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Cake day: 2023年7月10日

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  • As a straight man, every straight man I’ve ever been friends with has eventually simply made me so tired to be around them.

    Like, times are hard. But then we just collectively… have unmet needs, and so many of us deal so badly with them. It just seems like straight men inevitably make it everyone else’s problem.

    I have heard the same old thing so many times-- to have a friend, be a friend. Reach out. Listen, be empathetic, blah blah blah. And I wind up hanging out with some douchebag thinking to myself why am I in the same room with this fucking guy. Before I know it he’s drunk or desperate for a long, long hug from being so touch starved, or he lets his guard down and casually says some slur. I don’t have the patience to be friends with straight men. I don’t have the patience to start to try.






  • Hate to put it this way but my read is in ten years you and that kid are going to be pretty close and I kind of doubt you’ll still be with your SO.

    Kind-of-not-caring-that-much is a pretty normal dad thing like others have stated. You show up, you be yourself, you do what you gotta do, there’s no single “clouds open up and your entire brain floods with dopamine and seratonin while angels sing YOU’RE A DAD YOU’RE A DAD” moment.

    But the fact that you can just be kind of normal turns out the be one of the things your kid likes about you. They start following you around or spending time with you to get some time away from Mom. They bring you little problems and you get to teach them things about the world.

    And then you blink and they’re a teenager and suddenly they’re too cool to say “I love you Daddy” anymore and you aren’t prepared for how much that hurts.

    So anyway that’s how it happens. Btw for what it’s worth, I don’t think it was just tiktok brainrot that gave your SO rose colored glasses about parenthood: evolutionary biology has its own ways to compel women to want to have babies just like it has its own ways to compel men to go along with it. That’s… why we’re all here.




  • It goes beyond trashy. He’s riling up his base with a show of violence and normalizing bloodsport. This is an intentional shift in social norms. His base laps it up-- government that’s fun like a wrestling match???-- and it takes the place in our public life that we had reserved for sober discussion of our nation’s wellbeing and handing it over to gleeful violence.

    It’s not “UFC bad,” this is “drinking whiskey for breakfast,” the context matters. They are exterminating their enemies and it’s going to get worse.




  • My kid loves roblox because its controls are pretty much completely ideal for her ipad and apple pencil

    Roblox is entirely unplayable to me because its control schemes inevitably break all my millennial expectations and I don’t have great internet connectivity at home anymore. It hurts me and makes me angry, lol. ANY game that properly works with an Xbox controller is superior for my personal experience because of decades of that paradigm. Touchscreen controls are death and other control schemes are second class citizens in the modern landscape