literally the point. They are purposefully pushing us to a breaking point by kidnapping people in broad daylight so they can crack down and make themselves the heroes of the story for their propaganda machine. It’s perfectly reasonable to be pissed off at everything they are doing, but if we don’t look at the bigger picture then they win.


  • I kinda agree but also kinda disagree with the whole curfew idea. On one hand Trump is trying to incite violence in LA right now and this could potentially make it more difficult by limiting the amount of people in the area. People like looters that are taking advantage of the situation tend to wait until the sun goes down. But on the other hand this could feel like an unnecessary crackdown in and of itself against the protestors and could make them more anxious.

    Also, around 20 people being detained is not “mass arrests.” The article says that more than 500 people have already been arrested in recent days so this number almost seems low by comparison.