I’m finding it harder and harder to tell my wife that I’m buying a new watch. After about 4 watches, she can’t understand why I would buy more. I’m curious as to smartest or most interesting way that someone has used to get around this issue.

  • Secure-Marionberry80@alien.topB
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    1 year ago

    Deception by omission is different than lying. After a certain point, they can’t tell them apart anyways. Get a P.O. Box if you really want to hide it.

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    1 year ago

    You dont wanna lie, you want her on board with the amount of money youre spending or you wanna be more choosy about your watches. She will find out eventually and its way uglier when it comes out you lied

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    1 year ago

    No I don’t lie. If I really want another I would probably sell one that I have. Unless you have a ton of disposable income I don’t see a need for more than 4-5 watches. Id rather have quality over quantity.

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    1 year ago

    Lie. Lie about your lies. Then lie some more. Eventually she will be so confused and suspicious she will start questioning reality. And eventually you can have a watch collection you can be proud of.

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    1 year ago

    Set up your finances so your fun money isn’t coming out of household money. Do whatever.

    My wife has turned into kind of an enabler. 🤣

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      1 year ago

      this is the way. my wife and I separated our finances at the beginning of our marriage and it’s the best decision we’ve ever made. regardless of who makes how much, having some bucket of money you aren’t accountable to your spouse for is a pretty incredible pressure valve.

      • CdeFmrlyCasual@alien.topB
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        1 year ago

        Do y’all have a seperate joint account for the big stuff? I’ve heard of couples have a hybrid arrangement like that.

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          1 year ago

          yeah - we have a joint account that we both contribute to that covers family expenses, mortgage, etc.

    • irfaanihsanjaffer@alien.topOPB
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      1 year ago

      It’s all from my “fun money”. However, I’m always hesitant to tell her I’m using it to buy a new watch. It’s not that she’ll stop me from spending my “fun money” on whatever I want, I’m just tired of all the comments about it.

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    1 year ago

    Money disagreements is 1 of the biggest causes of divorce. Work it out, man. Above all, don’t lie about it.

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    1 year ago

    Take a photo of here shoe closet. Or makeup cabinet. Or whatever it is she’s into. Scarves, jackets, whatever it is, she has something that, to a guy, seems excessive. It’s usually shoes.

    And when asked, if you have time, she’ll likely give you a lengthy story about the need for each and every pair of shoes.

    Next time she says something about watches, bring up the picture, rotate the phone, show it to her, “you have shoes, I have watches.”

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    1 year ago

    No, you should probably figure out how to communicate that to her.

    That said, I’ve heard from a McLaren salesperson that he has a client who buys the new version of the his car in the same color every couple of years, keeps it under a cover in his garage and told his wife he’s had the same car for over a decade so to each their own!

  • stoned-autistic-dude@alien.topB
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    1 year ago

    I’m going on 11 years with my wife, and if you have to lie to your significant other, I’m pretty certain things aren’t going to last.

  • irfaanihsanjaffer@alien.topOPB
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    1 year ago

    I could’ve worded the title of my post a lot better. What I was trying to ask is what are the best/interesting/smartest ways you’ve used to justify buying watches to your significant other. I don’t want to lie and I don’t plan to lie to my wife … basically, how do I do this without lying. (I’m still new to using Reddit - is it not possible to edit the title of my original post?)

    • betrayedconcept@alien.topB
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      1 year ago

      It’s hard if your spouse is a saver. Easier if you can explain to her it’s a hobby you enjoy and it brings you some level of happiness (hopefully it does lol). A good partner should support you within reason.

      • irfaanihsanjaffer@alien.topOPB
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        1 year ago

        Yes. Exactly. I’m not lying to my wife nor am I spending money out of budget. (Despite what 95% of the comments are about. Haha) It’s more-so my reasoning or just convincing here it’s actually a fun hobby to have.

        Yes, you’re right, I should’ve changed my wording but too late now I guess.

        I can’t find how to change text of the post either. I’ve changed it before. But when I check here, there’s no option for me to do anything.

        • CdeFmrlyCasual@alien.topB
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          Gotcha. Just try to figure out a good way to explain why you like the ones you do outside of fashion considerations.

          For me, it’s a mix of because-i-like-shiny-things, historical souvenirs, and appreciation of watchmaking. I like my dressy watches but i like the Soviet engineering of my Vostoks and having a watch or two from a country that no longer exists.

  • ObjectiveAssistance8@alien.topB
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    1 year ago

    Depends on whether you consider your watches or your wife more important. If the latter (which I sincerely hope), then, no, don’t lie. Communicate and find common ground. My wife is supportive of my expensive hobbies (watches, knives, etc.), but she also gives me some good pushback now again (that I need). She trusts me, but also isn’t afraid to smack a bit of sense into me. We’ve been through more trouble than most (accidents, serious health issues, brain injuries, etc) and have stuck it out together. Maybe that’s why she gives me more slack than I probably deserve :)