Explorer IMO. if it was good enough for Don Draper, it’s good enough for you. I also think it has more personality / a more distinctive design language than the Datejust.

yeah - we have a joint account that we both contribute to that covers family expenses, mortgage, etc.

this is the way. my wife and I separated our finances at the beginning of our marriage and it’s the best decision we’ve ever made. regardless of who makes how much, having some bucket of money you aren’t accountable to your spouse for is a pretty incredible pressure valve.