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We’ve got 1 car. If I need to go somewhere and the wife has it, I get the bus. It’s a lot cheaper than owning 2 cars.
Do you ever run into issues with the bus taking a lot longer, and you not accounting for the extra time if your wife take the car? Where I live, 15-20 minute car rides are often 35-45 minute bus rides, and the bus comes half an hour.
Not really. I just leave at the time needed to get to work on time for whatever mode I’m using. It’s about 8 miles, and before COVID it was usually quicker to cycle than sit in traffic. Now there’s less traffic so cycling takes a bit longer than car, but not much. Bus is about the same as cycling.
I’m 57 and not hugely fit, but I can cycle 8 miles each way without any problem. Takes 30-35 minutes depending on wind direction.
That’s fantastic if your city offers busses! Or public transportation at all 😭
Bikes are comparatively free
I have a hard time accepting that everyone should have their own vehicle in the first place.
This entire post will age poorly if we ever transition out of this incredibly self-indulgent and wasteful period of human civilization.
We should have walkable neighborhoods, mass transit of gleaming efficiency, bike lanes as priority, we should be encouraging socializing and creating spaces for people to gather that aren’t profit-driven, but with plans to create comfort and recreation to better the people and foster a sense of belonging to a community. It’s absurd we all live in places with lots of people but have no sense of belonging to a community. This goes against literally millions of years of our own evolutionary history. We NEED community to function and have healthy minds.
I mean, it’s not likely to happen. But maybe when the next great apocalyptic event happens the survivors can try to remake things with a little more planning. After the whole period of darkness and cannibalism of course.
We should have walkable neighborhoods, mass transit of gleaming efficiency, bike lanes as priority, we should be encouraging socializing and creating spaces for people to gather that aren’t profit-driven, but with plans to create comfort and recreation to better the people and foster a sense of belonging to a community.
Not everyone wants to be packed like sardines. That’s the beauty of individualism. You might think this sounds like some sort of utopia, but to me this sounds like hell.
The suburban hellscape that is most residential coded zones is far, far more sardine-like than what I’m describing, which is an environment far more like many cities in Europe that evolved to be, and have been maintained as walkable cities. The reason you’re repulsed by the idea of urban environments is specifically because you’re used to American residential areas that are hard, brutal and packed next to busy highways and multi-lane avenues that are constantly packed with people trying to get to and from work, with huge parking lots that act like hot deserts in the sun, with sprawl and noise and pollution and no good reason to leave your sardine can because there’s nowhere to get to within 30 minutes of walking except more sardine cans.
If a neighborhood is designed to be walkable, you will have condos and apartments and medium to high-density living spaces, sure, but you will have an entirely different aesthetic and atmosphere around it so it feels more welcoming, and encourages community.
If you’re opposed to community entirely, that’s your prerogative, there are still vast, vast tracts of land across the world you can live in and be left alone, and that’s fine. My comment isn’t addressing that lifestyle, because for MOST people, cities represent opportunity, safety and essential services. We can’t look down at the vast bulk of humanity who want to live around other people just because you yourself are bothered by your own memories and experiences of city life.
what’s next? joint bank accounts?
Not in my country!
(Seriously, though, Japan doesn’t do joint bank accounts).
Women voting?
Dogs and cats, living together!
My partner and I have joint financial accounts, but it still would be weird to us to take whatever car.
Why? Is it weird to use whatever plate or fork? What about couch cushions? Umbrellas?
I see cars as tools, so there’s not “my car” and “their car,” but “the small car” (hybrid w/ great gas mileage) and “the big car” (minivan). Before we had kids, we only had one car, and if we needed to be in different places, I would ride my bike, walk, or take the bus. That almost never happened, and it wasn’t a big deal when it did.
Plates, forks, cushions, and umbrellas are not typically as personalized as a car.
And my argument is that cars should likewise not be personalized. They’re tools.
Okay, but you started with “why?”, that’s the question I was answering.
Yup, that’s how we do it. We have kids and two cars: minivan and hybrid sedan. The hybrid gets more than 2x the mileage vs the minivan, it’s smaller, and both of us prefer it, so it’s what we use 90% of the time. We take the minivan if we’re all going somewhere, or we both need to be somewhere at the same time. I’ll also take the minivan for cargo (hardware store, dump, furniture store, etc).
Before we had kids, we had one car. When we both needed to be somewhere at the same time, I’d take my bicycle or the bus, and my SO would take the car.
Each person having “their” car makes no sense to me, I see cars as tools in the toolbox, and we take the one that’s best suited to the task at hand.
Who wants.to adjust the seat and mirrors every time they drive?
Maybe they just hit a button (1, 2)
I love my wife, she can’t drive for shit though, nor does she respect vehicle maintenence, much less asthetic care.
Nope.
Also, she’s literally told me she’d be afraid to drive my car precisely because I keep it so nice and she doesn’t want to be responsible for fucking it up.
Why are there so many question marks??? That’s not how questions work??????
I can’t even entertain this premise. There’s no way neither of them has a preference…
Maybe they just have 2 of the same cars lol
Personally, I’d still have a favorite…
Nothing spices up a marriage like Communism.
Boutta seize the means of reproduction. Hammer that ass, and sickle those tiddies. Stand in a bread line to put a bun in the oven. It’s OUR orgasm, comrade
Poetry, absolute poetry
Wow what a couple of freaks. I bet they probably even sleep in the same bed. Who tf does stuff like that. This is the biggest scandal that has ever been posted on lemmy.
Yeah, but they almost certainly have their own “side” of the bed. What kind of monsters wouldn’t?
This is an excellent follow up question to OP
Anyone else have to make sure she didn’t sneak a dick in her mouth?
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My wife and I do this. We both have broncos. What you would call “mine” is a 2 door mostly used for off-roading and I leave the top off a lot. Hers is the 4 door luxury version with all the fancy things.
We take whichever depending on the situation. We will take mine if it’s nice and we want the top off or we have to park in a shitty parking lot, being 2 door it’s much easier to navigate. We take hers for long trips since she has the radar cruise control and lane assist and much better gas mileage.
There are wealthy families usually from over seas. 3 brothers will buy a mansion together they will all live there with their wives, they all help each other and they buy 2 regular cars and a luxury car that they all share. They look at us Americans like we are crazy and I gotta say they kinda have a point.
Are the (unnumbered) wives allowed to drive in this 3 brothers owned mansion usually?
I have witnessed this with indian american families and south american families here in the US. They live together and the thought of not living with their siblings and parents is foreign to them. One wife deal and in the US, yes they can drive the cars.
Insurance and ownership papers here generally require a primary owner here, at least on paper
Propertarians have small minds.
