I made a blog post on my biggest issue in Lemmy and the proposed solutions for it. Any thoughts on this would be appreciated.

  • rglullisA
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    10 months ago

    Too much time living in Germany, sorry. ;)

    Seriously, though… Look at the submission:

    • it starts with a coward’s version of an imperative (“needs to fix”) in the title. Look around and you will see plenty of cases of people using this phrasing when they want to give an ultimatum but don’t have the means/authority to back it up with a credible threat.
    • It goes on to describe the “problem” but stays in the abstract, without ever giving a real example of its consequences or why it should be so important. IOW, it wants to get other people to worry about something that haven’t affected them in a meaningful way.
    • The most annoying thing of all: the author sees a problem, describes all of the possible solutions, but stays away from showing work done on any of them.

    I have all the patience in the world when someone starts an argument from the position of a learner, trying to understand the situation and willing to accept that they are the ones that need to adapt to something new. But when someone starts arguing already from the position of unearned authority (like the title) and wants to turn “their” problem into other people’s work, then yes I will respond in this abrasive way.

    • ericjmorey@discuss.online
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      10 months ago

      You don’t think there’s anything on your end that can be improved? You don’t think you can do better?

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        10 months ago

        Always, but how is this related to the discussion at hand?

        Do you think that if my responses were more tactful, OP would change his mind or at least give some thought about their own (passive-)aggressiveness on the post?

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          10 months ago

          Without a doubt in my mind, yes. You would have that effect on the OP. But not just OP, everyone else reading as well.

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            10 months ago

            If that is true, then why hasn’t OP responded well to the other more tactful responses?