• LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world
    2·
    3 days ago

    I’m 50 and my occupational therapist just ordered me a $571 (fully covered by healthcare benefits) side-sleeping shoulder freedom pillow. Am a very happy girl.

  • bitteroldcoot@piefed.socialEnglish
    95·
    5 days ago

    Amateur! Wait till you hit 65. I’m slowly becoming Darth Vader. Machines to make me breathe, eyes that can’t see, ears that can’t hear and teeth that shatter on the softest food. Luckily they haven’t started replacing any of the inside bits… yet.

    PS: this is just the short list of stuff.

  • Stupidmanager@lemmy.worldEnglish
    7911·
    5 days ago

    After 40? Lmfao. People, just take the time to care for yourself. Eat balanced meals, don’t over eat, stop watching TV all the time and go for a walk.

    Take it from someone nearing 50 who took gluttony to the max by 35. I feel better today, than I ever did in my younger adult years because I stopped being a typical american.

    • TrackinDaKraken@lemmy.worldEnglish
      351·
      5 days ago

      I’m sixty, and I agree. The best time to start taking better care of yourself is when you hit 18. The second-best time is right now.

      For the past 16 years, I’ve steadily improved my diet and exercise habits. I feel pretty good, compared to what I hear others complain about. I sleep about seven solid hours per night, typically waking up once around 3AM. I’d like to get more, but I’ve accepted that ~seven is all I need, because I can’t sleep longer.

      I think when you hit 45, you need to make a choice. You can choose to put in the effort or not. No one can do it for you, and no one else really cares whether you do. In fact, some people will actively discourage you, sadly enough.

    • Cris@lemmy.worldEnglish
      264·
      5 days ago

      The reason this post connects with people is that it validates a very well understood connection between aging and difficulty sleeping

      Turning around and invalidating people in response and telling people its their own fault is frankly silly. Just because you resolved your sleep/health issues by taking better care of yourself doesn’t mean everyone else struggling with sleep is just an unhealthy bum who should do better

      Aging tends to bring with it sleep problems that aren’t caused by lifestyle factors associated with poorer health, and even in cases where someones health issues are because theyre not taking good enough care of themselves, telling those people its their own fault generally overlooks socioeconomic factors- it usually amounts to blaming people for being poor, or mentally unwell

      Source: I have a severe sleep disorder and at 27, I’ve seen a multitude of sleep doctors (and am still searching for a Dr who is knowlegable enough about my condition to try and help me beyond what I’m already doing) and spent a fair chunk of my life at this point sitting across from one discussing sleep issues

    • AceOnTrack@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      132·
      5 days ago

      Yeah well,

      I exercise, eat healthy and am not American.

      My sleep is still fuck.

      Take your high horse and ride it into the sunset.

      • guismo@aussie.zoneEnglish
        1·
        5 days ago

        Same. I’m more healthy than everyone I know my age, and at 40 something my sleep is getting increasingly horrible. While people a lot less healthy sleep 8h every day. I’m so jealous…

        I think it’s because they are happy. I hate happy people.

  • MoonMelon@lemmy.mlEnglish
    47·
    5 days ago

    At some point in my 40s I started doing that medieval “first sleep” and “second sleep” thing where my eyes just blast wide awake at 2am. I don’t have to pee, I’m not uncomfortable, I just wake up. I read, take the dog out, brush my teeth again… After awhile I go back to sleep and wake up at the normal time.

    I guess it is kind of nice to do a patrol around and make sure everything is cool, and the dog loves it. It’s just kind of weird.

    • BanMe@lemmy.world
      141·
      5 days ago

      Long ago, when humans lived by daylight, we likely lived this way, with a “hole” in the middle of sleep, where people would wake up, putter around, chat and tell stories, have something to eat, and then go back to sleep. There was a lot less going on back then, people didn’t have access even to books and candles were costly anyway so there was no reason to stay up late. I’ve had the same issue myself although these days, it’s just the 2 times to pee.

    • mrgoosmoos@lemmy.caEnglish
      8·
      5 days ago

      I think my neighbours are like this

      I recently learned (while staying up late trying to shoot a rat in my backyard) that they go to bed around 8-10 pm, then are up for an hour or so sometime around 1-2am, and it is fairly consistent

    • BCsven@lemmy.ca
      6·
      5 days ago

      Same. I’m over 50, and my wake up time is about 3:30am. I will read, or catchup on email, or play an hour or two of a PC game. Then go back to bed tired and get snuggled, and wake up at 8 for work.

    • ayyy@sh.itjust.works
      5·
      5 days ago

      I started taking a tiny dose of trazodone at bedtime to help me with that. It’s not nearly as habit forming as all the “real” sleep drugs.

      • WhyIHateTheInternet@lemmy.world
        2·
        5 days ago

        I think a lot of us do that and after awhile I started taking note of the amount of time I was asleep before waking so alert and ready to go. Now I set my alarms to coincide with that. For me it’s about 3.5 hours so I have one alarm that wakes me at 2:30am than another for 7am. Seems to work for me though my wife and friends say I’m crazy for waking myself up in the middle of the night. But for me there’s that calming realization I have nearly 4 more hours of sleep before waking up for good. Makes those last few hours even more precious.

    • RedSnt 🧩♂️👓🖥️@feddit.dk
      1·
      5 days ago

      This literally just began happening to me a couple of weeks ago. Now, I live northern enough that currently there’s only 7½ hour daylight, so most of the day it’s actually dark, and for these nights it doesn’t really make much difference having those first and second sleep, but it is weird.
      I turn 43 later this year, but I also started some new anti-anxiety medication around the same time back when it began happening, so maybe it’s just temporary until I figure out dose and when to take the medicine.

  • vga@sopuli.xyz
    22·
    5 days ago

    40+ here and the only reason why I don’t sometimes sleep well is because I chose to play games until 2am.

    • AceOnTrack@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      11·
      5 days ago

      And the best part is you don’t know which one you’ll get when you go to bed.

      Barely standing awake at 10 fighting to keep your eyes open when you finally go to bed? Wide awake at 1 in the morning.

      Browsing the internet at midnight because you are clearly not tired? You open your eyes and it’s mid afternoon.

      • Baguette@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        5·
        5 days ago

        Doesn’t help that I live too far north that it’s just always dark or cloudy

        I wake up and it could be any time of the day until I check my clock

          • Hathaway@lemmy.zipEnglish
            2·
            5 days ago

            A touch more than dreary if you ask me. We’re just mobile plants, turns out, after months without the sun, your body just like… doesn’t do as well. You get more easily depressed, sleep changes, and even diet problems tend to creep in.

          • untorquer@lemmy.world
            1·
            5 days ago

            Winter can be if the weather stays warm and wet. For me if there’s snow on the ground it’s fine. With a full moon it almost feels like daytime.

            The summers are incredible though! You do need to invest in blackout shades.

            • WhyIHateTheInternet@lemmy.world
              2·
              5 days ago

              I live in California where it’s almost always sunny except recently. It gets hard for me because I love grey weather and snow and stuff. I can always go up the mountain for the snow but I want to be trapped in my home for a week or something due to snow I just romanticize that sort of thing.

              • untorquer@lemmy.world
                1·
                4 days ago

                I think i understand you’re making hyperbole but i can say 5ft of snow in two weeks was pretty easy to manage and i was never stuck. Just had to clear the walkway/driveway on the daily for a bit. That and i was being a cheap-ass and doing it myself with a hand-held electric blower instead of paying for a plow like the rest of the neighborhood.

                It was definitely a lot of work back before when i just had a shovel. 125m(400ft) is a lot of ground to cover.

  • DWANG05@feddit.onlineEnglish
    11·
    5 days ago

    Ooh boy just you wait til you realize you’re just napping in between having to wake up to piss 3 times in the night.

    • untorquer@lemmy.world
      4·
      5 days ago

      I stopped drinking fluids three hours before sleep and that’s helped. Just have to hydrate well early in the day.

      Doesn’t work if i drink any alcoholic or sugary beverages.

      • √𝛂𝛋𝛆@piefed.worldEnglish
        24·
        5 days ago

        Commuting by bike exclusively, and training for racing from 2009-2014. I only ever got hit by 2 SUVs at one time, but that is the one that broke my neck and back in 2014. Most of the rest were from people turning in and out of driveways or parallel parking spots. In the six crashes, three I rode away from with only road rash from going down. Three of the seven were totalled SUVs. I was faster than most e-bikes before lithium battery e-bikes were really a mass market thing. Back then, I averaged around 400 miles per week on the bike. I was one of the most hardcore roadies out there.

        • Rhaedas@fedia.io
          12·
          5 days ago

          My dad warned me about using bicycles and motorcycles on the public roads based on his experience in the 50s. It was dangerous even then, and it’s only gotten worse with the number of cars and roads designed strictly for automobiles in general. Driving in traffic in a big car is scary enough; the people out there are insane.

          I looked into an e-bike for getting to work a few years back. The range and time would have worked, and I travel during the light hours. But I couldn’t find a safe way to make it happen, even through back roads. Probably for the best, eventually someone would probably have got me.

          • √𝛂𝛋𝛆@piefed.worldEnglish
            2·
            5 days ago

            I’ve gotten 8 hours a half dozen times in 12 years. Most are 3-5hrs. It will be what kills me… along with all the other stuff. Don’t break your spine. Not recommended. Thanks tho.

    • _stranger_@lemmy.world
      10·
      5 days ago

      Try not to get hit by any cars on the way through the parking lot!

      Damn, that joke falls pretty flat when you change dicks to cars.

  • VinnyDaCat@lemmy.world
    10·
    4 days ago

    I sleep well as long as my wife is there. She can roll us from one side of the bed to the other or off it even and I’ll continue sleeping like a rock. The moment she’s sick or has trouble sleeping is when I also have trouble sleeping, which is fine with me.

    I do sometimes miss being younger and sleeping any where, any time though.

  • Hadriscus@jlai.lu
    20·
    5 days ago

    at 35 I need the ear plugs, the right temperature, to feel clean, the eye mask if there’s any light source at all, and to lay on my left side with a 7cm thick pillow at just the right angle so my head rests without touching the occipital area