Lyft is introducing a new feature that lets women and non-binary riders choose a preference to match with drivers of the same gender.

The ride-hailing company said it was a “highly requested feature” in a blog post Tuesday, saying the new feature allows women and non-binary people to “feel that much more confident” in using Lyft and also hopefully encourage more women to sign up to be drivers to access its “flexible earning opportunities.”

The service, called “Women+ Connect,” is rolling out in the coming months. Riders can turn on the option in the Lyft app, however the company warns that it’s not a guarantee that they’ll be matched with a women or non-binary person if one of those people aren’t nearby. Both the riders and drivers will need to opt-in to the feature for it work and riders must chose a gender for it to work.

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    This feature also has the potential of endangering those drivers. If I were a driver I’d definitely not opt in to a function like this.

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      I was gonna say, regardless of weather or not it provides more good than bad, it puts the driver in a position to be a target.

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        Hey could you take me to this super secluded location I need to go to? I’m just gonna hop in the back behind the drivers seat thx

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    What would stop me, a man, from claiming this status and requesting female drivers? While this policy was undoubtably made with good intentions, it is ripe for abuse.

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      Technically nothing. There is no gatekeeping in being non-binary along the lines of presentation. But you claiming this as a passenger does not effect the other passengers who are made to feel safer by the adoption of this option. A fair number of female drivers in the service are also still likely to drive for male clients regularly anyway.

      However if all drivers have protections for drivers to shut down abuses by scummy clients who use the opportunity of a temporarily captive audience to be disgusting towards drivers then this overall becomes less of a concern.

      Almost all forms of accommodation leave certain paths open for abuse by bad actors. Erring on the side of the person who needs additional help participating in society is usually the more ethical choice because while a bad actor can be a pain there’s usually already laws on the books or policies that can be enacted that allow you to deal with one. For the person seeking accommodation the cost of not having access can mean the world becomes a smaller and/or more dangerous place because of reasons that have nothing to do with them. In some ways that can emotionally be looked at as “letting the assholes win”.

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          In general if someone wants to do you harm getting in their car and being transported to a secondary location causes survival rates to plummet. Drivers do have more options by default than their passenger unless the passenger is holding them at gunpoint.

          There’s also a stunning number of cases of male Uber and Lyft drivers stalking female clients meaning the threat comes at first point of contact when someone learns where you live.

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      In that scenario, I would guess when the driver sees you they wouldn’t let you in the car.

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      How is a man asking for a woman driver abuse? Maybe I really fucking hate having to ride with dudebro cabbies and having to humor them with their inane conversations and would prefer a woman driver.

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      Wouldn’t that make you extra liable for getting sued, because on top of whatever the driver claims you did, you also specifically chose the option you shouldn’t have chosen?

      Like it’s basically adding an extra layer of “This guy was clearly a bad actor”

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    I understand the reasoning and positivity behind this and I do believe it comes from a really good place, it may even be beneficial to customers, but it is gender discrimination in the workplace, whether it leads to mostly positive outcomes for some people or not.

    If your employees bring in different amounts of money because you’ve started to split their available workloads based on gender (especially in an industry where gender has no impact on one’s ability to do the job), you’re now likely to decide that due to this trend over time, to discriminate further, prioritising the more popular genders over others when hiring, and when firing, and when deciding wages.

    After all, if one gender brings in less profits consistently than the others - because they’re stifled by company policy - why pay them as much? It makes business sense to pay them what they’re worth, and they’re measurably worth less than the other genders, now.

    It’s a slippery slope. Well intentioned, but damages equality in the workplace.

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      Agreed. I 100% understand the rationale, but it has troubling implications. It only takes the one bad guy, but there are 25 other guys driving that night who would either be friendly or happily ignore you the whole ride.

      I’d be interested in reading a breakdown of riders and drivers by gender in some representative areas. What I see this doing is, first yes, giving women and non-binary people an increased sense of safety (which I want to stress is still extremely important). But what I also see is an overall decline in service quality for women and non-binary people. Anecdote, not data, but I’ve used Lyft hundreds of times over the years in different cities. I’ve been picked up by maybe 3 people who weren’t [presumably, I didn’t ask] male identifying. On top of this, there is the possibility of certain genders earning more purely on the basis of gender. Remember - this is a bad thing for gender equality.

      Something that might be better is an opt-in program with enhanced background checks, mandatory cab cameras designed to be difficult for your average person to fuck with some system for mandatory upload/secure storage of the footage, and other stuff along these lines. Do all these, regardless of gender, and you get a Secure Ride badge. The difficulty is the process and the knowledge you are under MUCH closer scrutiny. The prize is (potentially) access to a bigger piece of that that day’s possible revenue.

      I don’t think the above is perfect, but they’re steps towards a better system not based on gender lines among contractors.

      Now, if they were treated like honest to god employees, this kind of thing might be easier to implement. Food for thought, Lyft.

      Edit: Another thing that I think would be useful in general is a safety rating system on top of the other metrics. Have users provide anonymized data visible on the driver’s profile about how safe they felt their ride was in general. Though admittedly I can see ways this could be abused or made un-useful. But I’ve personally been in situations where I did NOT feel safe, and would have rated them poorly in this area - but otherwise they got me home in one piece, and the reason I felt they were unsafe was they busted their ass all day and were almost nodding off.

      In this situation, knowing how ratings play into Lyft and thinking about causes, my rating did not accurately reflect my actual sense of safety. An anonymous safety rating option, with comment, would have been appreciated.

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        I stopped reading this novel when you claimed you’ve had hundreds of rides but 3 women drivers. That’s not very believable. I’d say 20-30% of my drivers have been female, out of dozens of rides.

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          I’ve taken probably over 100 Uber/Lyft rides and have never been picked up by someone who presents as a woman. It’s definitely region specific.

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          This is why I would be interested in a user and driver breakdown across different areas. My anecdote is just that, and could be a function of driver demographics where I am v. where you are (or just a quirk of probability).

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          Not American so cultures will differ, but I’ve had exactly one female Bolt driver out of my ~40-50 rides. I don’t know if I’ve ever had a female food courier because I don’t always get to the door before they leave. Haven’t seen one though (I mean I’ve seen them around town - just haven’t been delivered to by one).

          No idea why it’s like that. Maybe it’s because women are significantly more likely than men to acquire advanced degrees in my country so they don’t need to do gig work as their main source of income? Maybe women just don’t feel safe doing it?

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    Are they going to call it Cabracadabra?

    This is, quite literally, a comically bad idea. This has literally been used as a punchline in fiction.

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    So this feature is matching with someone of the same gender only. That’s the impression this gives. So women with women, nonbinary to nonbinary. Ok. Why are men cut off if that’s the case? How many more lines of code could it possibly be to just implement it for everyone instead of specifically choosing to exclude people? It would be the exact same PR if it was made available to everyone. There’s zero reason this couldn’t just be implemented universally. In terms of this making things safer or more comfortable, couldn’t someone that is a slimeball just lie? The article says you have to choose your gender. What is actually stopping someone from misusing this?

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      I doubt exclusion of men from this feature has anything to do with it being more work to add men. Hell, it’s actually LESS work to enable it for everyone than it is to add exclusions. Excluding men was a business decision, I’m sure.

      Now, I’m in the privileged position of being male, so take this with a grain of salt, but I entirely disagree with the blatant sexism of this feature. I get the purpose, but it feels horribly misguided. Can women not commit violent or sexual crimes? Can nonbinary people not commit violent or sexual crimes? Only men can apparently commit these crimes, according to the people who thought this feature up. Sexual crimes by women, for example, go wildly underreported…Even if they were using statistics to justify how they implemented this feature, they didn’t do their homework.

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        I mean based on how the exclusion works it’s more about who they want to protect, not who they think will commit crimes. The guy in the previous post said it only does same gender matching when the feature is used, so the only reason there isn’t a male driver option is because there’s no feature for male passengers. (because it’s same gender only)

        And you’re saying they didn’t do their homework…while also saying they go unreported, so there wouldn’t be much to research to begin with…

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        You’re missing the point. Obviously anyone is capable of commiting these crimes, but men overwhelmingly commit them to women than any other circumstance, and they’re almost always much more violent than the inverse. Shit, my friend showed me a TikTok the other day about a woman who rejected a man, then slapped him when he wouldn’t take no for an answer. You know what he did in response? He hit her in the head with a fucking brick.

        Instead of instantly going to “this is sexist”, maybe stop and think why it’s even being considered in the first place.

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          Oh well if you saw it in a tiktok that was totally probably not at all fake, it must be true.

          “men overwhelmingly commit them to women than any other circumstance” Go ahead and give me a source for that.

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      It’s probably due to the saturation of how many male drivers Lyft has. It reports that only 23% are female. While it doesn’t say how many non-binary drivers there are, I doubt they make up more than a few percent. That puts men at ~75% driver share. So the chance of a a female rider, which according to Lyft are about half of their riders, being paired with is vastly smaller than a male rider getting a man.

      0.5*0.75=0.375 chance for a man to get a male driver.

      0.5*0.23=0.115 chance for a women to get a female driver.

      While yes, you can abuse the system, you have to make a more conscious effort about being a “slimeball”. This isn’t necessarily a feature to prevent SH and SA, but more to make drivers and riders more comfortable.

      Oh, and about the amount of code: it would be less code, as you do not need to filter and can just start a match-search.

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        Your calculations don’t hold up. If you get a driver from a 25/75 pool, you are 25 or 75 percent likely to get that gender as your driver, no matter your own gender. So this 0.5 times is not needed.

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          You seem to have misinterpreted what I was calculating.

          The 0.5 is the gender of the user, which is important to calculate whether a user gets their own gender as a driver or not.

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    Okay, well let me ask a question…

    If a person identifies as non-binary, then what fucking business they got asking me my gender?

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      because someone else being non-binary doesn’t make you non-binary?

      they’re not saying no one is allowed a gender, or that other people don’t have genders

      they’re saying their gender is a different one beyond the usual two.

      like how you don’t have to just choose between vanilla or chocolate because strawberry also exists.

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        Can a male driver, then, identify himself as non-binary? Say that he does this to avoid all the hassle and possible loss of income caused by a form of workplace gender discrimination.

        By the way, you’re not supposed to ask why one is non-binary, right?

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        Look, ‘non-binary’, whatever the hell that’s supposed to even mean, basically adds up to ‘I don’t want to tell you what my body structure is’

        If someone doesn’t want to reveal their gender to me, hey no problem by me. But privacy is a two way street ya know. What business do ‘non-binary’ people have asking anyone else about their sex/gender?

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          Non-binary has nothing to do with secrecy? It’s a catch all term for genders that don’t fall under the man or woman category. It pretty much means they don’t identify as a man or a woman but as something else, there are many other identities a person may have

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          i don’t think it’s hard to divine the meaning of “non” - it means not

          and binary means “choice between two options”

          put together it means “not one of the two options.”

          I believe I already covered your other points (as did the other person replying), but they did reveal their gender.

          Consider this: It’s more like

          “Did you watch the soccer or tennis match last nigjt?”

          “I don’t really like sports, I watched a movie instead”

          “why are you keeping it a secret whether you watched the soccer or tennis?”

          Its not a secret, there just happens to be more than two choices.

          “is your name John or Christopher?”

          “neither its David”

          “why are you keeping your name a secret!”

          etc

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    What’s next? The “no blacks” option? I’m sure you can find studies to validate that fear too.

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      Lately we seem to be going backwards in equality. Men are getting shat on, especially those that haven’t even committed the atrocities they are being punished for.

      Why pick and choose who can use the feature to request gender. Make it fair and allow everyone or none.

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        There’s a lot to unpack here…

        But mostly I suggest you learn about the difference in equity and equality.

        Equality (what you are arguing for) is treating people the same.

        Equity (what this feature promotes) is giving people what they need to be successful.

        Equality aims to promote fairness, but it can only work if everyone starts from the same place and needs the same help. Equity appears unfair, but it actively moves everyone closer to success by “leveling the playing field.”

        Equity involves trying to understand and give people what they need to enjoy full, successful lives. Equality, in contrast, aims to give everyone the same thing, which does not work to create a more equal society, only to preserve the status quo, in the presence of systemic inequalities.

        Given that violent crime in the ride share industry is committed almost universally by men and disproportionately against women, this feature aims to provide equity to support more women as both riders and drivers.

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            Sure.

            Are black drivers disproportionately affected by problems in the ride share industry? Yes. Let’s fix that!

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          this feature aims to provide equity to support more women as both riders and drivers.

          it aims to provide equity, but through a really shitty and half-assed method that results in systemic discrimination

          Lyft could be vetting their drivers, taking a hardline approach on drivers which are reported, a trusted driver program, etc, anything that would actually be protecting vulnerable people from abusers, but instead went with the easiest most simple minded approach (which also doesn’t protect any vulnerable men) because they have no problem treating their drivers like shit

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          Why not just not allow men to be drivers? Problem solved, equity maximized.
          Neither “equality” nor “equity” involve any amount of equality, equity, fairness, nor justice of any kind. They’re all hot garbage.
          What people need is freedom and liberty maximized, and artificial barriers removed. And don’t expect equal outcomes.

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          It’s not equal if it gives special treatment to one but not both. Why can’t I request a specific driver as a man. What if I don’t feel safe with a woman driver based on stereotypes like the woman and trans passengers are. If they assume the male driver is going to make comments or passes at them then I as a male passenger should be able to assume the woman driver might be bad and get me in an accident.

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            To be fair, the only thing wrong with it is that it doesn’t have an option for males

            And based on another comment, it doesn’t let you pick a driver, rather it lets you pick the same gender as yourself.

            So the option probably should be available, and would only allow a male to request another male.

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                It doesn’t really make sense because he compared women systemically not feeling safe around men with the “haha women bad at driving stereotype”

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            Statistics and rational thought is not on your side here. You just come off as incredibly unempathetic. Imagine being so butthurt of something not revolving around yourself that you get angry at a feature that will increase the safety of other people.

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              The law is on his side though. Good to see that your only response is belittlement and insults, though.

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            Women and non-binary people gain more safety from this. What are men going to gain from a feature letting them have only male drivers?

            It’s such an incredible dumb thing to be mad about.

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              Arguably where is the harm in making it allowable to all for it to be equal?

              Arguably, men can gain more safety too, or are you claiming the same can’t happen to men?

              What an incredibly narrow sighted view point.

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                  The exact same way women and nb people get more safety. You’re not that special. It goes both ways, the rate may be much higher one way, but it exists the other way too.

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          What “playing field” are you talking about, what is unequal, and what does this do to supposedly equalize this… playing field?

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            Violent attacks like sexual assault are disproportionately done my male drivers upon non-male passengers. Why do you not see how this is unequal?

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              I guess I just have a problem with your phrasing. You make it sound like if we worked to increase the number of sexual assaults that happen to men by women, this would be a solution to the problem.

              A “playing field” is an analogy for a field of opportunities, like the job market or access to services like education.

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                You make it sound like if we worked to increase the number of sexual assaults that happen to men by women, this would be a solution to the problem.

                What?

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      Kinda telling this was your first comment when it’s about women’s safety and the rising number of abuses women have faced as passengers from the men driving.

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        Kinda telling this was your first comment when it’s about women’s white’s safety and the rising number of abuses women whites have faced as passengers from the men blacks driving.

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          Go on then, show us your racist study published by a reputable source.

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            Go on then, show us your sexist study published by a reputable source.

            The person your replying to isn’t actually commenting on race, you just failed to understand their point.

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            I could show you a study showing that black people commit every single crime on earth and it wouldn’t make disceiminating against them any less racist.

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      This is the dumbest take I’ve seen. What are you even getting on about. This is just rancid bigotry veiled as concern.

      What are you even basing this on? Are you afraid of black people? Or do you just hate the LGBTQIA+ community and women? Or are you still privileged as one of those two that you don’t use Uber and are just spreading shits because you can?

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        Like it or not, Lyft is helping customers discriminate on the basis of gender. It may not have come from bad intentions, but it could have bad consequences. I’m not sure which genders will be less popular as a result of this, but they may have a harder time generating an income from Lyft. (If this feature takes off.)

        I’m not saying that this feature necessarily has no place. I can empathize with people wanting to pick the gender of their driver, but it may not end up being fair for everyone.

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          Well getting harassed is also not fair.

          Also this probably will have an unintended consequence of letting the popular gender choice(s) earn more, as there is less supply and more demand than if the whole driver pool was available.

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            So it’s reasonable to think that if your driver is a male, you will be harassed (and that if your driver is a female, you will not)? That doesn’t enable misandric bigotry in any way whatsoever. I mean, everybody knows that men are the ones who cause problems and women are the ones who suffer them.

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              My guess is that women don’t prefer to pay a higher price to get home safely but that’s just reality they live in. Also it’s an inconvenience to wait longer for a ride so why would they choose that just to spite men?

              Also they (women) can probably decide from experience if they usually get harassed by men or someone else and choose to opt in to this program based on that. If it’s nonsense then they won’t do it because why would they.

              Also only 23% of Lyft’s driver are women (based on a super fast search) so this actually happens to also help that issue as well indirectly as their demand grows.

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          If you could empathize, then you’d understand how shitty of a sentence, “WhAt abOUT BlAckS,” is. Or, “It’s okay to ignore the problem 'cause it’s not fair to men.”

          Really think about it. Guys have no choice but to not have the option. What is taken away? This is the same BS as, “Why do we need a lactation room? MEN can’t use it.” “How come women get days off for their PMS-related things, I don’t menstruate.”

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            I’m just calling out discrimination by comparing it to discrimination. Just because you think one is better than the other doesn’t mean other people do.

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              This is just getting butthurt for an absolutely silly reason and simultaneously showing no empathy at all.

              Let’s get the facts down:

              • For men nothing changes.

              • Women are disproportionately affected by sexual harassment and assault by male drivers.

              • Women and non-binary people get the option to use a probably paid feature to have drivers of their own gender because the companies want more customers and women and non-binary people don’t use their service since they are scared.

              The reaction here in the comments isn’t “omg I didn’t know it was so unsafe for some people to use these services” or “good for them to make more people feel safe”. No.

              The reaction is: “Why do THEY get a feature I don’t?? I demand to also get this, they shouldn’t have something I can’t have!! Sexist misandrists!”

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                No. The reaction isn’t “I want this service too” it’s “this service is morally wrong”.

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                  How is that morally wrong? It does not hurt anybody and makes some people feel more safe.

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                If they haven’t hurt anyone and they’re merely using their free speech then I would not defend assault and battery on them. Just because their ideas and speech are deplorable does not give you the right to assault them.

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            Well, it is a valid argument. Since women are often uncomfortable around men they don’t know, it does seem fair to give them an option to avoid male Lyft drivers. What if someone is uncomfortable with a black driver? It is a similar situation.

            Honestly, if I were a woman I would possibly use this feature. Personal safety goes above any moral ideals that I may be tooting around. That’s why I’m kind of split about this. People should be able to feel as safe and comfortable as possible, but male drivers shouldn’t feel like they’re less preferred by a portion of Lyft’s users.

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              You’re talking in circles. The problem is because men are the largest perpetrator, well also being the biggest benefactor of being a man. They are literally on both ends. Women on the other hand are largely targeted by men for crimes of various sorts, well also not benefiting from the patriarchy.

              Hell they have to have separate train cars for women in japan because men can’t keep their hands to themselves.

              There is nothing societal that benefits black drivers. That’s exactly the point. There is no equity here. If I’m a black driver, chances are I’m already on the back foot. People might cancel their rides once they see me, or bring cops into play and have other violence brought against me. Remember that one black dude in Central Park who was bird watching and had a woman start accusing him of stuff.

              Don’t put women further on the back foot. Don’t put persons of color on the back foot. Cis white men already have the advantage in so many ways.

              It’s not funny anymore.

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        Higher risk for woman of being abused does not mean that for man of being abused is 0.

        I don’t understand why if something bad is more propably to happed to woman we make special exception in the rules just to exclude man of this protection.

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          Since most men are abused by other men, letting men choose to be matched with more male drivers would actually increase their risk of getting abused.

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          Generally there is an underlying concept of “being more evenly matched”. On average women do face more risk of being physically outmatched by men. If another woman became aggressive then their chances of coming out of the altercation would be more “fair” when matching like with like. If you’ve ever been in a good natured but honest wrestling match with the opposite sex you can usually see the power difference and the results can be pretty sobering to a female participant. These dynamics apply to social situations. If you are afraid of the outsized potential of harm someone has towards you then you are more or less forced to behave in an oppressed fashion if they choose to be a jerk because sticking up for yourself comes with the potential of a threat you are not equipped to come out on top of.

          The chance of a woman being abused by another woman is also not zero but the level of threat is more on par with what they are physically and psychologically equipped to combat.

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            You explained that woman are in higher risk. But you did not explain why because woman are in higher risk we should only protect them and not everyone, even if protecting everyone would be less costly.

            Creating UI to select driver’s sex is easier than verifing your sex and then if you’re woman showing an option. This is active work hours to disallow man from a protection.

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              Facilitating allowing the sex or gender selection of a service person at a company is generally illegal because it is a discriminatory work practice. There is however some flexibility to be made that keeps the company safe from greater liability when it is in the interest of safety for women because safety issues on a systemic scale are provable in a court of law.

              If anything you should probably be arguing for more services - maybe a safe driver selection based on years of safe driving and spotless customer record which would potentially benefit those with social anxiety or previous trauma. More than one service can exist at the same time after all.

              When you argue for a service to be removed from a vulnerable group because of personal spite usually the reaction isn’t favorable. You’d be better off directing that energy somewhere positive than spending on sour grapes.

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              How many times have you been assaulted or abused by a woman? Because almost every single woman I know can count the multiple times they’ve been abused or sexually assaulted by a man. Just because everyone is capable doesn’t mean everyone is equally likely to commit these crimes.

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                1. Group A is far more likely to be abused.
                2. We develop a tool to prevent abuse.
                3. We deny the tool to group B that sometimes needs it, because group A needs it more.

                I’m not denying 1., stop assuming I do with cheap arguments like “How many times have you been abused?”. Yes, woman are more likely to be sexual victims.

                But my question is why doing 3.? For Lyft it costs basically the same if not less when allowing the feature generally to everyone.

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                  I just don’t see the necessity of it considering the overwhelming majority of drivers are already male. This feature is trying to even out the odds of women getting picked up by other women which just isn’t very likely right now.

                  To seriously answer your question though, this is a marketing tactic to get more business from women who they can see use the app less than men. They’re a business at the end of the day and it’s a way they’re predicting, whether correct or not, to increase sales.

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          Not proportionally though. If the service is less safe for women and non-binary people, then fewer of those people will make full use of the service. So either way, the male drivers probably aren’t getting their custom. The safety features increase the size of the rider pool even as they might exclude some riders from some drivers. Women and non-binary drivers might take over the additional riders, but those drivers might have previously been driving men who are now left for male drivers to pick up. The overall impact to male drivers isn’t as bad as just losing those opportunities.

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        Yeah because only men can use knives and guns, or be physically strong, or choke someone.

        I’m so sick of sexist bullshit like this. Women can be strong, too. Women can be capable of things, too. It’s insulting of you to insinuate otherwise.

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          Oh fuck off with this disingenuous bullshit. I’m a man and have never had to feel intimidated taking a taxi or Uber.

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            Maybe as a male passenger, you want to avoid any possibility of being accused of being intimidating.

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            Lmao you calling me disingenuous is fucking hilarious. Fuck off with your thinly veiled sexist beliefs and bullshit virtue signaling.

            As if getting in a vehicle with any stranger isn’t always intimidating to some extent.

            In case you missed the memo, we’re striving for gender equality, not whatever the fuck you’re peddling.

            People like you are literally the problem. You are literally why sexist bullshit like this is allowed to happen. People like you are why no one takes men seriously when they are sexually assaulted, or being abused by their SO.

            Just fucking stop.

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              In case you missed the fucking memo, I am a white man. Look at my post history. Same username on other social media.

              You’re unhinged.

              It’s not sexist or discriminatory to give Lyft customers a choice of driver gender.

              That’s the free market at work, bitch.

              So people like me saying customers should have a choice of gender is why no one takes male abuse seriously? You need to have your head examined.

              If you hate women, just say you hate women.
              You could at least try to hide the incel talking points you’re parroting.

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                “I am a white man” you’re loud, obnoxious, misogynistic, and opinionated in matters you clearly know nothing about. You’re the worst, most stereotypical iteration of a white man.

                “It’s not sexist or discriminatory to give Lyft customers [the choice to discriminate based on sex]” I don’t think I even need to say anything about this idiocy.

                “That the free market at work, bitch” Sexist language, name-calling, and a complete lack of understanding of what the phrase “free market” means.

                “So people like me saying customers should have a choice of gender” Lmao thats not at all what you’re tring to say, even you don’t understand what point you’re trying to make.

                “If you hate women, just say you hate women. You could at least try to hide the incel talking points you’re parroting.” Projection.

                You’re unhinged.

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                  Lol so “I know you are but what am I,” “you don’t know what point you’re trying to make,” and “I don’t even think I need to say anything about this idiocy” is all you’ve got?

                  We can see your shitty strawman comments about how men have to fear false accusations. You can stop pretending you’re not an incel. Don’t bother replying to me with that weak-ass nothing-burger of a comment.

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          Sure they can be. Anyone can be a strong asshole. But history has shown men are most commonly the aggressor and disproportionately towards women than other men. Stop being a cry baby and correct men you see who are fucked up.

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            Sure they can be. Anyone can be a strong asshole. But history has shown men blacks are most commonly the aggressor and disproportionately towards women than other men. Stop being a cry baby and correct men you see who are fucked up.

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              Excellent point, well made.

              The people downvoting you are too stupid to realize they’re agreeing with you.

              In case you’re one of those people, their point is that these exact same arguments you’re all making against men have been made against different groups all throughout history and used to justify some genuinely abhorrent behavior. In hindsight, we realize how horrible this behavior was. Most of us try to learn from history, some people just go right back to screeching hate as soon as they can.

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      (numbers pulled out of my ass, but…)

      99% of men don’t need it so won’t use it. 99% of the remainder will use it to find a target to harass. Whoever is left might miss out on a great feature, but they’re barely a rounding error.

      Personally, I’d love a feature that let me pick a driver that would just shut up.

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        Maybe a gay man feels more comfortable with men driving… it’s not that crazy…

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        Getting shot, stabbed, robbed, beaten, choked, ganged up on, sexually assaulted. Weird, the exact same list that women have to fear.

        Oh except men also have to worry about being falsely accused of sexual misconduct, having their names put on the sex offender registry and the entire rest of their lives ruined because no one will believe them.

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          Choosing the gender of the driver won’t give men any more safety, but it will make a lot of difference for women.

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          Getting shot, stabbed, robbed, beaten, choked, ganged up on, sexually assaulted. Weird, the exact same list that women have to fear.

          Lmao this is just categorically false, and there’s so much fucking data to prove it. I’ve never once felt threatened that a woman would do any of these things to me, but I definitely have feltoke other men would.

          Oh except men also have to worry about being falsely accused of sexual misconduct, having their names put on the sex offender registry and the entire rest of their lives ruined because no one will believe them.

          While is sadly true, it’s so much less common than sexual misconduct happening to women. It’s so rare in fact that this has never been a fear of mine because I treat every person I meet with respect and I know for a fact that I’m not a creep. Same goes for all of my male friends. If you have a fear that this may happen to you, I think you need to reassess how you interact with women. I would be willing to bet that things you do to women you see as innocent flirting or something when in reality it makes those women extremely uncomfortable.

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            “Lmao this is just categorically false” I’m sorry, are you saying women are incapable of wielding a knife? Or pulling a trigger on a gun?

            “I’ve never once felt threatened that a woman would do any of these things” Oh well if you personally have never experienced such a thing, it must not ever happen to anyone.

            /S

            You clearly have no idea what you’re talking about. Just fuck off.

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              “I’ve never once felt threatened that a woman would do any of these things” Oh well if you personally have never experienced such a thing, it must not ever happen to anyone.

              Have you looked up how little this happens to men compared to women? Unprovoked, it’s almost non-existent. Again, if you’re being threatening to women then I’m not surprised this happens to you.

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                Your attempts at attacking my character only demonstrate how incapable you are of making a genuine point.

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            Ummm excuse me I have never felt threatened by a man, so why are women complaining?

            Also, are you going to use 13/90 as an excuse to be racist too?

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              Ummm excuse me I have never felt threatened by a man, so why are women complaining?

              Wait are seriously asking that?

              Also, are you going to use 13/90 as an excuse to be racist too?

              “Too” as in sexist? Why is it sexist to point out the reality that women are disproportionately violently assaulted by men than men are by women? And what does that have to do with race?

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    That’s really bullshit. This result will be that every male drivers will become non binary to not be discriminated by the customers.

    This is not because some suffer that it is correct to punish an entire gender for that.

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    I’m just here for my popcorn and comment entertainment. Which did not disappoint

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    Cool, now both Lyft and Uber need a “no extra conversation” option too. I don’t want to talk to the driver when I use rideshares, I hate the incessant small talk they want me to be a part of. I know some people might like it or at the very least not mind it, but I absolutely can’t stand it 9 times out of 10. Give me the option to specifically not have it please.

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      Last time I used Uber I remember seeing this feature as an option.

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        Wow, was not aware although after just looking it up, evidently it is only for ‘premium’ rides and not standard. As if having someone not talk to you should cost extra. 🙄