I agree that decentralizing is the solution. But there is no use having a decentralized system that no one cares to use. If the normies can’t get down with it then its no use. I’m going to give xmpp a go, but my guess is that it will not be normie-friendly.

For less to techy people I think fluxer is better. https://fluxer.app/ So far it just works for me. No hassle.