The waiting starts at 9:45
I was gonna do something at 9:45, but it would take 16 minutes so now I can’t…
Keep checking the phone even though you know you turned silence off…
But I grabbed my phone at 9:45 and didn’t want to inconvenience you by calling early so I set the phone down then picked it up again at 9:47 and decided it was still too early. At 9:53 I felt it really shouldn’t be before 9:55 because I told you 10. At 9:57 I realized it might seem desperate to call you before the time I’d said. At 9:59 I panicked at the thought of what to say when you pick up and had to do some self- calming meditation. At 10:00 my thumb hovered over the button, but I didn’t want to seem desperate to talk to you and thought you would think I’m a dork for calling right on time. At 10:01 I bounced between feeling like an asshole for making you wait and not wanting to seem desperate because your clock might not be past 10:00 yet. At 10:02 I again panicked about what to say when you pick up and had to again soothe myself with a mantra I’m too embarrassed to share. At 10:03 I couldn’t tell if I was too late or fashionably late and if you thought me trying to be fashionably late would seem like I’m trying to hard and besides I still didn’t have a clue what I should say when you pick up because “Hi I think you’re cool and want you to like me so much that I would do anything for you if you asked,” suddenly it was 10:07 and I realized I’d been an asshole because I said 10 and now it is way past that. I spent another 5 minutes debating thousands of scenarios so I could make sure you knew I wasn’t late because I didn’t want or try to be on time. Now I’ve decided it would be best to never see you again because couldn’t bear the emotional fallout of explaining this all to you, so now I’m looking up apartments and train tickets to Toronto
Yesterday, the big Framasoft AMA was happening over on !opensource@lemmy.ml and I was promoting it on mastodon, because Framasoft and PeerTube are awesome.
They announced, that they would start answering questions at 5pm CET. When that time came around, a few minutes in, there were no answers yet. I got so uncertain about it all, that I was sure, I had to have gotten something wrong in my own mastodon post, leading to me editing it twice, once assuming I must have gotten CET and CEST mixed up, and then editing it back, because of course I was just overwhelmed by the idea, that it may take a few minutes to actually start answering.
You sound like me…
Wait, expecting people to be punctual can’t be an autistic thing, right?
Neurodiverse people often take things literally, including times. Autistic people are sometimes rigid with times
It’s not so much the expectation of punctuality, but the internal reaction when it doesn’t come. There is the self doubt, the panic, the inability to do something else in case you miss the late call, etc. It tends to spiral and can be paralyzing in some cases.
Not exclusively or the whole of Germany would be autistic.
I mean… its not the most nerotypical culture
That is also me waiting till 10 to call someone
“At”, “by”, and “around” are different keywords for me. If I say that I will arrive at 3pm I will probably be there at 2:55pm and just wait in the area for a bit so that I can be uncannily punctual.
Someone can say “I’ll be there around 3pm” and I will know to not expect them at exactly 3pm. Most people tend to use this to mean ±15 minutes. With some people I need to remember to clarify what they mean by “around” because I have been waiting and ready to go for two hours and they are still not there.
If someone is late by TWO HOURS my brain has gone to “they fucking exploded and died” at least twenty times. OH my goodness.
To be fair I’d started the waiting 30 minutes early so they were only 1.5 hours late. Was quite an anxious time though
I felt seen when Shoresy said “if you’re not 10 minutes early you’re late”
I heard that line from my parents, who were Canadian. Hmmm. Experience taught me ten minutes early is a really bad plan for arriving to pick up a date. I still apply to almost everything else though.
Me, just having been 30 minutes early to a doctors appointment
Haha…yeah…love that is so deeply drilled into my brain I’ll vomit if I’m not at least 15 early
Me as a kid when my mom would take more than 5 minutes to pick me up
i would be rather waiting like this than “they will contact you in next 3 days” 💀
The longest minutes ever
~10
I consider 5 minutes to be within the accepted time window where you’re not considered to be late.
I consider 5 minutes to be within the accepted time window where I’m not allowed to call you late.
You’re still absolutely undeniably late, and we both know it.
Sure - technically that’s being late. That being said, I think 5 minutes late is better than 5 minutes early. That’s why I always either arrive exactly on time or 5 minutes late at worst.
Being 5 min early wastes your time.
Being 5 min late wastes everyone else’s time.
That’s why it’s inconsiderate and rude.Showing up 5 minutes early when people weren’t ready for your arrival is inconsiderate as well. Being 5 minutes early and then waiting for 5 minutes before showing up for the appointment is a different story.
That’s the way to do it. Until my friend come out and says “Why are parked out front like a weirdo?”
My boss says 10:01 isn’t 10:00 but my friends all agree 4:29 still counts as 4:20.
