• babybus@sh.itjust.works
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    28 days ago

    This probably comes from Tinder, where people explicitly state their preferences. I also don’t know anyone in real life who talks about that. These are two very different environments. But keep in mind that romantic and sexual interests are not always conscious choices. People might not even be aware of them, yet your height can still affect their desire to be with you (among many other things).

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      28 days ago

      Preferences are bullcrap most of the time anyways. Only truly shallow people go completely off of looks and are looking for a 100% match to them. Had seen plenty of bios saying stuff like “I’m crazy about tall men with beards”. Sent a message saying “how bout short men with beards?” And the response was “aye, I can do that” directly referencing lotr lol

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      28 days ago

      Never thought about it this way, since I’ve never used dating apps. That makes sense, though. Thanks for the insight.

      And I agree about unconscious choices; that’s why I mentioned small girls with huge guys. The stereotype is so common, yet rarely, when I asked, were the girls even aware of it. My money has always been on daddy issues for this particular one.

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      28 days ago

      Also tinder tends towards pickiness partly as a way of thinning the herd. It’s very easy for dating apps to take nice to haves and push them into requirements. Things you may demand there might be a lot less important with someone you were chatting with at a social event and felt a spark with.